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Postby Tracey S » Sat Nov 29, 2003 10:15 am

Just quickie to say after 11.5 weeks the post mortem is back and my thoughts on our baby were confirmed - a baby boy - I was gutted but pleased - all very weird - have really wanted a boy (though would have been pleased with a girl)<br>We have called him OLIVER so we can now try and move on. We have to make an appointment to see the specialist for the results but I am gathering (hope I am right) that it is not genetic (phew) so was one of those things or something very wrong with him that is unlikely to happen again. Let's hope I deduced right (the specialist said I would have nothing to worry about)<br>We can now arrange funeral etc before xmas but as you can imagine has opened up wounds again.<br>Love to all<br>Tracey<br>xxx
ttc 9 years. 38 yrs old, dh 8 hrs younger!First IVF in Aug 2002 and had ectopic.2nd IVF neg.3rd FET and negative.4th FET and positive but sadly lost our little boy at 20 weeks.5th FET and Alice Isobel and Emily Charlotte born 5th Aug 2004!
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Postby Alison » Sat Nov 29, 2003 1:11 pm

Hi Tracey - I wanted to reply to your post but am not sure quite what to say! I'm glad though that you've finally got the results back. I hope it is some comfort to know that losing Oliver was a one-off that is unlikely to happen again, although I guess that that must make the "why did this happen to me?" question even harder to answer.<br><br>Take care and keep strong, love<br><br>Alison
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Postby Grace » Sat Nov 29, 2003 4:54 pm

Tracey<br>Alison is right about the "why" question it just seems impossible to understand. I lit a candle for baby Oliver today. Am thinking of you and DH very specially at the moment. Will talk soon.<br>Love<br><br>Gracexxxx
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Postby fi » Sat Nov 29, 2003 6:05 pm

tracey,<br><br>wishing yo lots of strength to get through the next few weeks, it will be a tough one,<br>thinking of you,<br>luv and hugs <br>fi<br>XXX
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Postby Traci » Sun Nov 30, 2003 10:04 am

It was great to chat to you the other day , I too have lit a candel for Oliver and as I said he will guide you through anything you have to deal with in the future. Not good at typing sad words :( <br><br>Love to you Both<br>Trace x
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Postby Natalie100 » Mon Dec 01, 2003 11:35 am

Tracey<br><br>I havent spoke to you before but I am aware of your terrible loss, its hard to know what to say, but I wish you and dh the very best for the future whatever you decide, and special prayers to Oliver.<br><br>Natxx
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Postby Lorraine » Mon Dec 01, 2003 2:41 pm

Dear Tracey<br>What a very sad and strange time for you. <br>It must be such a relief to have the PM results at last, and how bittersweet that you finally get to name your baby. <br>Only now do you really know WHO you have lost. But perhaps it will be 'easier' now to grieve - now that you know it is little Oliver who you have loved and lost. <br>My heart is heavy for you and your family. <br>Wishing you peace at this time.<br>Best wishes from <br>Lorraine
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Postby Dawn » Thu Dec 04, 2003 12:01 am

Oh Tracey<br><br>Just logged on and saw your message about little Oliver.<br>Bless all 3 of you.<br>Just wanted to say that my heart goes out<br>to you-what a long wait you've had to find out.<br><br>I am thinking of you.<br><br>Luv Dawnx<br><br><br><br><br><br>
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Postby ogr1 » Sat May 22, 2004 10:35 pm

tracey i am so sorry that i wasnt here for you.

i am sorry, the tears are comming now. damn i wish i had some words
we may never meet but i know that our children are playing together
we werent blessed with our babies to raise here but we our blessed with our grandaughter
and all of our many adopted and foster children that touch our lives
and i am glad to add that our 6th grandchild will be born this spring!!!!
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Postby Tracey S » Tue May 25, 2004 3:33 pm

Becky

Thank you for replying - don't apologize there is no need and you were with me in spirit..................how time moves on and I still think of him everyday and look at his photo. Though I am pg with twins I still feel very cheated that he was taken - hope that does not sound selfish and ungrateful.

I wish you and everyone on here the opportunity to find your dreams - the first choice I know is not always possible for so many reasons so I wish you find peace in happiness in whatever paths you choose.
Love
Tracey
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