Well today was Scott's funeral - a really sucky day. The nurses from the hospital came (they are the best).
toobee - thanks for researching this topic too. Makes me feel better that I am not the only one that can't find anything about this on the internet. Also, I did put a post in the "Babies - Loved and Lost" section - its topic is "Remembering 'Scott Harris' ".
Valerie68 - thanks for checking with your mom. I am also over 40 and after talking to my mom I realize that back then there was a lot of information that was just not given to the patients/mothers.
Warren Dew- I agree that the main concern was the placement of the placenta and not the size. But, now that I have had this problem, I am searching for a test/anything that could be used to help determine the size. The umbilical cord did not seem to be an issue. My Dr. told us that it could be that, but after delivery it looked OK (measured 58 cm.). Also, I had 3 veins (not 2) so there was no reason to "suspect" that the flow was not normal. The Dr. that they will definitely monitor that next time - even if I have 3 veins again. Also, throughout the entire pregnancy I never felt "kicking". I would feel twists/turns and pressure, but no strong kicking. But, every time we did the ultrasound he was call our little acrobatic because it always took the tech awhile to get measurements because he was moving so much - I just could never feel it that strongly. Also, Scott was not underdeveloped in any part of his body. He weighted about 5 lbs. and was 20 in. in length. He looked like a "normal" healthy baby except he was not breathing.
My REAL fear right now is never getting pregnant again. My
DH keeps telling my not to worry, but how can't I. I am 42 and we were blessed with getting pregnant with the first round of IVF when I was 41 (a miracle in itself). We got married a week before my 40th b-day and spent the first year trying naturally, then clomid, and 3 rounds of IUI. So, now to have gotten this far and to loose the baby is extremely scary for me. I have already gone back to the fertility clinic and saw them (and cried with them for awhile) and we all want to start again ASAP. But, I want to know if there is anything I can do or any test the Dr. can do so this does not happen again.
Also, please don't think that I am rational right now - currently I don't want to go to my niece's birthday in January (it would be the first time they would have meet Scott) because my SIL's sister just had a baby and they will be there (how terrible is that).
Thanks for listening/helping,
Tracy