Ok, so Valentines day my husband and I went out to a dance at a catering hall. At one point during the night I had to go to the bathroom and one of the women sitting with us went with me.
In the bathroom, the woman I was sitting with asked if I was ok coming down all the steps we had just come down and I was honest with her and said that it wasn't as easy as I would like it to be, she commented that it must be so much harder carrying 2 babies then it was carrying just one and I agreed with her.
Well, just then a voice from the great beyhond (one of the stalls) yells out. "WAIT!! DON'T GO ANYWHERE!!!"
The girl and I looked at eachother with frowns and now I'm thinking "oh great, what kind of nut did I attract to myself now?"
So the voice comes out of the stall, a woman in her 40's, looks at me and says
"Your having twins?"
I say yes and the next thing out of this incredibly rude persons mouth is the typical bull.
"Was it natural or fertility?"
I just looked at her and wanted to say all kinds of stuff but I bit my tongue and just said that they where naturally mine.
Why do people think it's ok to ask if I can have sex with my husband and concieve his children or not? Why do they think it's ok to ask such personal questions and not even blink at the fact that how my children are made are none of their business?
I'm not ashamed that I had to go through what I went through for my boys and if I knew that anyone was having problems I would gladly share the wealth of knowledge I've accumulated as far as infertility goes, but I'm so tired of constantly being asked in a round about way about my bedroom habits and rather or not I or my husband "work" properly.
And besides that there's other rude stuff people have to say, like whe I say we're expecting twins, a few people have said "better you then me" or "I'm glad their yours and not mine"
Now I know this my not bother some of you ladies, but it's really starting to irritate me especially when my husband brought up the fact that because we're having twins and they're such a novelty so to speak, we're going to get stared at where ever we go and the boys are going to get fussed over more then a single baby would because they're twins.
Which brought me to the conclusion that I'm probably going to get asked these rude questions for the the rest of my life when I'm out with them or when I mention that I'm a twin mother.
What do you ladies think and how do you respond to these questions?
Any advice would be great as I'm gearing myself up to answer with things like "We had sex twice in one night, that's how we got twins" or "Oh, you want to share stories how our children where concieved? I'm in!! You first." and my favorite, "My husband has a HUGE sperm count and a super long *&^% to deliver the load, that's how our twins got here, anything else you'd like to know?"
I'm actually looking forward to all the shocked faces and appologies.
Me: Liz, 29 (Healthy)DH: Tom, 28 (Male factor)
IVF#2: BFP (m/c @ 14weeks)
IVF#3: BFP Twin Boys, born 3/23/09