shantala wrote:OMG ladies....i soooo understand! especially vicky with the "you're so young, you have plenty of time"!!!!!!!!!!! my favourite! NOT!!!! i'm 24 now and we started ivf when i was 22 (or was it 21) but regardless of age, the thoughts in my head were, whether i'm 21 or 41, will i ever have my own baby??? what if it never happens? etc....and age has nothing to do with that! aw, a really insensitive comment....a couple i can add to....
"if you just relax, it'll happen".....an all time favourite that i bet 90% of women have heard on here!
i was at work and a work colleague who was on maternity leave popped in with her baby...after she left i was fairly upset and went to a lady who knew we were doing ivf (who has children) with an upset face...she just looked at me and said "they do grow up, you know!".....what?
another one was that i was at work and two friends were talking about one of their daughters who has 2 children and unfortunately found out she had cancer. she had to have chemo and therefore could no longer have children. they were talking about her as she (the daughter) retrospectively wished she had frozen some of her eggs as she may have wanted more children (in addition to her 2). so i said something along the lines of "it's great that she has 2 already" and one of them turned around and said to me "yes, but it must be harder for someone who already has children to find out she can no longer have children as she knows what she's missing".....OMFG!!!!
i know there were many more comments where you feel like you've just been punched in the face but can't remember any other ones right now. a lovely lady who used to come on here used to say that you have to learn to put your shit shield up sometimes....thought that was a nice way of trying to cope with it.
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