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Preterm Labor at 21.5 wks

Postby Rosario » Wed Nov 04, 2009 6:56 am

Gave birth to three beautiful babies. Two girls and a little boy. Sunday will be a month since they came into this world. My girls lived for 1.5 hrs and my little boy lived for over 3 hrs. Everything seems to get harder as the days go by. I miss them terribly and feel useless for not being able to bring them back to life. I often get frustrated knowing I can't turn back time. I loved him without knowing them and my heart breaks knowing they are not here with me.

RIP: Naomi, Sabith & Manuel 10/08/09
IVF #1: Oct '08- BFN
IVF #2: Feb '09- BFP (Chem)
IVF #3: May '09- BFP
(Triplets lost at 21.5 weeks- Preterm Labor)
BFP: Natural Pregnancy March '10
Little Frank Manuel arrived 11.20.10
June '11 natural BFP sadly ending in miscarriage :(
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Postby gi » Wed Nov 04, 2009 12:03 pm

Oh Rosario my heart is breaking for you and dh, i am in tears thinking of the pain you are going thro. i can only imagine a fraction of it as i had my d&c last wk at 12 wks but lost babies heartbeat at 10 wks, this is our 2nd loss in 5 months. As bad as a m/c is to go thro. pre term labour and actually get to hold your little babies for just a few short hrs must be heartbreaking. My cousin & wife gave birth to full term baby last who died 23 hrs later and it was heartbreaking...always will be.
Nothing i can say will make you feel better but you have been in my thoughts and prayers since i read your news. I see ye are going again shortly and i will pray that you go on to have a healthy little baby, i know you cant replace the little angels you have lost but it will bring you the joy and happiness you deserve and fill that empty gap.

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Postby souris » Tue Nov 10, 2009 11:12 am

Oh Rosario,

I also lost my 3 babies, last Thursday at 21 weeks.
There were healthy but my cervix started to open the week before. I only managed to keep them for 4 days before I went into labour.
I had 1 girl Eva and two boys, Louis and Michel.
I cant explain the pain, the guilt, the anger.
I hope that time will heal our hearts, I hope our babies did not suffer.
I hope they are in a better place...

Did the doctor explained why you went into preterm labour? they said maybe my cervix was weak because of 3 D&C i had previously. I dont know if i will ever be capable of carrying a fullterm pregnancy. At the moment all I want is hold my babies in my arms, they were beautiful. They will be cremated at the end of the week, I dont think there is something more painful than losing a child...
Me 27, DH 55
04/ 05 ICSI -tive 02/06 ICSI. No fertilisation
09/ 06 ICSI. BFP!!! M/C at 12 weeks.04/07 ? ICSI -tive
04/08 ICSI BFP!!! M/C at 12 weeks
Feb 09 6th ICSI has started! neg
June 09 7th ICSI. Please make it happen!!
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Postby gi » Tue Nov 10, 2009 12:05 pm

Souris,

I just had to post when i saw your message, i dont know if you remember me but you wrote me a lovely message on the ivf site after i had my 2nd miscarriage and told me of your long journey....you gave me so much hope. I am absolutley devasted for you and dh and your 3 precious little angels, i cant imagine the pain ye are experiencing but please know you are all in my thoughts and prayers . Life is so cruel and sometimes you wonder how many knocks can you really take. I hope you and Rosario pull thro. this very difficult time, your little angels will never be forgotten.
I will light candles for both you and Rosario xxxxx

Take care,

gi xxx
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Postby arrojulnic » Wed Nov 25, 2009 12:58 am

Dear Rosario,
Im so sorry to hear of your loss, last wednesday 11/11/09 at 1:34 am i delivered my little girl at only 18 weeks. She was my little IVF miracle and I am devastated. The Dr. says I have an incompetent cervix.... My GOD how horrible to have a defective cervix of all things, I feel useless and Im afraid I failed my baby by not helping her to stay inside of me. Its been 13 days, she was cremated and I picked up her remains today. Today was a very sad day. Im filled with grief and since this is my first pregnancy Im also very afraid of trying again. Im still bleeding with light cramps after 13 days and am really worried that maybe it should have stopped by now? I had a D&C after the delivery to remove a stubborn placenta, did you have one too? My daughter was absolutely beautiful and healthy. I know your babies were absolutely beautiful too and I pray for them and for you to find some sense of peace, no matter how tough it is. I hope I can find some peace too.
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Re: Preterm Labor at 21.5 wks

Postby leorira11 » Mon Apr 19, 2010 1:21 pm

I lost my little girl and little boy (twins) at 22 weeks in December.

It's so unfair that after all we have been through to get pregnant, we can only have our children for a few short minutes...
8 IVF+6 FET=6 BFN+8 BFP =

-b/g twins 22w (12.09)
-mc 10w (9.10)
-Micha (7.19-24.11) & Asaf (7.19-28.11) born at 24w
-mc 5wk (2.12)
-no HB at 18w (10.12)
-BO (4.13)-
-mc 6wk (9.13)

last attempt - donor sperm - baby girl born healthy July 2014
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Re: Preterm Labor at 21.5 wks

Postby angelaezra » Tue Apr 20, 2010 9:45 pm

Rosario, Gi, Souris, Arrojulnic, Leorira – I am so sorry to read of your experiences. I too have lost several children in the past and I know the heartache that you feel. I have my good days and my bad days! After I lost my daughter Ashley at 21 weeks, I thought I just couldn’t go on … it was so very difficult.

I want you to know that although we will never know why we lost our children, they will always be with us. I will be praying for every single one of you!

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Re: Preterm Labor at 21.5 wks

Postby karenthescorpio » Sun Jul 04, 2010 3:27 am

Hi ladies Yesterday I lost my twin girls, Lillian and Reagan, due to preterm labor at 23 1/2 weeks. It came on very fast...within 6 hours from feeling something was off to delivery by 12:30AM. It couldn't be stopped or slowed down even with the meds they gave me. They were too underdeveloped to survive but were developing perfectly for their age. I had no idea how much preterm labor is unpredictable and in my case gave no warning until I started to feel very slight contractions/cramping everyone 15 minutes at 6:30pm yesterday. I didn't even have a back ache. God bless you all who have lost your babies. My little girls, Lillian and Reagan, are in heaven now. I feel so empty and I can't stop crying. I'm home now and sitting here staring at the reminents of my pregnant belly and not feeling them inside is nearly enough to stop my heart. I'm so sad and heart broken. I didn't know a person could hurt this much.
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Re: Preterm Labor at 21.5 wks

Postby angelaezra » Sun Jul 04, 2010 2:53 pm

karenthescorpio wrote:Hi ladies Yesterday I lost my twin girls, Lillian and Reagan, due to preterm labor at 23 1/2 weeks. It came on very fast...within 6 hours from feeling something was off to delivery by 12:30AM. It couldn't be stopped or slowed down even with the meds they gave me. They were too underdeveloped to survive but were developing perfectly for their age. I had no idea how much preterm labor is unpredictable and in my case gave no warning until I started to feel very slight contractions/cramping everyone 15 minutes at 6:30pm yesterday. I didn't even have a back ache. God bless you all who have lost your babies. My little girls, Lillian and Reagan, are in heaven now. I feel so empty and I can't stop crying. I'm home now and sitting here staring at the reminents of my pregnant belly and not feeling them inside is nearly enough to stop my heart. I'm so sad and heart broken. I didn't know a person could hurt this much.


Karen - I am speechless. I am so very sorry. I am going to send you my information. Please contact me if you need to.

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