I am so sorry to hear your story. What a difficult time you have had. You clearly are such a strong woman! First, to leave that abusive marriage. And then, to survive such a long infertility/IVF ordeal. Hold your head up high! You are clearly amazing.
I am sorry that you haven't yet been blessed with a child. I know how painful that is--I don't know your specific pain, but I know how it is once you finally find your soul mate, to have challenges in completing that union with a child. I don't know the specifics of your issues--but there are lots of paths to parenthood....I hope that one is realized for you.
60-70% is pretty good odds, I'd say! Would this be your first try with donor eggs? As you can see from my signature, my journey hasn't been as long as yours, but I have had quite a time. The first cycle nearly killed me--literally. I was in and out of the hospital for 7 weeks with severe OHSS, then C-Diff on top of it--only to find out that my pregnancy was ectopic. Twins that were in my tube and in my ovary. How on earth could that happen with IVF? I'll never fully understand. And then-despite being treated with methotrexate, my tube ruptured. I could have bled to death--I was so weak and had just been discharged from the hospital. Then after 10 months to recover, we tried again--at a very insensitive clinic I had a negative result, and then a miscarriage at 9 weeks. It has been a hard journey and one that few of my friends and family can understand. They say the most insensitive things--but mean well.
Whatever path you choose to take--IVF with donor eggs, IVF with your own eggs, adoption, surrogate, there are lots of paths to parenthood....I truly hope that you are soon blessed. Continue to be strong. And hold onto that sweet loving man whatever you do. Don't let this pain affect your marriage.
And forget about that brut of a 1st husband....oooow I wish I could tell him a thing or two!
Bullying you and then turning around and pretending that he "had" to give in? Give me a break! The man is a total idiot! Don't let him and his wife get you down...actually, she is likely quite miserable with him would be my guess. You are so much better for putting him to the curb and moving on with your life.
I know that the holidays bring such a mixture of emotions. But try to focus on the positive spirit and joy in all the wonderful gifts that you have. Your loving husband for one.
You will find this board to be filled with the strongest, most supportive women. I don't think I would have the strength or courage to try IUI (going "backwards" or as my last clinic said, "0% chance") without them. They convinced me after my "last" try with IVF to find another clinic and have a consultation before I gave up. I am so glad I did. In 10 days I will know if this cycle is the
cycle for me.
And I am full of hope!! Please join us!!
Sending you positive energy. I hope I didn't say anything to offend. I am sending all of this with love.
Me: 44, endo. & 1 tube due to rupture
DH 36 fine
IVF#1 double ectopic/severe OHSS 12/08
IUI#1, #2, and #3, 2010 BFN
IVF#4-2/11 HPT=BFP 11dpo; 13dpo=240! 15dpo=653, 20dpo=5522,3/29=u/s-1sac1yolk 4/4=2 HBs!