Hi Pebbles,
Wow congratulations on your two precious children. I know adoption is in itself a blessing, because so many kids out there desperately need us! My question is did you go through an adoption agency with legal paperwork? I hear it can be rather expensive but might vary from state to state? I did talk to my
dh about adoption last Spring, but could not convince him that it would be a good idea. I knew a customer who had a teenage sister (7 months pregnant) who was needing to give her baby up for adoption and everything would be set for last July. I even had a picture of the young girl, but when I went over this with my
dh he listened for a moment but turned my idea down saying there are too many red flags and started giving me many reasons... afraid of the biological parents changing their mind, other factors such as medical history, that we know nothing about this girl. But deep down, he is really wanting this to be his biological child. I was just devastiated and all I knew I could do was just pray that something would happen. Well the very next day after
dh birthday, I decided to take a
hpt, and when I got out of the shower I looked down and hollered from the bathroom for him to get in here. We both were so shocked and that week alone my emotions were like a rollercoaster.
After the miscarriage, we tried naturally for 3 months and then decided to leap for IVF just desperate for something to happen before Christmas since that was our original due date. Did I mention my sister-in-law and I were only one week apart? She also did IVF but respectfully has so many things going on with a cyst on an ovary and endomet. I'm so happy for them, but at the same time miss getting to experience the whole thing with her.
We though IVF was our best resort to make something happen, but now I'm realizing I cannot be in control of what happens next. We didn't even think we could ever get pregnant in the first place, but I do believe God has a special plan for each one of us and we just have to pray to find our purpose. I would also like to look at adoption again. That is certain another option if I could get my
dh on board with it.
Thank you for sharing with me.