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A sad story.. prayers needed for a friend

Postby HopeIsAllIHave » Fri Mar 04, 2011 8:39 pm

Hi everyone.

I am in tears right now as I just found out one of my friends who has been battling with scleroderma all her life just lost her baby girl at 7 months. :( She was being closely monitored every 2 weeks because of the high risk pregnancy and was even told that her chances of down's syndrome rose to 1/16 during her second geneticist appointment. Also, the risk for spina bifida had significantly increased. She was scheduled for an amniocentesis and a 4D sonogram. The tests went smoothly and it was determined that her spine was completely developed and even the amniocentesis results showed that she had no chromosomal abnormalities or genetic disorder. A few weeks later, she went in for a routine appointment accompanied by her parents because her DH could not get the time off from work. The doctor spent a few minutes trying to adjust the machine into different settings to try to find the baby girl's heartbeat. He then said, "I'm so sorry, your baby has passed away, she has no heartbeat." :( She gave birth to a stillborn baby that night. The doctors believed that it was due to lack of nutrients from the placenta because the placenta she delivered was very small in size and showed calcification. The pathologist confirmed the results. Her scleroderma had antibodies that were affecting the growth of her placenta. Upon autopsy, it was revealed that even if they had delivered her baby earlier, she would not have survived because her lungs and liver were underdeveloped. Her lungs and liver were the size of a 4 month old baby, and she lived to be 7 months.

My heart truly breaks for her. No mother should ever have to suffer a loss such as this. She is trying to stay strong and her doctors assure her that it is still possible through medication and extensive monitoring for her to have a healthy baby in the future. I thought infertility and IVF road was bad, but there are other factors out there which are equally as bad. Please pray for my dear friend to have a successful pregnancy in the future and to help her find strength during these difficult times. Thank you.
Ashley
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Re: A sad story.. prayers needed for a friend

Postby lou71 » Fri Mar 04, 2011 11:56 pm

Oh Ashley, this story made me cry. Your poor friend. I will definitely pray for her. She will have a healthy baby someday.
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Re: A sad story.. prayers needed for a friend

Postby klinger13 » Sat Mar 05, 2011 12:10 am

Oh Ashley, my heart goes out to your friend. I can't imagine how difficult that must be for her. Sending prayers her way.

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Re: A sad story.. prayers needed for a friend

Postby riogirl71 » Sat Mar 05, 2011 1:59 am

I am so sorry, my prayers are with her, what a tragedy.
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Re: A sad story.. prayers needed for a friend

Postby karenthescorpio » Mon Mar 07, 2011 2:15 pm

Will definitely say a prayer for her and her family. This is the second story I have read today among my pregnancy groups that have lost a baby/babies recently. It it truly devastating. xo
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Re: A sad story.. prayers needed for a friend

Postby HopeIsAllIHave » Tue Mar 08, 2011 10:31 pm

Thanks everyone. Your prayers definitely make a difference and are truly appreciated.
Ashley
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DH: 30 Irresistible hunk
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IVF Cycle #1: Jan '11
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EDD: 10.21.2011.
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Re: A sad story.. prayers needed for a friend

Postby angelaezra » Wed Mar 09, 2011 1:53 am

Ashley – your story about your friend is just devastating and I am sorry to say that I know how she feels. I too had to deliver my daughter Ashley because she had passed away and I do not wish that on anyone. She will go through so many phases of dealing with her loss and she really needs someone there to support and listen to her. I still grieve today for my daughter even though I finally had a successful pregnancy after trying for 10 ½ years and multiple, multiple losses. I love my daughter now so much but I always think about what if her sister was here. So yes, of course I will pray for your friend because she will have a long road to heal ahead of her. Please let her know that we are so very sorry to hear of her loss.

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Re: A sad story.. prayers needed for a friend

Postby HopeIsAllIHave » Sat Mar 12, 2011 1:59 am

Angela, so sorry to hear about your daughter's loss so late into pregnancy. I imagine the pain and suffering would never really subside. Thank you for sharing your story and am really happy to hear about the positive outcome for you at the end of this tough and challenging journey. Your prayers are truly appreciated by me and my grieving friend. Fortunately, she is blessed with a DH, family, and friends who care so much about her and her wellbeing. Thank you again!!
Ashley
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TTC since 2009
IVF Cycle #1: Jan '11
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Beta: 2/11/11: BFP!!: 133
EDD: 10.21.2011.
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Re: A sad story.. prayers needed for a friend

Postby gi » Sun Mar 13, 2011 10:11 pm

Ashley,

I am so truly sorry for your friends loss, how tragic, there will be many dark days ahead but you sound like such a supportive friend who will be shoulder to cry on. I pray they can come to terms with the loss of their little girl, they will never forget but i pray the ache eases. A cousin of mine lost their little girl last year at 40 wks but Please God she is due to deliver in a few wks after a very healthy pregnancy, there is hope and light at the end of a very dark tunnel, i will keep her and dh in my thoughts and prayers that they get thro. this.

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