hi kitty, we are similar, i did my first ivf at age 35 and it was cancelled due to poor response as i'd only made 1 follicle. ugh. not good.
2nd IVF, age 35- strongest protocal they have (450 ui gonal F daily- no suppression).. i only made 2 follies- they recommended cancelling and going to donor eggs. this was my DOR diagnosis too.. my DH also has poor morphology- 1 test was 4%, another was 1% normal forms.. also not good.
the clinic said to us "it's not worth proceeding with your eggs, unless your rich and just want to do it in order to feel better"
well we did not cancel this 2nd atttempt (although we have to pay for everything).. and i got PG. it was a miracle. heartbeat on u/s at 7 wks, measured good... m/c at 12 wks.
despite how heartbreaking this was, it gave us and the fertility clinic faith in my eggs... so onto 3rd IVF.age 36... and i took DHEA for 7 wks first (steroid in preliminary studies found to help women with diminished ovarian reserve), and i made 10 follies, 9 eggs, 5 fertilized, 4 embryos, and 1 beautiful son!
did an FET with the rest of them last year, chemical.. then omigod, i got NATURALLY pregnant.. too weird for words. now i'm 17 wks pg.
so don't give up. i've never had my AMH tested (they don't fund it in canada), but my FSH is 11.2 on day 10 (they won't do ivf if it's over 12), and my antral counts have been 8 or 7 each time.
everyone is different, but i based my decisions on "can i live with myself if i don't try again/ try harder".. and i just never could.. and for the record, we are so not wealthy.. but the debt was more bearable then looking in the mirror and not liking myself for giving up..
much luck to you!
38 yrs. DOR, TTC since '04, recommended DE but didn't listen
3 IVF's & 1 FET:
1 cancellation, 1 m/c @ 12 wks, 1 chemical, 1 miracle boy
& miracle 'natural' PG right now while waiting to cycle (WTF?)
feb 21 hb 154