riogirl71 wrote:I agree with babyluv 100% that if you lose your mind you need to walk away and leave baby safe or with DH.
The other thing I wanted to mention is about what Sonya said about moms and grandmothers. I agree that moms and grandmothers have a lot of wisdom but I also think that above all you need to follow your instincts as a mom, what you believe in and know that you are doing the best you can. Also not all moms and grandmothers have the best advice because in their days there were no car seats, and you let kids play with lead toys so there is a lot of new studies that they are not aware of. For example, my mother wanted to give honey to my 5 month old ( a big no no until they are over 1 yr), told me that SIDS did not happen after 5 months and that he could sleep in her fluffy bed with all the pillows and blankets (nonono) and wanted to give him raw egg whites at 5 mos old. So trust your instincts. And Sonya, I mean no disrespect by this, I would love to have a mom and grandmother that I could count on for advice, but they are all not made the same and I just don't want some fine women here second guessing their every move if they have a know it all mom like mine!
LOL! Rio you're totally right about some advice... just because it comes from an 'older' person does not mean it's safe... I'd never, ever give a child raw egg whites even if they were much older... and would not do the fluffy pillow thingy - never heard of honey but I trust you've read up on it.
I guess what I meant was... for instance... my SIL was a BY THE BOOK mom... and refused to take any advice whatsoever from ANYONE. Well she was nursing her 7.5 month old and that's all he was getting... because she had read that breastmilk was enough. She left the baby with my mom for an hour and mom was having lunch. I swear to gawd this is true... anyhow... mom was eating soup.. the baby was in her lap.... she had no intention of feeding the baby.. but he literally grabbed and pulled at the spoon, and when she let him just taste the broth he went nuts... He was sickly and underweight, and just literally HUNGRY. Mom could NOT resist and fed him some of the broth which he literally fought to get into his mouth. She totally confessed to my SIL who was really mad until she agreed to see how he responded... a couple hours later she offered him some pablum and he just about choked he tried to eat so fast. Poor baby was SUPER hungry.
She actually apologized to mom and said she needed to listen to her baby and people with some experience over her doctor and her books. Now my SIL is a grandmother and offers TONS of 'old fashioned' advice! LOL!!!
Nothing is more important than common sense and some of your own instinct/research... but don't forget that sometimes the wise old women know tricks of the trade that they are happy to pass on and are not only super safe, but WORK miracles.