Just found out my partner has ZERO sperm!

[clairemarie1983]

Last week we found out that my partner has zero sperm after 3 yrs of trying for baby and tests on myself i never ever thought when they asked him to do a sperm test that anything would be wrong! i feel like ive been knocked of my feet! i cant stop crying and feel total lost. My partner on the other hand is hurting in silence. He works away too so we have to deal with this through telephone calls and lonley nights. I cant imagine how he is feeling. I have a child from a previouse partner and she is now 7 and my partner has been here bringing her up since she was 1yrs old. he is a fantastick dad! All he says is we are very lucky to have her and just to let him deal with it in his way. tomorro we find out the results of a 2 sperm test so i feel sick with worry im hopeing to god that they got the last 1 wrong! After are last appointment with the gynocologist she said there is no way we qualify for ivf as i have a child already! That added more shock. We have an appoinment on the 11th may to speek to a fertility specialist. In the mean time its a lonley crying wait!

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[Sunshine1576]

ClaireBaby,
Your news breaks my heart...I couldn't imagine what he is feeling right now. Sounds like he is crazy about your daughter and he has made an awesome dad to her, pretty much raised her. I'm not sure why the clinic would turn you down for IVF though when you already have one. Are you referring to medical insurance, but you mentioned gynocologist? They don't work with fertility patients, only the RE could make that call...Let us know how the S/A comes back? I know you were saying there still might be a chance...However, I know there are many fertility clinics out there that could help you guys if you research them, even a consultation visit with a RE would be very much worth your time. ~Sunshine1576~

[clairemarie1983]

thank you sunshine1576 for your kind words.
today we found out over a long distance phone call with my partner that the second sperm test we sent away is confermed that there is ZERO sperm. He asked his doctor what is the chance of conciveing and she said extreamy extreamly low! so now i put on the brave face and act like all is normal in front of friends and family and all i want is him here with me now so i can comfort him or something i dont no im lost for words! so now we wait till the 11th to see a fertility specialist. i mean if its 0 sperm its not low its zero! so does that mean there is nothing we can do? im feeling very confused and very low. god only knows how he is feeling.

[Sunshine1576]

I'm sorry Claire for not responding back sooner, but I have been thinking about what you said. I am torn to hear the sad news, as I could only imagine what he is going through. It must be challenging being so many miles apart, but hopefully if you're able to stay busy, May 11th wil get here before we know it. Let us know how the Re appointment goes, you guys still have the option of considering donor sperm. Maybe dh may not feel like it's biological his and it is a personal decision to make, but nobody would know about this, if you never told them. He may feel strongly against it but if he so desires to build the family he will have to make that decision to move forward. It may take so time before that decision is made, but remain patient and loving to him. Be there to support him and everything else will fall into place. Please let us know how everything goes too with your upcoming appointment. Sunshine1576

[DillysGirl]

Hi Claire,
After two years of TTC my DH had his sperm tested and our test also came back at zero sperm. It's a terrible thing to hear! We saw a urologist shortly after and it turned out that my husband had sperm but it had no way to get out. He was born without a vas deferense (sp?). The urologist was able to surgically extract some sperm and after one failed ivf cycle we now have two beautiful and healthy one year olds!!
I hope my story gives you some hope and that your story has a happy ending better than you can imagine!

[us2]

Hi Clairemarie, just saw your post and created my first account here just so that I could answer.

Firstly I'm glad that daisygirl said it, as I was just about to.

I would have concerns about the care you are receiving - firstly because any tests were done on yourself without testing your partner. I don't know what your procedure is there, as I am from NZ, but we start with

1) post coital test
2) sperm test
3) laproscope look around for woman

This is because the first two things are uninvasive and quick and cheap, and often identify problems first off. So I hope that what you underwent wasn't surgery - as putting you through that before they tested your man's swimmers is crazy.

And secondly, I can't believe that they haven't told you that just because there is no sperm in a test, doesn't necessarily mean there is no sperm at all. The condition that daisygirl describes is a reasonably common one, and the workaround is simple too.

So good luck, and don't be afraid to ask questions and push for what you need to know and for your options.

[clairemarie1983]

Thnkyou us2 and daisygirl for responding to this. it helps to no that im not the only one whos going through this as my social circle at the minute intails new borns and expectant mothers so im trying very hard at the pleasentry converstions of baby talk scans and 'is it a boy or a girl?' while inside im screaming.. But since my last post i hve been doing lots of resurch on ZOOSPERMIA cuses and tretment etc.. and i must say my spirits have uplifted slightly. after are appointment with the gynocologist and there lack of infermation! (nothing) internet has now become glued to my fingertips.Reding your storys has also given my extra comfort so i thank you for that. We hve re first appointment with the fertility specialist on the 8th now fter they have changed it 3 times and i hate waiting! Im not sure wht to expect at all! My partner hs just come home for few days so we are mking up for lost cuddels on the down side his mother asked when are you going to start comeing home to work so you can bring a bundle of joy into the world! with hearing this my stomach turned and the dishes nerly slipped out my hand i could not turn around to look at my partners face to this comment. but that night he did ask if we should tell his mother the circumstances. Yes or no? im not sure!. So roll on the 8th june. And thanx again for all your kind words x

[clairemarie1983]

today my partner went to doctors for a chest infection. while there she had a chat about his sperm results and said that you just have to think about doner! nothing else about what i have looked up on internet ect.. so he has now got it in his hed tht i best not build my hopes up and get used to the worst. Im very upset by this. i tried to tell him what i have found on the internet etc but he just said its Zero not low just Zero. He told his mother the other day about the results. then went to see her the next day to see if she was ok. Im yet to be asked how im feeling? its just a quiet silence. i just dont no wht to say or do becuse i dont want to upset him. feeling very lost at the moment.

[gina728]

please dont give up hope....have him look at this board & maybe he will change his mind....i was told also i would never have children with my DH because he had low counts & slow motility after 3 with his sperm/3 donor sperms which we did IUI & 3 ivf cycle with his sperm again i become pregnant with my son in 11/20/08 & now i am pregnant again with ivf his sperm as of 4/15/11...it is so crazy & funny at the same time because are 1st doctor said we would never have children together & now look we are having are second...the second place we went to is so wonderful & was so helpful i thank god for them everyday.... so please dont give up hope & also look at DillysGirl story too.....hugs to u

[clairemarie1983]

thank you gina728 your story its amazing what you guys have gone through and it all be worth it in the end! thankyou for telling me. x
Well we went to see the fertility specialist last week. they are doing blood tests to see why my partner has azoospermia, they mentioned cistic fibrosis will be one of the tests to see if this is a factor. they have also got him to do another sperm test at there department as they have a special machine to see if they can pick up even 1 little sperm! so hopefully the blood tests come back normal and they find something in his sample! fingers crossed and positive hinking! the down side is they dont have a next available appointment till sept for the results which is going to feel like the longest time ever. The specilist did say that if not its donor and my partner does not want to go down that route! if they do find something then its private ivf which we cant afford to be honest! At the moment everything just seems so sureal . im not sure at all how we are feeling, a mixture of so many things. So let the waiting comence! and fingers crossed!

[Sunshine1576]

Clairemarie, my fingers are crossed as well, and I'm sending you my prayers too. Let us know how everything goes, and your perserverence will take you far my friend.

[clairemarie1983]

well we got are result and its just the same 0. are next step is to go private and see if he has a blockage only problem is john has decided that the out come will be the same and money and high hopes would be for nothing . i on the other hand dont think i could go through life never knowing if we had a small chance or not.ill always think what if! at this moment in time its been 6 weeks since i saw my partner and another 6 weeks to go in that time the ivf hospital we attend for the results have given me nothing, just the results, no councilling, nothing, just there you are and good bye! my emotions are still the same i feel like ive lost someone like a bereavement. will this feeling ever go away?

[Bartee]

I cant envision how RS Gold he is feeling. I possess a kid from the previouse spouse and she is now seven and my spouse has long been right here bringing her up given that she was 1yrs old.

[woodyanita]

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