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What should I do?

Postby kvgsmom » Tue May 13, 2008 3:24 pm

I have gone through IVF and had sucess twice. This was after 2 fresh cycles and 2 frozen cycles. One child was the result of a frozen and the other a fresh cycle. Right now we are saying that 2 children are more than we could have imagined having several years ago. We are so blessed to have our girls. Now I have to make a decision on what to do with the frozen embryos I have left in storage. Do I pay the yearly fee every year, knowing that 2 is all we want, do I donate them for study, science or do I destroy them. I have become very attached to them and I feel that anything but keeping them is cruel. Silly? The previous costs were enough... do I keep dishing out money? What would you do? :? :?:
TTC since 2000
(Male factor - low count, slow and poor motility)
Me 35, DH 38
1st IVF June/July 03 BFN
2nd IVF w/ICSI Feb/March 04 BFP
Daughter born Nov 04
1st FET Sept 06 BFN
2nd FET May 27 07 BFP
Daughter born Feb 08
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Postby Alette » Thu May 15, 2008 10:14 pm

What a dilemma.

I think you can only decide yourself.

I had frozen embryo's too but I wanted them back myself.

I never was in the position of choice.
(yeah, I could have distroyed them... NO WAY.. if they were going to die, then inside me..) (besides, I would have loved to have 2, even 10 children).

Donating is such a wonderfull thing... but I never would be sure if I could bear the knowledge of eventual children of me -and my husband- walking around...without me knowing...

If I were you... I think I would pay the fee... till I know what to do with them..

that is my honest answer.

Good luck with deciding!!

after lots of IUI, 4 FETs and 5 IVF's
a babyboy!
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Postby mally » Tue Jun 17, 2008 11:17 am


If the fee is not so much, just continue paying, until you have cleared you are setting of what to do with it.

If it so expensive, then you can consider the benefits that it may offer to others, if it sent to a laboratory for study.

What I will not advise you to do, is to donate it for ivf purposes, that can cause an emotional trauma with in the long run.

You are very lucky, some of us are still stuggling to have a baby.

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Re: What should I do?

Postby waleed111 » Mon Mar 09, 2015 5:25 am

What I will not advise you to do, is to donate it for ivf purposes, that can cause an emotional trauma with in the long run.

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Re: What should I do?

Postby rahulkumar123 » Thu Oct 27, 2016 9:52 am

Do not donate for the IVF purposes
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