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Postby jenny2016 » Tue Jul 26, 2016 7:40 am

GM ladies and prospective mothers. It's my first time on such forums. Very difficult to speak in public. Not sure that I can do it at all. But I'm desperate. I've got MRKH syndrome. If you haven't heard about this abnormality, please try to find the information you're interested in by yourself, because it's too hard for me to describe and explain details on the internet. I just can't repeat this one more time. The main thing about it I'm not medically able to carry a baby by myself. Honestly, I was trying to find women with similar cases of infertility for some assistance but I failed. And do not understand the reason. I'm not unique, right? Could it be true that nobody with MRKH is willing to get pregnant? Refuse to believe in that. My life would be meaningless without a baby. I'm in a good way crazy about having my little sweetie. The good thing is that I'm very lucky with my hubby who is very supportive and optimistic, that's what I need. His energy spread on me and now we're trying to find the most reliable solution to our situation. Please, if you have smth to tell, to recommend or to share with, do it. I think that surrogacy with my oe is suitable for me since my ovaries function normally. I've been searching through such forums quite a long time made a decision that they contain a lot of interesting information. And it seems that they are really helpful. There are so many well-wishing and responsive people. Hope you'll find what to answer me too.
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Re: Need surrogacy!

Postby Rachelb25 » Fri Jul 29, 2016 1:15 pm

I'm so sorry that you faced such a thing. I totally understand your feelings. Remember when i was at a loss when deciding to apply for surrogacy. Fighting for your happiness against infertility and struggling for your kids is really very complicated. But when i was diagnosed with infertility It was such a relief to find out that your problem did have a solution. Our couple applied to one of the clinics for the help. And we really got it, thank God. My husband and I were offered the services of surrogate mother to gestate our baby. It was very panicking and at the same time hope-giving period of my life. The clinic presented us with pretty Joanna.
And now I'm ready to risk it all again for the opportunity to touch my daughter's little hands or kiss her chubby cheeks one more time. Our family is the happiest family ever. So, you shouldn't be afraid. Surrogacy is really a good solution. You're very lucky with your hb. I think that support on the part of your dh is very important during this stage of your route.
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Re: Need surrogacy!

Postby jenny2016 » Mon Aug 01, 2016 7:29 am

Oh, thank you. My hb is really very reliable in this case. I take surrogacy as something absolutely normal. At the same time it scares me a lot. You see, it is so responsible step in the life of everyone. Weren't you afraid of starting this route at all? I just need time to make up my mind to it. Anyway, how is your kid? :D Very pretty name. Hope she will be okay in all respects. Didn't you have any problems with surrogate during the program? And how much time did it take from start to finish? The thing is we want to become parents as soon as possible. And our untiring desire increases even more every day.
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Re: Need surrogacy!

Postby Rachelb25 » Tue Aug 02, 2016 11:41 am

Wasn't I afraid? I was terrified, let me say. It was completely unknown for me and it was very difficult. I think there are no people who are not afraid and 100% confident. But that's ok. That's absolutely normal.
Thanks for asking, anyway. My daughter is very good. So beautiful.
I didn't have any problems with surrogate. What problems do you mean? We always managed to find a compromise. It wasn't a problem. The whole program in my case lasted something near a year. They usually last something like this on the average. Much depends on how fast you'll go through documents stuff.
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Re: Need surrogacy!

Postby jenny2016 » Thu Aug 04, 2016 8:05 am

The same about me. I'm terrified as well. Fear of the unknown filled me up. I realise it's ok but it hardly helps. It's very difficult for me to rely on another women carrying YOUR baby. How challenging would it be for her to give birth to a baby and then give this itty bitty to some person. I can't even imagine those feelings inside her.
I meant some possible disputes between couple and surrogate. How did you manage to communicate with her at all? How did this process occur?
One year is not so long term as I have expected. That's quite fast. Great. I've noticed that the main troubles and delays concern documents stuff. Always. It looks like governmental regulations do not really facilitate the procedure. It got under my skin already.
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Re: Need surrogacy!

Postby Rachelb25 » Fri Aug 05, 2016 8:34 am

I totally undertand how you feel but now I know that there are no reasons for it. Try to calm down. That will really help you.
Surrogate mothers must have at least one child already before going for the program. I think this requirement is made precisely for some assurance and alleviation. Maybe she knows that her own baby is waiting for the mother at home at the moment and it helps. I think it is so.
Communication with surro is carried out with the help of a manager of the clinic. And a bit later you can meet with her and give presents as it was in my case for example :)
Documents... ahhh. :evil: That's so annoying. The clinic helps you with all these bustles, however. They greatly facilitate the whole process but anyway. It takes time.
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Re: Need surrogacy!

Postby jenny2016 » Tue Aug 09, 2016 8:50 am

I see. That's really good. I mean having her own child. Anyway, I'm so impressed by the courage and willingness to help of these women. They are so brave. Wish I were in the least as brave as they are.
I'm thinking about emailing the clinic this week already. So I'm a bit limited in time of making a choice. It's time to decide and start all the procedures. My dh is insisting on faster actions. Tell me, please, is it madly expensive? We are not ready to take on a loan or lend money now if to be honest. What do you think?
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Re: Need surrogacy!

Postby EmmaK » Thu Apr 06, 2017 2:42 pm

I am sorry to hear about your condition, and we ourselves are the type of couple how's only chance was surrogacy. We went through a number of ivf attempts in the US. They were all unsuccessful and drained our wallets. We had 5 embryos left, and we started looking into surrogacy . We looked into many clinics abroad, and in many forums Ukraine came up quite often. We did oour research, and finally came to Ukraine to check out Intersono IVF clinic in the city of Lviv. We were surprised at the service and care we received. They arranged the transfers for us , our accommodation, and meetings with potential surrogate mothers. We would really like to recommend it to people, mostly because it would save us time if we heard more feedback about it at the time. The prices are half of what they are in USA, which was a very important factor for us , as were were out of money from previous IVF attempts. I promise you won't regret this decision. We are so happy with our baby girl. Best of luck!!!!
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Re: Need surrogacy!

Postby beth_brown » Fri Jul 14, 2017 8:15 am

So sorry to hear about your condition. But I am glad you are looking at options. After over a year of infertility issues, we have made up our mind to go for surrogacy. We are looking at BioTexCom in Kiev, as they have good price and 100% guarantee. We may be visiting them soon. I think surrogacy is quite normal and you are happy it is your child!
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Re: Need surrogacy!

Postby JoeNoah » Fri Sep 15, 2017 2:03 pm

I am 40 years old now. I am new in this group and worried a lot. I am facing a family pressure. I have conceived 3 times. But every time I cannot make it till the end. My husband and I want a baby like crazy. I was TTCing for 5 years. Which was useless for me. Then we go for IVF which is again very painful for me. After the end of every cycle, there were no results. That disturbed me a lot. I want to know that surrogacy is the best option for us or no? My eggs are still healthy.
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Re: Need surrogacy!

Postby ayesha10 » Fri Nov 17, 2017 1:23 pm

It so brave of you that you are sharing your story openly. It needs to guts to fight in s situation like this. If you are thinking of surrogacy I will surely recommend you a clinic who has been dealing in such cases for decades. They deal millions of such couples. They have a handsome success rate. They will surely help you go through this. 
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Re: Need surrogacy!

Postby ayesha10 » Sat Nov 18, 2017 4:36 am

"Don't overthink the process, honey! I have a personal experience with the surrogacy process. I miscarried a baby when I was 25. After that, my husband and I waited for 7 years. TTC sucks! Doctors told me that I was infertile. It was then a friend of ours told us to go for surrogacy option. We took our time to do a little research of our own. We found a perfect clinic in Europe (Ukraine). They had cost us way too less than the US clinics.

After waiting a few months more months, doctors informed us that they had found a perfect surrogate for our baby. We visited the clinic again and met our SM. She gave birth to our DD and we came back home holding our baby in hands. Going for surrogacy really changed my life. Everyone doubts it at first since it can be called a medical miracle, but I have found it to be worth it all. Good luck!"
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Re: Need surrogacy!

Postby Ghost » Sat Nov 18, 2017 6:34 am

ayesha10 wrote:"Don't overthink the process, honey! I have a personal experience with the surrogacy process. I miscarried a baby when I was 25. After that, my husband and I waited for 7 years. TTC sucks! Doctors told me that I was infertile. It was then a friend of ours told us to go for surrogacy option. We took our time to do a little research of our own. We found a perfect clinic in Europe (Ukraine). They had cost us way too less than the US clinics.

After waiting a few months more months, doctors informed us that they had found a perfect surrogate for our baby. We visited the clinic again and met our SM. She gave birth to our DD and we came back home holding our baby in hands. Going for surrogacy really changed my life. Everyone doubts it at first since it can be called a medical miracle, but I have found it to be worth it all. Good luck!"


That’s a different story than you just posted on another thread. You previously posted you needed an egg donor, not a surrogate, and you said you were still pregnant with a boy.

How much does that Ukrainian clinic pay you to post here pretending to be a patient? Do you really think other posters will be tricked into going to Ukraine by deceptive advertising?
Note: I am not an MD and not an expert.
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