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In need of an advice

Postby stacygerhart36 » Fri Aug 11, 2017 6:11 am

Hi to all ladies, I am terribly muddled and anxious. I have recently found out that I have luteal phase defect. I live in UK which means I’m entitled donor egg IVF if treatment starts before my 40th birthday. I will be 40 in less than 6 months. I have a relative who is considering egg donation to me, either to me or donating to the clinic. So I’m not sure where I should go. Probably will it be useful if I consider for a clinic abroad. Mt DH insists doing it at home, but I think we could do more for the same money in a foreign country. Also, I don’t want to waste time re-testing. We, any of you out there have any information that would help me making the decision? Are there any other factors I need to consider? I’m not able to make my mind, trying to stay calm but it’s not easy. Please help, thank you all.
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Re: In need of an advice

Postby peggyriggins » Fri Aug 11, 2017 6:16 am

Hi, I’m not an expert, but you should take progesterone for luteal phase defect. Well, personally I think you are in a little bit of haste. Probably you are too concerned with your age, which you shouldn’t. Besides you are ready to go abroad, then you should consider going to Ukraine, there are no age limits for starting IVF. 2 years ago I faced fallopian tubes damage that was an awful thing that didn’t allow us to become parents. It was Biotexcom where we started our treatment. If you are interested in going through the treatment in this country, I’ll be pleased to help you and share some facts. But first it’s important to study your case carefully. Wish you good luck.
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Re: In need of an advice

Postby bettysanders007 » Fri Aug 11, 2017 6:18 am

Hi, it would seem a long shot to me that you would have started treatment before you are forty. But you have to weigh up potential of a free round and whether you would regret not trying via nhs later if money became really tight. Also, bear in mind that treatment would be on your nhs records. Not sure if you intend to tell a child or not. Still treatment abroad may work out cheaper. Most clinics want test results for everything within last 6 months. So they may insist on repeating or additional tests. Good luck.
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Re: In need of an advice

Postby bettysanders007 » Fri Aug 11, 2017 6:20 am

Hi you lovely ladies, I’m not sure why I’m writing, but I want to just share some of the awful, sad feelings I’m feeling. Nothing major happened recently with me. Infertility is so cruel and steals kind, loving people of their spark. I feel like my life is in limbo. I act like everything is normal but actually my heart is so very sad. I had a lovely day out yesterday with my DH and friends. But out of the blue I got as overwhelmed with sadness as we were surrounded by families and children. I hate that my life has become this horrible. And that I am isolating myself from my close friends and family as it is too painful to see them with their babies and kids. I know I will get over this and find a way to carry on. I am really sorry for the depressing post, I just feel so alone so thought would write them down. Hey (PERSON1), thanks for sharing, will get in touch with you soon.
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Re: In need of an advice

Postby stefanyross » Fri Aug 11, 2017 6:24 am

Hi, sorry to hear all this. Dear every good thing is just ahead, try to gain the positive outlook. We went through surrogacy, but here are the facts you’ll be facing if it is DE for you at last. Your husband will have to have his sperm tested, and then if that’s good well the rest of the work relies on you I think. You would probably need to go straight to a specialist to see your options. Everything is possible, thanks to the advanced technology. Did you have your eggs tested? Would your womb be strong enough to hold the pregnancy? That can also be some factors. As for your age, don’t worry, plenty of women have children in their forties and conceive naturally, or through IVF. It is really a waiting game but try not to stress too much. This is easier said than done, but you have to be determined. I wish you the best in your journey.
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Re: In need of an advice

Postby Ghost » Fri Aug 11, 2017 2:28 pm

The posts above are a fake conversation between sock accounts of the same person.

They post deceptive advertising for a clinic in the Ukraine. Don't be fooled.

I would avoid any clinic that advertises so dishonestly.
Note: I am not an MD and not an expert.
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