Discussion forum for those particularly interested in infertility.
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- Joined: Wed Oct 18, 2017 9:14 pm
Hello. I’ve gone through the same story with my sister. I don’t know why it happened to her. I have two amazing kids and I’m expecting one more now. Our mother didn’t have any problems with conceiving.
My sister and her husband have been ttc for 6 years and no success. She’s gone through different modern treatments and even IVF. Nothing worked out. The only thing could help her was surrogacy. That’s why she agreed. And I’m very happy she did it. It really worked.
Now she is a mother and they have a great family. Their twin boys appeared right in time. They changed this family so much. I know that kids can improve any marriage!
Now they are thinking of one more baby. I’m so proud of her. I think it is very hard to be a mother of twins. But she was born to be a good mother. She loves her boys so much. I adore watching them.
She told me that they want to have 5 kids. And she wants one of them to be adopted. As for me, it is a great idea. There are so many lonely kids in the world. I wish all of them could find their families.
If you are sure that you are unable to give birth you should think of surrogacy. It really helps infertile couples to become parents. Go to the reproduction center and consult the doctor. Don’t be lost, you still can improve the situation, dear.
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- Joined: Thu Oct 26, 2017 12:29 am
Hello dear OP! How are you doing? I think it's too early for you to panic. First of all you should visit your doctor. Both you and your dh should check your fertility. For someone it takes a few months to conceive and for others it may take a little longer. Just follow your doctor's advices. And also listen to your body. I had cancer of the uterus. There is no chance for me to carry my baby. But still I think I'm lucky because there are a few options left for me. Currently I'm looking into surrogacy. I wish both of us good luck in our TTC!
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- Joined: Mon Nov 27, 2017 10:23 pm
Hi, dear. I've gone through infertility many years ago. I know how hard it is. I remember all those negative tests. I dreamed to get pregnant but, unfortunately, I'm unable to conceive. My only recommendation for you is not to give up. Keep looking for solutions. Modern world offers us a lot of opportunities. Just choose the one you like. For example, I'm a mother of 3 boys now. Our first son was adopted. And our twin boys were born by the surrogate. You can adopt or go for surrogacy, whatever. Anyway, you will have kids. Don't wait until your eggs die. It's time to do something to change your life.
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- Joined: Mon Dec 04, 2017 10:42 pm
My story is almost the same. I know how you feel and I'm so sorry you have to go through this nightmare. I had 6 miscarriages in last 8 years. Doctors don’t know the reason why I can’t carry a baby. Everyone around is getting pregnant except me. And everything I do is losing... I'm also looking into surrogacy option. It's hard when your family gives no support. Especially in our situation when we need it the most. We are lucky to have supportive husbands! It's very important to be on board with your love in our condition. Your parents are probably just ignorant about surrogacy. Have you tried explaining the process to them? There is nothing unnatural with surrogacy. It will be your baby, from your eggs and your dh sperm. The only thing which is not traditional is that a woman, who can carry a baby, will carry your child. Is this really wrong? I don't think so. For us surrogacy is our lifebuoy. Don't listen to anyone who is telling you it's wrong. They just don't get it. They don't know how it feels. They don't know what it's like to be infertile.
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- Joined: Thu Dec 07, 2017 6:34 am
Hi there. You said the doctors didn't find anything. What does that mean? That everything is normal? Or does that mean, they are unable to find the problem? They might sound similar However, they are different. The appropriate course of action are different for both. So I will wait for your answer before I give any advice.
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I suggest that you and your husband shouldn’t give up so soon. Visit a few more specialists. I’m sure, one will eventually be able to detect the problem and suggest a treatment.
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Hi there. You said the doctors didn't find anything. What does that mean?
It might mean unexplained infertility. In same cases IVF PGS NGS might be of one the solution, in another cases surrogacy might work out.
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perhaps it is best to consider any additional tx? such as IVF or ICSI.
there are more, but I think you should start by getting tests done at your local fertility center. That'll help you determine what is actually wrong with your body so you cannot conceive. it may be that your fertility is slowly declining with age or other stuff.
We are signed with a wcob agency and now are in the middle of the surrogacy program. so if you are worried about difficulties that may come with wanting to start fertility tx, do not be. there are ways to make things easier and more fun even in the situation like this