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donor eggs, how to find donor?

Postby Millia » Wed Nov 29, 2017 11:08 pm

Is there anyone who used or is planning to use donor eggs? What are results? How and where did you find donor? Due to condition of my health de ivf is my last chance to have a baby. It’s so hard for me to decide on this procedure. I want to ask those girls who had already underwent this procedure, how do you feel now? Do you have regrets? What are your feelings toward your baby/babies? Do you have feelings that baby isn’t yours? I’m afraid I won’t be able to love this child. I asked my sister to be our donor. Unfortunately she refused. I thought that maybe it’ll be easier to take this situation if it’s eggs of my sis. She thinks it will be wrong if we rise her baby. Maybe she’s right… But what should I do now? I really need to talk to somebody about this. My mind is full of thoughts, doubts and questions. I feel like I’m going crazy( Another question is where is better to do this procedure? Will I be able to choose donor by myself? What about prices? I have no idea where to start. Moreover I’m not sure if I’m ready for this procedure. I hope you will help me to figure it out!
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Re: donor eggs, how to find donor?

Postby Millia » Mon Dec 04, 2017 10:40 pm

It makes me sad to see no replies... I'd love to talk to someone who used donor eggs. This forum is very helpful. I found so much information here. But it would be so nice just to talk about the process, to hear successful stories... Girls, please, share your experience with me. How do you feel about donor eggs? What thoughts do you have about it? There is no one I can talk with about de ivf. I hope to find someone who understands here.
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Re: donor eggs, how to find donor?

Postby Ghost » Tue Dec 05, 2017 3:13 pm

Millia wrote:Is there anyone who used or is planning to use donor eggs? What are results? How and where did you find donor? Due to condition of my health de ivf is my last chance to have a baby. It’s so hard for me to decide on this procedure. I want to ask those girls who had already underwent this procedure, how do you feel now? Do you have regrets? What are your feelings toward your baby/babies? Do you have feelings that baby isn’t yours? I’m afraid I won’t be able to love this child. I asked my sister to be our donor. Unfortunately she refused. I thought that maybe it’ll be easier to take this situation if it’s eggs of my sis. She thinks it will be wrong if we rise her baby. Maybe she’s right… But what should I do now? I really need to talk to somebody about this. My mind is full of thoughts, doubts and questions. I feel like I’m going crazy( Another question is where is better to do this procedure? Will I be able to choose donor by myself? What about prices? I have no idea where to start. Moreover I’m not sure if I’m ready for this procedure. I hope you will help me to figure it out!


I am not a patient, but I work at a center.

Lists of prospective donors are typically provided by the center or by an agency. The patient chooses the donor, almost like shopping on a website or in a catalog, usually looking for similar appearance along with desirable traits, like intelligence. In rare cases, the patient finds a donor on her own, such as a sister.

Studies have found children from donor cycles to be well-accepted by their parents. I don’t recall a study of children from a sister’s eggs, but I expect they are well-adjusted in most cases. That would depend on the individuals involved, of course.

In my experience, there is lots of room in the human heart. Parents quickly come to love their children from donor eggs, just as they love adopted children. Heck, we even love our pets. Love does not require a genetic link.

Anonymous egg donor cycles cost around 25K in the USA, and 60-75% of cycles will result in a live birth on the first transfer of a single embryo at a good center. If the first transfer fails or if you want more children, additional transfers of frozen embryos will cost around 4K. Most donor cycles have extra embryos to freeze. Other countries can offer lower prices, but the success rates tend to be lower, too.

Donor cycles using eggs from a sister will be cheaper.
Note: I am not an MD and not an expert.
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Re: donor eggs, how to find donor?

Postby Millia » Wed Dec 13, 2017 7:39 pm

Ghost wrote:
I am not a patient, but I work at a center.

Lists of prospective donors are typically provided by the center or by an agency. The patient chooses the donor, almost like shopping on a website or in a catalog, usually looking for similar appearance along with desirable traits, like intelligence. In rare cases, the patient finds a donor on her own, such as a sister.

Studies have found children from donor cycles to be well-accepted by their parents. I don’t recall a study of children from a sister’s eggs, but I expect they are well-adjusted in most cases. That would depend on the individuals involved, of course.

In my experience, there is lots of room in the human heart. Parents quickly come to love their children from donor eggs, just as they love adopted children. Heck, we even love our pets. Love does not require a genetic link.

Anonymous egg donor cycles cost around 25K in the USA, and 60-75% of cycles will result in a live birth on the first transfer of a single embryo at a good center. If the first transfer fails or if you want more children, additional transfers of frozen embryos will cost around 4K. Most donor cycles have extra embryos to freeze. Other countries can offer lower prices, but the success rates tend to be lower, too.

Donor cycles using eggs from a sister will be cheaper.


Hello dear! You are the first one who responded to my thread. I was afraid no one will reply. I really need to know more info about this procedure. I’m little bit confused about it… I don’t want to involve relatives. So I’ll have to find donor somehow. Thank you again for your reply. It means a lot for me! Now I need to hear some success stories because sometimes I think there is no hope for me.
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Re: donor eggs, how to find donor?

Postby Ghost » Thu Dec 14, 2017 3:29 pm

There are many success stories with donor eggs. Unfortunately, most actual patients who come to IVF message boards are looking forward to IVF, not backward. That means they have not yet had their successes. Once they have their babies, it seems they are too busy to post here anymore.

But donor cycles have the highest success rates of any type of IVF cycle.
Note: I am not an MD and not an expert.
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