cannot even give him a baby

[brookeliam]

Hi guys! I was thinking for a long time to discuss my condition with others. I was not feeling comfortable in doing so with my friends and family. They seem to be busy in their lives. But I had to express my stressing situation somewhere. Now here I am. I am 28 years old. I am married to the love of my life. He is a really good man. But I think I am not the right person for him. I cannot even give him a baby. What is even left for me in this life? I ask such questions every time to myself. But do not get an answer. I am not able to get pregnant because of my heart disease. It is going to take too much time to get cured. I do not want to be an old mom. I want to have a baby ASAP. Suggest me a way out of this.

[JennyKL2017]

Hi, dear. There are a lot of infertile women in the world. I’m very glad that most of them are looking for the way to become parents. Heart disease is a huge reason for not getting pregnant. It can be too dangerous for your health. If you are still fertile, why don’t you find the surrogate to give birth for you? A lot of women do it after long years of ttc. My twin boys were also born by the surrogate. The process is pretty simple. You have nothing to worry about. Actually, you have two options at the moment: adoption and surrogacy. You told that you want to have a baby ASAP. That’s why adoption is not a good option. It takes a couple of years to get a baby. Surrogacy takes 9-12 months. So, after the embryo transfer you will have to wait an ordinary 9 months to get a child. After that you will go home with a baby. I think this is a great chance for you to give a baby to your DH. You should discuss this option with him. I’m sure he will agree. As usual, men are against of adoption. We all want to have our biological kids. It is absolutely normal desire.
Start from visiting the reproduction center. Consult a doctor and ask his opinion. After that you can sign an agreement and start the examinations. As usual, the price for the examinations is included into the package you have chosen. There’s no need to pay additionally. After that they will choose the surrogate for you. In a couple of weeks the embryo will be transferred. I’m sure your surrogate will get pregnant from the first attempt.

[Ghost]

Hi guys! I was thinking for a long time to discuss my condition with others. I was not feeling comfortable in doing so with my friends and family. They seem to be busy in their lives. But I had to express my stressing situation somewhere. Now here I am. I am 28 years old. I am married to the love of my life. He is a really good man. But I think I am not the right person for him. I cannot even give him a baby. What is even left for me in this life? I ask such questions every time to myself. But do not get an answer. I am not able to get pregnant because of my heart disease. It is going to take too much time to get cured. I do not want to be an old mom. I want to have a baby ASAP. Suggest me a way out of this.

Whatever you do, avoid surrogacy in the Ukraine. Too much deceptive advertising.

[Ghost]

After that they will choose the surrogate for you. In a couple of weeks the embryo will be transferred. I’m sure your surrogate will get pregnant from the first attempt.

She did not post anything indicating she would need a surrogate.

How do you know she will need that very expensive option?

[Zarah]

Hi guys! I was thinking for a long time to discuss my condition with others. I was not feeling comfortable in doing so with my friends and family. They seem to be busy in their lives. But I had to express my stressing situation somewhere. Now here I am. I am 28 years old. I am married to the love of my life. He is a really good man. But I think I am not the right person for him. I cannot even give him a baby. What is even left for me in this life? I ask such questions every time to myself. But do not get an answer. I am not able to get pregnant because of my heart disease. It is going to take too much time to get cured. I do not want to be an old mom. I want to have a baby ASAP. Suggest me a way out of this.

Don't be sad & don't blame yourself, there are many women suffering from infertility. I was also one of them. I had blocked fallopian tubes & was unable to conceive. I was stressed, heartbroken and quite for a long time. Luckily, my DH and in-laws are very supportive, they are there with me throughout. After a long struggle, I get to know about IVF treatment, my DH personally search alot and study a lot about this because he wants a child very badly. Now, we are enjoying parenthood with a cute, little baby girl. . So, I want to tell you don't be disheartened. Nowadays, there are various options to get pregnant. Just go to a authentic and trustworthy clinic. The chosen clinic will play a vital role in your treatment. Hope you will be able to give your husband a child. Stay strong and positive. Good Luck.

[Ghost]

Zarah is another sock account advertising for a Ukrainian clinic by pretending to be a patient.

Avoid any clinics that advertise so deceptively.

[Kerrshay]

You need to discuss several options with your husband and doctor. Wishing you the best.

[kira099]

I'm so sorry. It is very hard, and the majority of women who are fertile just do not understand. Like you, I long for a child. Right now it is just DH and me. And every day we pray for children. I always say I would be so happy if I could just have one, but really I know I want 2. Ironically, I think my faith in God has actually gotten stronger in this whole ordeal. I also realize that the testing of my faith makes me a stronger person. Even though I have not gotten my BFP yet, I feel the peace and comfort. Some days may be hard. Sometimes people can make us feel miserable. They can take away our hope by just saying a few words. But we should be strong for us, for our husbands and for our future children.

I truly hope the above doesn't offend anyone who may not be religious whether it be because of infertility or not. It is totally normal to feel like God has forgotten about you when you are going through something like this that hurts so bad. It helps me to remember all of the blessings He has given me. And it also helps me to do something nice for someone else. Serving others gets my mind off of my infertility. Of course, it's easier said than done. I certainly don't always do the right thing, but I try anyway. My plans for the coming week are to send some flowers and good cheer to a friend who just had surgery and has NO family, no husband, no children, no parents, only one brother who lives very far away. Also I’ll bring some food and goodies to local animal shelter. It always makes me feel much better, especially when I have rough days.

[Kylie]

Dear, I am so miserable to think about you. Try not to feel lost since you are on the correct stage you'll discover various ladies like you here. Also, it's valid that numerous women are experiencing such issues. You should simply remain positive all through it's going to help you a ton. I am miserable about your circumstance however happy that you imparted it to individuals to get some help. Expectation you get what you need. All the best!

[xenia]

From what I know nowadays there are too many ways to get pregnant: IUI, IVF PGS NGS and DE, surrogacy and so on. So don't give up and search for a clinic to undergo treatment

[pagerelvia33]

Have you thought about fertility treatment?
It was suggested before. Well, there are a lot of ways to have a baby nowadays. One of them is surrogacy. I am not sure this is the right type of tx for you. But it is worth knowing about. We did not think about anything like this before. Surrogacy was a distant figure for us. Back then we were only ttcing ourselves. And when it did not work out 5 times in a row, I was in such a depressed state, I could not even think about anything. Then, ten years forward, I am here, in the middle of the surrogacy program. It is a blessing that we have managed to find the best agency for us. It is located in Ukraine. and boy oh boy were we nervous when decided to fly there. But we were not disappointed a bit. It was a choice of two human beings who decided to go for it no matter what. It was a chance for us, not so rich Americans to have kids. And here we are. It all looks amazing so far. Our SM has already had her ET. And we are waiting for some major updates. It is either she is pregnant or we start all over. But since we know a bit more now than before, it is not as scary as it was last year.
But we are optimistic. Hopefully, it is a BFP. For us, surrogacy newbies, it'd mean the world. And also, being 55 yo means that there is not so much time left for us. And the sooner the better.
I wish you all the best. We're going to make it there!
xx