One Failed IVF - but now how to afford adoption?

Discussion forum for those who had completed their IVF treatments without a successful outcome and are seeking other options such as adoption, surrogacy etc.
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One Failed IVF - but now how to afford adoption?

Post by michelle38 » Thu Jan 17, 2008 5:48 am

Of course I would love to keep trying more IVFs in order to have my own child.
But I don't see how I can continue doing that at a cost of 12,000, when I probably need to be saving money for adoption, which I understand runs bet. $20,000-$40,000.


What in the world are people supposed to do? I can only go into debt so much. This whole infertility experience sucks on so many different levels.
me=38, unexplained/ age related infertility
TTC for 3 years
4 IUIs (2 pos, 2 neg)
2 MCs (from IUI)
1 IVF ICSI (neg) ( 0 ins covrg/ can only afrd 1 time)
Don't know what to do next


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Post by gori » Fri Jan 18, 2008 9:38 pm

Hi Michelle, my heart goes out to you! I truly feel bad & wish I could suggest something. One question: is it possible for you or your husband to get into a job, where the company pays for your health insurance. I am sure you have explored that option but just checking? If you have medical coverage thru work, you will not have to worry about paying from pocket. Second idea, though a bit far-fetched is that many people, go to countries like India for cheaper treatment options. There are many other countries out there who offer IVF & other fertility treatments at a much lower cost. Even though it seems far-fetched, many people [Indians, Americans etc] have chosen this route & have been successful. If that interests you, you could do some research on the msg board & on the internet. At the end of the day, which-ever option you choose, hope it works out in your best interest!!
TTC 4+ yrs; male factor
3 IVFs - 2 unsuccessful; 1 m/c at 12 weeks
1st ICSI BFP!! Single Embryo Transfer
Beta 14dp3dt 1,250; Beta 21dp3dt 13,500
First u/s on Jan 8 - one cute heartbeat :)

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Post by Angela37firsttimeivf » Mon Feb 04, 2008 11:26 am

posted by accident

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Try in India

Post by bhav » Tue Feb 12, 2008 6:32 am


U can always try doing IVF in india. Here its as cheap as $3000-$4000. There are many clinicks i India who provide IVF at this cost...

Also check for TB in uterus because that is what many doctors tend to forget while going IVF.

All the best!


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Post by not hopeless yet » Tue Aug 05, 2008 2:43 pm

I wanted to suggest two things, as I have looked into adoption as well but still find the cost overwhelming. First of all there is a $10k tax deduction if you live in U.S. which will help but first you have to shell out the $ out of pocket to get the baby... and the process can take over a year or two. But as bhav suggested doing IVF out of country, you might want to search on these boards for Rainbowmoms because I know she's doing it in Mexico for under $5k and that's a closer trip than India. Good luck either way!

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Post by SilverAngel679 » Thu Aug 14, 2008 1:54 am

Hey Michelle, My heart goes out to you and I understand your delema. I don't know where you live but i live in NY and go to a fertility clinic called Reporductive Specialist Of NY. We've had 3 IVF cycles with them. We coulnd't afford it either but there is a wonderful woman there, the financial coordinator, named Cheral who did everything she could to bring the cost down for us.

We had to pay out of pocket for the second one which came to just under $9,000 and Cheral was able to get all our meds donated to us, so we didn't have to pay a thing.

That cycle resulted in a pregnancy but ended in miscarriage at 15 weeks and because of that they discounted the next cycle for us by 20% which means we had only to pay $6,700 with all our meds donated to us.

But at the last second, Cheral got us into a program that the goverment had for infertility and we wound up only paying $2,800 for the whole thing which included all our meds and cryo for a year.

Our insurance covered only our monitoring and blood work and nothing else but my point is is that you can find the resources you need to continue. It will work one day if you keep trying and I know how hard it can be. My husband and I worked our butts off to be able to do this the last time but we did it and so can you. Our tax return went to it, tons and tons of over time at work. Don't give up yet. It's possible.
Me: Liz, 29 (Healthy)DH: Tom, 28 (Male factor)
IVF#2: BFP (m/c @ 14weeks)
IVF#3: BFP Twin Boys, born 3/23/09

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Post by lynniecat » Thu Sep 18, 2008 3:50 pm

Totally busting in here, but was reading and wanted to suggest something.

I am leaving my job and getting on DH's insurance which does not cover IVF or anything for that matter. But I bumped into a form that described his health plans (while cleaning up after him). Guess of the other choices provides 10K to infertility services. But open enrollment just happened. Then it occurred to me that once I lose my insurance we get to open enroll again and guess which plan I am picking??????

Anyway, I thought I had looked into all of this, but then found this new possibility. So just in case see if your employers have other plans with maybe worse coverage on some things but better for us!
Me: 44 severely reduced reserve
DH: 44 perfect
IVF 1: Feb 08 -BFP twins (lost one at 7 weeks, one at 13 weeks) :-(
IVF 2: June 08 -BFN :-(
IVF 3: September 08 -BFN :-(
IVF 4: November 08 - Katherine Emma born 8/9/2009 :D

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Re: One Failed IVF - but now how to afford adoption?

Post by Shiella » Sat May 17, 2014 3:54 am

It is good to have an adoption. I too adopted a baby the time I can't have my own. Many children out there carve for a love of a mother and we too desperately want a child. So why not adopt a baby. But is it very great to have your own right?
I understand how you feel.Ive been through in that situation.I am now 29 years old and 3 months pregnant ^_^.Before Ive been in a feeling that maybe I should give but then I keep on searching till I found this it really works on me.

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Re: One Failed IVF - but now how to afford adoption?

Post by beth_brown » Fri Jul 14, 2017 7:02 am

So sorry about your situation. If you are worried about the cost of IVF, there are many cheaper options abroad as someone suggested. We have been looking at BioTExCom in Ukraine and they are much cheaper than what we experienced here. Keeping looking around for options. Good luck!

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Re: One Failed IVF - but now how to afford adoption?

Post by Ressia » Mon Oct 02, 2017 2:02 am

Hello, dear! An adoption is a good option but to have a child from your own flesh is best. I would agree to Beth that you can check out Ukraine clinics. Actually, they are so caring to their clients. I hope you can think about it with your husband.

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Re: One Failed IVF - but now how to afford adoption?

Post by whitneyspear » Mon Dec 18, 2017 7:07 am

Hey Michelle! Such a bad time. But tell me in which country you are living? As almost every country provides some health insurance to their citizens. You have to search for the policies. where are you working? And you DH? That company may also offer you guys funds for medical. Just search for different options. I wish and pray for you to collect maximum funds for your child adoption.

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Re: One Failed IVF - but now how to afford adoption?

Post by Alyssa562 » Wed Dec 20, 2017 4:52 am

Hi dear. I know what you mean. Infertility treatments cost way too much. Aren't you eligible for any funding? Doesn't your insurance cover anything? Also, look abroad. The prices might be cheaper there. Good luck!

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Re: One Failed IVF - but now how to afford adoption?

Post by jinaperk » Wed Dec 20, 2017 5:59 am

Hi, I can totally relate to you but do not get disheartened. A single failed IVF should not dampen your spirits. I had two failed attempts at IVF. Sure, it was expensive but worth having a child of your own. Have you considered contacting any NGO? Many support the fertility procedures. There is another option; set up a social page and get community help in the form of an aid. People usually go out of their way to help. Best of luck.

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Re: One Failed IVF - but now how to afford adoption?

Post by Ghost » Wed Dec 20, 2017 6:57 pm

The OP has not posted here in almost 10 years.
Avoid IVF and surrogacy in Ukraine. Ukrainian centers pay shills to post here under numerous sock accounts pretending to be patients in Ukraine. Centers using such deceptive advertising cannot be trusted and should be avoided.

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