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Surrogacy is a better option

Postby glendakim » Thu Dec 21, 2017 1:31 am

Hello everyone! Girls! I'm a thirty-year-old woman. I live in the USA. Well, I'm a TTC for nearly 4 years. I just had this perfect marriage with this perfect husband. After a year; when I tried getting pregnant. I found out that it's not comfortable for me to get pregnant. Well, after that I tried many consultants for my cure, but things didn't work for me. After few month my DH's office assistant suggested us about surrogacy. At the beginning, I wasn't interested and sure of it. I didn't feel it right. But somehow, my husband managed to make my mind for it and we went to a clinic in Ukraine. They gave us an economic package for it. It was just simply as cheap as adoption expenses here in the UK. Well, I gave it a try; it really worked for us. I think people should prefer surrogacy over adoption. Because it's the right thing to do. I think its really important to have a child of your own. I'm not against adoption. But, I think surrogacy is a better option.
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Re: Surrogacy is a better option

Postby Ghost » Thu Dec 21, 2017 2:09 am

glendakim wrote:Hello everyone! Girls! I'm a thirty-year-old woman. I live in the USA. Well, I'm a TTC for nearly 4 years. I just had this perfect marriage with this perfect husband. After a year; when I tried getting pregnant. I found out that it's not comfortable for me to get pregnant. Well, after that I tried many consultants for my cure, but things didn't work for me. After few month my DH's office assistant suggested us about surrogacy. At the beginning, I wasn't interested and sure of it. I didn't feel it right. But somehow, my husband managed to make my mind for it and we went to a clinic in Ukraine. They gave us an economic package for it. It was just simply as cheap as adoption expenses here in the UK. Well, I gave it a try; it really worked for us. I think people should prefer surrogacy over adoption. Because it's the right thing to do. I think its really important to have a child of your own. I'm not against adoption. But, I think surrogacy is a better option.


You are 30 in this post, but 36 in another post made the same day.

You are just another sock account advertising falsey for surrogacy in the Ukraine.
Avoid IVF and surrogacy in Ukraine. Ukrainian centers pay shills to post here under numerous sock accounts pretending to be patients in Ukraine. Centers using such deceptive advertising cannot be trusted and should be avoided.
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Re: Surrogacy is a better option

Postby Ghost » Thu Dec 21, 2017 3:36 am

And, by the way, surrogacy is a terrible option unless it is absolutely necessary. It's very expensive and fraught with legal nightmares.

There have been many cases of the surrogate keeping the baby, and in at least one case, she sued the parents and won child support payments. That last case was in England.
Avoid IVF and surrogacy in Ukraine. Ukrainian centers pay shills to post here under numerous sock accounts pretending to be patients in Ukraine. Centers using such deceptive advertising cannot be trusted and should be avoided.
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Re: Surrogacy is a better option

Postby lily_parker » Tue Feb 20, 2018 6:00 am

It's amazing you have found the success with surrogacy. I am so happy for you dear. it's true for a woman nothing is more valuable than having own child. I am also going to start my treatment from Ukraine. Hope it will be beneficial for me as well as all people who are undergoing the procedure of reproductive treatments. Congratulations to you and stay blessed.
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Re: Surrogacy is a better option

Postby Anna-WWW » Mon Feb 26, 2018 9:02 pm

I was in the same boat with you. I've gone through infertility and we have chosen the surrogacy. I'm really glad that we did it. It helped us to become parents. I agree that it is very expensive. But, to say truth, I was ready to pay any amount of money to become a mother. I think you had the same idea.
In my case it was absolutely necessary. I had no chance to get pregnant on my own. Adoption wasn't an option for me at all. I wanted our baby to be genetically related to both my husband and me. I still don't understand why so many people keep saying that surrogacy is the worst option. It really works so why not to try it out? It is a great chance to get a baby. Let's be honest to each other. Some people just have no money to use this option.
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Re: Surrogacy is a better option

Postby Ghost » Tue Feb 27, 2018 4:54 am

Anna-WWW wrote:I was in the same boat with you. I've gone through infertility and we have chosen the surrogacy. I'm really glad that we did it. It helped us to become parents. I agree that it is very expensive. But, to say truth, I was ready to pay any amount of money to become a mother. I think you had the same idea.
In my case it was absolutely necessary. I had no chance to get pregnant on my own. Adoption wasn't an option for me at all. I wanted our baby to be genetically related to both my husband and me. I still don't understand why so many people keep saying that surrogacy is the worst option. It really works so why not to try it out? It is a great chance to get a baby. Let's be honest to each other. Some people just have no money to use this option.


Surrogacy is the most expensive option and the most risky from a legal standpoint. It should be chosen only if necessary.

The poster you replied to is a sock account of an advertiser pretending to be a patient. There have been many in the last few months. They change their stories. The one above changed her age, among other things. Another posted she was several months pregnant, then that she was ready to start IVF in the next post. Several have signed their posts with the names of other sock accounts. One replied to herself under the same account because she forgot to change to one of her other accounts before replying. Others have claimed 100% success rates at the center they advertise for.

Beware of deception on the internet, including here.
Avoid IVF and surrogacy in Ukraine. Ukrainian centers pay shills to post here under numerous sock accounts pretending to be patients in Ukraine. Centers using such deceptive advertising cannot be trusted and should be avoided.
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Re: Surrogacy is a better option

Postby hedw19 » Thu May 03, 2018 8:28 am

Anna-WWW wrote:I was in the same boat with you. I've gone through infertility and we have chosen the surrogacy. I'm really glad that we did it. It helped us to become parents. I agree that it is very expensive. But, to say truth, I was ready to pay any amount of money to become a mother. I think you had the same idea.
In my case it was absolutely necessary. I had no chance to get pregnant on my own. Adoption wasn't an option for me at all. I wanted our baby to be genetically related to both my husband and me. I still don't understand why so many people keep saying that surrogacy is the worst option. It really works so why not to try it out? It is a great chance to get a baby. Let's be honest to each other. Some people just have no money to use this option.


I totally understand that having a baby is priceless but we are still talking about surrogacy, not a new TV or something. The decision to do surrogacy is one of the most difficult things I faced in my life and I haven't even started this journey. There are hundreds of possible scenarios including all the risk so for me it's impossible to realize how people go for it that easy. It also takes years, at least to us, to save money for even the cheapest surrogacy programs we've seen in Asia. That's why it's the worst, it's definitely a last resort. I for one still keep adoption in mind although I'm not sure if it's less expensive than surroacy
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Re: Surrogacy is a better option

Postby Kylie » Tue Aug 21, 2018 9:36 am

Hi everybody, it's been watched that there are currently numerous answers for barrenness, which incorporate surrogacy and IVF as the most secure and fruitful ones. Individuals who are experiencing this period of life ought not to lose trust on the grounds that there is a facility in Europe offering these strategies with a high achievement rate. You can search for them on the web. Numerous individuals are happy with their administrations.
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Re: Surrogacy is a better option

Postby Kylie353 » Mon Aug 27, 2018 8:56 pm

Hello, I am so happy in the wake of perusing your post you are totally right these issues are expanding step by step yet now we have propelled answers for them, being not able to consider is a hard time for anybody, and it could transpire. I wish no one has ever needed to experience any such thing. Individuals experiencing these stages in life ought not to lose trust, all they require is some sort of expert help and they would be fine. I comprehend that each lady needs to wind up a mother sometime in the not so distant future. There is surrogacy other than IVF. I came to think about them by means of the web. Though both of these are preferred over adoption because of these you can have a biological infant with the child. Besides I have perused numerous examples of overcoming adversity about them, you can likewise search for them. No one ought to ever lose trust in light of the fact that there is continually something useful for everybody, much the same as surrogacy and IVF for fruitless women out there. Try not to lose trust in everybody and remain positive. Good Luck!
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Re: Surrogacy is a better option

Postby Shank_D » Tue Dec 25, 2018 11:30 pm

glendakim wrote:Hello everyone! Girls! I'm a thirty-year-old woman. I live in the USA. Well, I'm a TTC for nearly 4 years. I just had this perfect marriage with this perfect husband. After a year; when I tried getting pregnant. I found out that it's not comfortable for me to get pregnant. Well, after that I tried many consultants for my cure, but things didn't work for me. After few month my DH's office assistant suggested us about surrogacy. At the beginning, I wasn't interested and sure of it. I didn't feel it right. But somehow, my husband managed to make my mind for it and we went to a clinic in Ukraine. They gave us an economic package for it. It was just simply as cheap as adoption expenses here in the UK. Well, I gave it a try; it really worked for us. I think people should prefer surrogacy over adoption. Because it's the right thing to do. I think its really important to have a child of your own. I'm not against adoption. But, I think surrogacy is a better option.


I hope it's the Lotus Surrogacy in Ukraine. They have a splendid success rate to make anyone feel confident about having their assisted fertility procedure with the Lotus Surrogacy. Surrogacy is a complex procedure and terribly costly when you're trying to get it done in the US itself. Also, the paperwork is overwhelmingly tricky to follow through... hiring legal assistance again put on more cost to the process. It's best not to meddle with it all by yourself, not all state laws are same. You should thank the one who suggested you Ukraine for surrogacy. I think if one has the means to go for surrogacy they should indeed give it a try. With a renowned clinic like Lotus Surrogacy, the success rate is definitely high and chances are you'll even get through. Adoption is benevolent no doubt but then it cannot be compared to Surrogacy really there's a whole lot of differences. A child is a child and one cannot choose adoption with or without the consideration on the genetic linkage.
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Re: Surrogacy is a better option

Postby ukgirl » Mon Jan 07, 2019 1:41 pm

Hi Glendakim.
Firstly your account is fake so nothing of what you have said is true except to start a conversation in a infertility group, and then you use your other accounts to reply to yourself and pose as different names, I am sure if we ask admin to check out the names IP addresses I can give them that I have come across on this site that you are all from surrogacy clinics in the Ukraine.
Now, onto the subject of adoption, Adoption does not mean it is not your baby after you adopt it, when you adopt a baby into your life you become its parents, to love it as if you had given birth, I wanted to go that route with my second husband but I was classed as too old, so I had to go through the surrogacy route. but when I had an sm carry the baby its still wasn't mine genetically but is my husbands so it is our baby the same as if I had adopted it, in fact we do technically have to adopt as we had to go through Parental order with the court to become parents. ,,so please be very carful not to insult women who adopt a baby "im not against adoption but I thinks it important to have a child of our own"" ???
Now onto SHANK_D
are you for real?? promoting LOTUS and I see its December 2018 you joined, People, do not touch Lotus, check out channel 7 news in Australia and read what they have done to a couple and their twins, Lou & Dale Pitcher, how they left them to fend for themselves with NO medical care in the Ukraine in NICU where both babies were born premature, one was having seizures every day and the other needing two brain operations. the clinic LOTUS that this couple Lou and Dale Pitcher paid over $80.000 too never provided medical care for the babies at all so the couple paid out thousands and had to go ont a support group to get advice on finding Dr's who spoke English, medical supplies late at night to stop the seizures as it was not provided by the hospital so they paid out thousands extra for NICU. thankfully Lou & Dale spoke out about it all on social media and the news papers, I am very annoyed that other ips did not speak up in the past about this clinic to tell the truth about them but you wont read the bad reviews on their facebook page,, no they remove them and ips on other groups are afraid to post the bad stuff but will tell you in private message if you ask.. so stop advertising your clinic on this group, you were never an ip or in a situation of infertility to warrant you being able to take advantage of people like us.

As for me, yes, I had to use surrogacy, I had no choice because of infertility and I am glad I did it, if I could have adopted I would have definitely gone down that route, but sadly I couldn't, Ukraine, from what I can gather is a very corrupt country and the competition between the clinics is HUGE they will try anything to get back at each other, including putting up fake accounts, Would I recommend surrogacy if it were a last option for you? yes, I would, but do your research and don't believe fake reports, look at the language and how its worded, that should tell you .. best of luck to anyone who are on their ivf journey, baby dust and lots of hugs to you all
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