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Postby Zed2003 » Sun Oct 31, 2004 9:29 pm

:( :(

I feel like I'm turning into such a moan about work - BUT I HATE IT. On Saturdays I'm so knackered, and just when I start to chill out, it's Sunday night and I think about Monday :( :( :(

I'm feeling very sorry for myself, I just want to spend more time with Sam. I swear he frowns far more at me during the week, although dh thinks I'm making it up! Probably am - it just feels like that. How do you working mums out there cope??

Sorry for the moan! :oops:

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Postby bubblymichelle » Sun Oct 31, 2004 10:34 pm

Hi Zoe,

Your not moaning at all and I am sure when I go back to work next month I will be exactly like you. The thing is we just want to be with our babies all the time, least you going to work your earning money to pay for Sam's luxuries thats one way to look ain't it. Can't wait for responses from other working Mom's to see whats in store for me.

Hope all is ok.

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Shell.
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Postby sue.m » Mon Nov 01, 2004 9:36 pm

I went back to work part-time....3 days a week and thought I'd hate it going back. But to be I don't think I could do the fulltime mom bit. I think it's much harder work being at home all day with a little one. This way I get a good balance, as for half the week I'm back in a world of adults, but then for th rest of the week I can enjoy my time with Dan.

I must admit that I'd hate being back at work fulltime, because for those days that I am in work I hardly see Dan. It's get home give him his tea, his bath, bottle and then bed. So I can understand why you're so fed up Zoe. Would there be no possibility of reducing your hours at all?

Good luck Shell when you go back next month. Where does the time go, I can't believe that you're almost due back. If I remember rightly you took the year off didn't you? I dared not do that as I thought I'd never want to go back, I took 7 months off by which time I just felt ready to go back.

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Postby bubblymichelle » Tue Nov 02, 2004 10:59 am

Hi Sue,

Thanks for your advice and your outlook at being at work and looking after Dan. I did take the extended leave and due back a week before Christmas, what a lovely time to go back. Least I will just be doing 3 days a week which isn't so bad after all.

It's hard work being at home now Alex is just into everything but I still wouldn't swap what I've got for the world.

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Postby SallyP » Tue Nov 02, 2004 11:28 am

Hi Zoe - sorry to hear you're so down and hating work - how long have you been back at work for? I took 7 months off and went back 4 days a week, and for the first month I hated it too - I was constantly worried about Jay and couldn't concentrate on work. Plus I felt knackered with all the stress of it.

I had started to feel like it was time to go back to work - I'd always loved my job (apart from horrid deadlines!) but towards the end of my mat leave some days were great but some days I started to feel a bit bored with being at home all day and I felt like I needed to do something else . Plus the money was really tight which always adds more stress.

I went back 3 days a week for a month then 4 days and I',m now quite happy. Jay adores nursery and has been there since he was 7 months - he's now 9 months - all the girls there love him and he's full of smiles when I take him in. I think if he wasn't happy I'd know. He has also come on enormously since starting nursery and everyone I know has commented about how sociable and friendly he has become since starting. So that made my return to work a lot easier, knowing he is happy. I also need the money and I think I'm a happier person being able to combine my job with having a lovely 3 days with him, I think it really makes me value the time we have, esp on our day off together. There are disadvantages as well though - Jay is catching every bug going (but at least I hope it will strengtthen his immune system for the future), I have photos of him on my desk and sometimes I long to be at home with him, but overall I'm happy in work, bringing in money, using my one remainning brain cell and knowing that Jay is loving all the female attention in nursery.

Hope it gets easier. I think I would have preferred to go back 3 days like Shell, but settled for 4.

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Postby Zed2003 » Tue Nov 02, 2004 10:41 pm

Ah girls, your all stars.... :D (need to find a star icon!)

Sue - I'm just a moaning cow - so ignore me. I teach and am Dept head, so a lot of flack comes my way from pupils, staff and management. To top it all we are working in what can only be described as a building site and I'm constantly phoning about drilling and hammering (or writing memos about them :shock: !)

My dh is self employed, so really we don't know what's happening from one month to the next - so I have to keep working full-time meantime. Needs must I'm afraid. I would love to go part-time, but because I'm dept head, I don't think they'll allow it, especially as eventually they wasnt to group us with 2 other other subjects and eventually have only one 'head' (costcutting s**t), so don't want to give them any 'oppotunities'. They can't do it when I'm there, and couldn't afford part time on a ordinary teachers salary - so there lies my dilemma..Tonight I saw Sam for an hour before I had to leave again for a parents evening. B**lo**s really. I fought 7 years for him, so don't want to leave him for a second.

OMG - will I be like this when he's a teenager :shock: :? :lol:

I'm lucky really. Having Steve at home means he's flexible and he gets to spend lots of time with Sam (I just wish it was me!! :? )- and his mum comes here for the days he's got a job on. Cuts lots of costs - although I don't think good in the long term as he needs to be with other kids.

Anyway, I'm winning the lottery soon don't you know, so there's the solution... :wink:

Shell - you're a darling as always...You'll probably like 3 days - will get you out. You do get used to it, so tell me to shut up any time you like.

Sally - was off about 7/8 months. Came off around 31 weeks because I had such a rubbish pregnancy so wanted a good few weeks to pamper myself and relax - the wee beggar then came 7 weeks early so that put paid to that! Can you imagine me being at school - 'hang on kids - I'll be back in a mo - just got to do something...' :shock: :shock: :lol:

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Postby bertie » Wed Nov 03, 2004 1:36 pm

I think I put most of my moaning down in 'phoebe' thread.
I had just 6 months off as my waters went 6 week early and work made me start my maternity leave straight away. I've been back to work for nearly 5 week now and I hate it!!! I work 4 days and luckily its a busy job so it stops me from pondering. Phoebe loves it at nursery and this cheers me up. If I thought she didnt like it then I couldnt cope being at work.
I know what you mean as we also waited 7 years to get Phoebe and I dont want to leave her for a second. I am still utterly paranoid and when she isnt at nursery I wont let anyone else look after her!!!!
If only we didnt have to work!! I would gladly swap my job for staying with my babe.

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Postby Zed2003 » Thu Nov 04, 2004 8:52 pm

I'm with you Bertie!

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