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going away for couple of days OMG without Alex.

Postby bubblymichelle » Mon Nov 22, 2004 11:11 pm

Hi Girls,

Well I can't believe it, I will be 30 on Sunday and Lee is taking me away for a couple of days. He won't tell me where I am going, but we will be leaving early on Sunday morning and all he tells me it is a long journey.

Alex is staying at my Mom's from Sunday till Tuesday night, Lee did say if I want him to come with me I can but it will be nice for us to have some quality time together.

I can understand where Lee is coming from Alex needs to be in bed for 20:00 or round that time because he starts getting grumpy etc.... I am looking forward to it but also nervous. Mom knows everything where I am going, and she said he will be best to stay at home because it is cold where I am going???

Intriged don't like surprises, but least its something for my 30th so it should be special.

It doesn't make me a bad mom does it leaving my son with my Mom & Dad for a couple of days?

OMG I'm just a worry wort.

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Shell & Alex
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Postby Guest » Tue Nov 23, 2004 11:53 am

No Shell, you're definitely NOT a bad mummy for taking a couple of days off. In fact, if the days alone help the relationship with Lee, then you could argue that NOT going would be the wrong thing to do.

We were invited to a no-kids wedding last NYE. Maya was only 6m and I was soooo worried. We were in Suffolk for the holidays and the wedding was in Gretna Green and of friends from Australia, so we couldn't take her with us (I'd looked for babysitters and failed). In the end, it all went brilliantly. We had a great time for the 3 days we were away, Maya had a blast and despite all my calls home, didn't appear to miss us at all!

You'll have a great time I'm sure. Just call a few times at the beginning to check Alex is Ok, once he is, feel free to kick back and relax..... I wonder where you're going? abroad you reckon? Rome, Istanbul, Skegness....the world beckons!!

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Postby SallyP » Tue Nov 23, 2004 1:11 pm

hi Shell,

I totally agree with Debra. Think about the reasons:

1. It's a big landmark birthday so you want to celebrate by doing something special.
2. Alex will be with his grandma who he loves and trusts so he'll be fine
3. You and Lee need some 'you' time to get yourselves back on track to talk and whatever!! :oops:
4. After everything you#ve been through, you deserve it so remember that and go a bit easier on yourself or I'll borrow Jo's birch twigs!

I reckon it's either scotland or to see Father Christmas in Lapland. What do you reckon girls - shall we have a bet on where Shell's going?

love Sally xxx
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Postby bubblymichelle » Tue Nov 23, 2004 11:28 pm

Hi Girls,

Well I still don't have a clue where I am going and my Mom won't tell me and Lee says he will not tell me either. My Mom is now having Alex for me on the Saturday night because Lee said I have to leave at 06:00 on Sunday morning so it wouldn't be fairto drga Alex out at that time. I really do not know where I am going, I don't think Lapland but wouldn't be surprised if it is Scotland. I have brought myself a new jacket for where I am going and just got to get myself prepared.

I am nervous and excited, worried incase we don't get on but hoping with all my heart we will.

Deb - Thanks for your advice you've made me feel better that I know someone else whose gone away and left there little one at home. I know Di done it for a weekend I think it was I may be wrong and she enjoyed herself.

Sally - Lovely to hear from you, well I will be posting when I am back to let you all know where I ended up. How is your little one? Have you had a good day at work?

Love
Shell.
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Postby phil » Wed Nov 24, 2004 12:24 am

hey shell, same birthday as me!

have a fabulous time wherever you go! lovely little Alex will be fine, well cared for and loved. what could be better!

so, happy birthday! enjoy yourself and drink one for me!

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Postby diane30 » Wed Nov 24, 2004 1:07 am

hiya shell


you will have a great time you really deserve to let your hair down
and have some time to yourselves
your mom will be fine with alex

i really enjoyed my time in amsterdam and the girl i went with my sis in law has just found out she is pregnant im so exited a new cousin for ben

you have a fab time and if you find a computer tell us were you are cause im nosy lol


love
di
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Postby DebraP » Wed Nov 24, 2004 7:41 am

Shell, if it's Lapland, wave as you fly over please!!! Dress up warm too, we've having an extremely cold snap. Minus 14 yesterday and we've had 30cm of snow lying around for a while now.....

Fingers crossed it's somewhere warm and romantic...

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Postby bubblymichelle » Wed Nov 24, 2004 8:03 am

Hi Everyone,

Phil - So your Birthday is on the same day has mine? well I want you to enjoy yourself and of course I will be having a drink for you but not many because I don't drink that much. Have you anything planned yourself?

Di - You was up late wasn't you, I looked at what time you posted and it was after 01:00 in the morning. How is your little one? Did the antibotics work? That is brill news a new cousin for Ben I bet your well happy for her ain't you.

Deb - I love Snow, I wouldn't mind taking Alex to Lapland when he is a little older to be honest. I looked where you are Norway and bloody hell I bet it is cold there.

Weather cold and frosty here this morning, Alex woke at 02:40 this morning and awake at 07:00 just gave him a bottle and now going to have his Ready Brek.

Best go and see to him, he's downstairs in his highchair watching Cbeebies.

Have any of you been watching I'm A Celeb?

Love
Shell & Alex
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Postby Jo Locker » Wed Nov 24, 2004 9:07 am

Shell, how wonderful for you and don't you worry a bit about Alex ..... babies seem to have their own little time frames going on and don't appear to view a couple of days any different to a couple of hours!

I'm sure in fact that it will do you good to have the rest, the holiday, and the time with Lee - brilliant!!!!!!!!

Bet you're going to see Santa !!! Next time you go you can take Alex with you. Or perhaps Russia ...... so gorgeous in the winter!! The possibilities are endless!!

Relax and enjoy yourselves - and have a very HAPPY BIRTHDAY !!!

Lots of love - Jo.XXXXX
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Postby bubblymichelle » Wed Nov 24, 2004 11:13 am

Hi Jo,

Well I am still thinking of where I could be going, I do have Di's mobile number so I could text Di and let her know where I ended up or I could keep you all in suspense and tell you when I get back. Who knows where I am off too, but I think if I was going to Lapland or anything Alex would be booked to go as well so I wonder I wonder.

Just off out shopping now to get some cards, it's my Mom & Dad's anniversary on my Birthday so I must go and get them a card.

What you got planned today Jo?

Love & Hugs
Shell
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Postby DebraP » Wed Nov 24, 2004 12:12 pm

Hi, yes is it cold here but MUCH warmer today (minus 1) than a couple of days ago. There's masses of snow falling again. We've a Champion's League match being played next door (Rosenborg if anyone is a footie fan) and they're playing a team from Athens tonight, I just saw some of their fans in town looking shellshocked....poor sods obviously weren't expecting this much snow!

Shell, I'm sure you know this and aren't giving him too much but Ready Brek has a lot of hidden salt. There was a terrible case last year of a baby who died as his parents had thought it was the same as baby porrage and given it to him several times a day. I think their baby was younger than Alex and I really don't want to scare you but you might want to check what age it's suitable for. Although they may have changed the recipe by now. Sorry if this alarms you.

I'm back indoors from having worked this morning. I do a mixture of EFL teaching and proof reading so will spend the afternoon checking the text of a book.

Hoping all our babies are well and having fun. Maya is back at kindergarten having been ill yesterday. The children play out in the snow for hours and even sleep outside - in their prams and super thick sleeping bags. They are hardy little souls!

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Postby Jo Locker » Wed Nov 24, 2004 12:31 pm

Hi Shell - well I'm at work now actually, but you still have to check for messages now and then y'know!! We've got a big staff meeting today and we're having food brought in which smells gorgeous!!!

So excited for you about your holiday - Adrian and I will probably go somewhere on our own next year just for a couple or three days - dont feel guilty - Alex will probably enjoy the change too, babies are no different to us I suppose. he'll miss you but have a great time I'm sure!!

The Ready Brek thing has surprised me, about the hidden salt etc - Alice has not tried it yet but I was going to start giving her this instead of baby porridge, but now I'll give it a miss I think!! She likes the "Cow and Gate" Sunshine Orange variety anyway so I'll stick to that. Thanks to Debra for that. XX Wish we had a bit more snow here, to play in. Sounds lovely where you live Debs.

Shell ........ we can't wait to find out where you went!! Hope you and Lee have a blast!

Lots of Love - Jo. XXXXX
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Postby diane30 » Wed Nov 24, 2004 4:09 pm

hi shell


hope you r ok

bens medicine worked until a few days after he stopprd taking it doc said everytime he has a flare up he will have to have antibiotics which im not happy about
still got to bath him in oil and apply cream 4 times a day and see what happens

ive never heard that about the ready break have you?

i was up late last nite could not sleep

anyway speak to you soon
love
di
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Postby bubblymichelle » Wed Nov 24, 2004 10:51 pm

Hi Girls,

Deb - I am well shocked about the ready brek because my h/v said to give it Alex but when he next gets weighed I am going to mention it to her and see what she says. I wouldn't think it would hurt Alex now he's coming up to 10 months old but I may be wrong. Deb it sounds lovely there with all that snow, I would love a couple of inches here it would be well great but I suppose once we have it I would be wanting it to melt. How many inches would you reckon you have?

Jo - It's just me worrying about going away I suppose, never been without Alex anywhere well tell a lie Mom has had him overnight for me on a couple of occasions but thats about it.

Di - I couldn't believe it when I saw your time of post, no wonder you couldn't sleep.

Where's Sally gone today?

Have I missed anyone?

Alex liked the Sunshine Orange but he likes the peachy porridge now and I think that is Heinz I may be wrong. I have been giving him the Mom's own jars he hated jars at one time but he is getting better with his meals now and he will eat them now no problem. He has had Vegetable Jumble tonight.

Nite Nite All.
Love
Shell.

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Postby Guest » Thu Nov 25, 2004 9:45 am

Hi, I found a link to the salt story. It looks like Ready Brek was only one of the things he was fed incl. gravy which was probably the real cuprit. He was only a few months old and much too young to be eating adult foods but the parents didn't know any better.

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/uk/404667.stm

BUT in this article it says Ready Brek is low salt.....

http://www.mirror.co.uk/sexandslimming/ ... _page.html

and this child-specific article says it's fine once they're over 6m....

http://www.annabelkarmel.com/6-92.htm

Shell, if your health visitor said it's Ok then I'm sure it's OK. I found lots of links to stories saying it's a low salt breakfast so it was probably the combination of foods that was so unhealthy.

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