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What now?

Postby Thistle » Thu Jan 13, 2005 12:45 pm

Hi,

I am new to this and it is making my hands shake typing! My story is far to long to start, so I will sumarise the past eight years in a word "babyless".

After 3 failed ivf attempts, only one tube and ovary, cysts, adhesions, endometriosis, an auto-immune condition and a burst appendix at 13 why did I think I had a chance?

Hysterectomy is my next move and at only 32 I can't get my head round it.

What now? All ideas would be gratefully recieved.
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Postby ogr1 » Thu Jan 13, 2005 10:35 pm

they wanted to do a Hysterectomy on me 10 years ago and i wouldnt let them.
i dont have any answers for you. i wish i did..
have you thought about a surrogate ?
donor eggs? before you have a hysterectomy?

you should also post on the gen bord.
everybody normaly goes there..


but this is a great place to vent and find some good friends.
it has saved me a trilion times..
it is so easy to get lost in our greif..

look forward to talking with you..

and some times it is good to wirhgt everything down that you have gone threw.. there isnt a right way or a wrong way on here..

becky
we werent blessed with our babies to raise here but we our blessed with our grandaughter
and all of our many adopted and foster children that touch our lives
and i am glad to add that our 6th grandchild will be born this spring!!!!
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Postby jill dickens » Fri Jan 14, 2005 12:50 am

Hi Thistle,
I am so sorry to hear about all you have gone through. Like Becky I have no advice as such but do please keep writing here it has given me so much support and help just being able to chat and vent my feelings to people who truly do understand. I am six years down the line and "babyless" and I am now moving onto adoption.
Take care love Jill x
TTC nearly 9 years
Raised FSH
natural pg M/C, 12 months on Clomid +ve M/C
1st Egg Donor IVF Cycle Oct 04 +ve M/C my dream is over
Nov 04 Began the adoption journey
Nov 06 our beautiful baby girl has come home we were matched at just over 12 months
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Postby Thistle » Sun Jan 16, 2005 1:13 pm

Thank you org1 and Jill.

It is very hard for me to talk about anything with the word baby in the sentance. My little sister (10 years yonger) is due this june and I so want my mum to do the granny bit, without the feelings of pity for me.

I will be keeping in touch and some time soon I will try and write it all down.

Take care

Thistle
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Postby jill dickens » Sun Jan 16, 2005 8:21 pm

Hi Thistle,
Just to say it was good to hear from you, take care we will be here with support if and when you need it love Jill x
TTC nearly 9 years
Raised FSH
natural pg M/C, 12 months on Clomid +ve M/C
1st Egg Donor IVF Cycle Oct 04 +ve M/C my dream is over
Nov 04 Began the adoption journey
Nov 06 our beautiful baby girl has come home we were matched at just over 12 months
jill dickens
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Posts: 237
Joined: Thu Jul 01, 2004 9:33 pm
Location: UK

Postby ogr1 » Mon Jan 17, 2005 3:28 am

just wanted to add my 2 cents and to for warn you

that you are going to have a bunch of different feelings about your mom and sister. and it is ok and very normal ...

alot of use have gone threw this and have beat ourselves up over it...

i am very sad that i cant give birth but that i am going to be a grandmother..
i am very happy thou that i am going to be a grandmother..

and i am truly doing ok..
i think that it is important to let yourself have the feelings..
it is never good to hold them in.. that is what i have learned ..

it is important to always take care of yourself and that we are all great women :!: :!:
becky
we werent blessed with our babies to raise here but we our blessed with our grandaughter
and all of our many adopted and foster children that touch our lives
and i am glad to add that our 6th grandchild will be born this spring!!!!
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Postby jill dickens » Tue Jan 18, 2005 11:43 pm

Hi Thistle,
Just wanted to check up on you to see how you are? Anytime you need a chat we are all here for you take care love jill x
TTC nearly 9 years
Raised FSH
natural pg M/C, 12 months on Clomid +ve M/C
1st Egg Donor IVF Cycle Oct 04 +ve M/C my dream is over
Nov 04 Began the adoption journey
Nov 06 our beautiful baby girl has come home we were matched at just over 12 months
jill dickens
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Posts: 237
Joined: Thu Jul 01, 2004 9:33 pm
Location: UK


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