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Message for Thistle

Postby louli » Thu Jan 20, 2005 11:14 am

I'm sad to read your post but know how you feel. I have endo, no tubes, only one ovary ,adhesions, failed IVF twice, only got to egg collection once and then no eggs, have failed egg donation twice and almost given up hope. I see that you are located in Devon. This is a huge county but does not have the best services for fertility. Where are you? I am in South Hams. You are much younger than me and I don't think you should give up hope because miracles do happen, sometimes when we least expect them to. All good wishes to you,
Lou
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Postby Thistle » Thu Jan 20, 2005 4:32 pm

Hi Lou

I am in Exeter and I have just got back from an appointment at the ivf clinic.

We discussed my future plans. I looks like I am not going to give up yet and will probably have more ivf but this time we are going to try doing a course of steriods at the same time.

I need to do some more research on what they do, why and how, so I have posted a question in the General section to see if anyone has got experiene of this.

I was sorry to hear that we are in the same boat (bixarre co-incidences), it is so easy to think that I am alone in this.

I have no-one but my DH to talk to and just to add more pressure, my little sister and two best friends are expecting in the spring and summer. Thats three out of four bridemaids from my wedding five years ago. I am not sure how I am going to cope with the chance of more ivf failures at the same time as they are all due. Take each day as it comes and hope that they will understand my feelings of jealousy and envy at how simple their choice to have a family has been.

Love to hear from you as to what path you are going to take now.

Best wishes

Thistle
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Postby louli » Thu Jan 20, 2005 6:08 pm

Dear Thistle,
That was a quick reply! No, you are definitely not alone. So understand your feelings. ALL of my friends now have babies and I feel so isolated from their exclusive club. My Mum is with my younger sister in OZ at present visiting her baby which is hard. I think you have to try soooo! hard to find anything other than this awful hollow that makes you feel happy. Do not put yourself through difficult situations with family / friends / babies etc. just because you feel that you should. If they care they know you love them anyway and one day you may be able to explain it all! We are going to try egg donation again this spring but have to go to Spain! Keep in touch. Keep strong and don't give up!!
Lou
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