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Postby brandonsmom » Fri Nov 04, 2005 8:09 pm

Hello all :D ,
My name is Donna. I am 37 years old. I have a 3 year old son through adoption. We chose adoption after 11 miscarriages. The doctors can not find anything wrong with us. The doctors wanted to try the IVF method and after alot of talk with the husband, we decided to try ivf.
I had my transfer on Oct. 24th with 2 heathly 5 day embryos. We are currently overseas so I do not understand alot of what the doctors are saying. So, I need help. I heard that Brussels Belgium has a very high success rate in fertility, so here we are. My husband is in the service. That is why we are here.
:?: It is now Friday, November 4. I am having alot of heavy cramping (no bleeding at all). My breast were so big and sore and now they have lost soreness and I am afraid this is a bad thing. Is this normal?
I hope someone can help me. This is my first time with this.

Thank You and God Bless you all!
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Postby Sand » Fri Nov 04, 2005 9:54 pm

Hi Donna

Welcome to the Site. I'm so sorry you've been through so much heartache so far. I hope this Site gives you some support. It's such a long bumpy ride doing IVF in your own language / country, nevermind overseas.

The symptoms that girls present really do not follow .... Some have symptoms and go on to get +ves, some have literally no symptoms and still go on to get their BFPs. There really is no logic. Don't fret about every ache and twinge. It'll drive you crazy.

If you go over to the General Forum, you'll find a thread named Nov Test dates (or something like that). If you post your test date there, you'll be added to the list, and that way we can all cheer you on, on your run up to test day.

Best of luck Donna

Sandra x
Me 41 yrs old - dh 49 yrs old. ttc 110 yrs.
1st cycle (ICSI)....Mar 04 -ve.
2nd cycle (ICSI)....Aug 04 -ve.
3rd cycle FET........May 05 -ve.
4th cycle (ICSI) ... Feb 06 -ve
5th cycle FET ..... Feb/Mar 11
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Postby brandonsmom » Mon Nov 07, 2005 8:41 pm

Thank you for the reply. I am so sorry for not typing back sooner but I have a rough time of this. I did have my test today and it was a negitive. Sorry I am not up on the site lingo yet. I am so Bummed today. My hubby is too!!! :cry: I am not sure if I want to go it again. It was so much to handle. At least for me. After the rollercoaster ride I have been on, well, I just want off. At least that is how I feel today but I know me I will be ready to try again after my heart heals. Well, anyway, I really hope the others that test today has better news.


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11 miscarriages from 1995-2002
1 unsuccessful IVF 11-7-05
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Postby AMck » Mon Nov 07, 2005 9:53 pm

Hi Brandonsmum

Sorry to hear your news. it is devastating. No words can take away the heartache. Please take time to be kind to yourself. This is a difficult time and you need time to readjust.

There are lots of girls supporting each other on the general forum, you may want to read some of their stories.

Take time to decide what you want to do next. Sending you a big hug!

Take care

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Postby Tami2525 » Fri Nov 11, 2005 1:44 pm


I know how you feel about IVF not working. I got a negative result 10/12, our wedding anniversary. I still cry. I spent a lot of time in bed, crying and sleeping.

I try so hard to put on a brave face about trying again in January but I am so scared. I don't know if I will be able to handle another failure without some professional help but I do know that in 10 years I will look back and wish that I tried when I could.

You will make the decision that is right for you.

Tami (25 - DOR) and Zach (27 Azoo before surgery), Trying since 2002

US - IUI 3x in 2004 with donor sperm
IVF 6/2005 - cycle aborted - failure to stimulate
IVF 9/2005 - cycle failed

Future - IVF scheduled for 1/2006
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Postby brandonsmom » Sat Nov 12, 2005 5:58 pm

I am so sorry to hear about your news. Bummer!! :cry: I am praying for you and all who are going through this emotional roller coaster ride. I wish I could be there to be a support for you. I need support as well. I have amazing friends but no one who knows what I am feeling right now. I hope you have someone there to comfort you. I have been praying for comfort. ( I love Jesus) I feel better but not whole. It will take time. I want to continue but I do not have it in me at this time. Maybe about Feb. I will.
I just want the doctors to find something so we can move forward, but they cannot find anything wrong with my hubby or myself. We have been going through this for 10 years. I am so ready to get off this roller coaster ride.
I feel like a piece of my womenhood has been ripped off. Does anyone else feel like this? Well, I will continue to pray for us all to get our bundles of sweet joy.
God Bless you all!!!!!

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