Gill - welcome babe. Was only a matter of time before you found us!! You'll see when you read the thread that we were speculating about you joining this thread! Of course you are very welcome. Sure that JB will put you on the list before you know it!
JB - cannot believe what you have been through with your previous partner. It made me cry when I read about you letting his daughter go. That is such a brave and selfless thing to do hun. Hope that you are feeling better and that the bug has passed for you now. Take care. So pleased that you found an acu near home who is in this field. Interested to hear when she wants to see you. I see my guy before AF. Sure that he will see me before AF and then during patches to help my lining. We can compare notes. May be we did not meet before if we cycled at different times??? I did April/May 2006 and was on that thread first. Then Dec 2006 for 2nd ivf (break as had tubal surgery last August). Then March 2007. Then June 2007 thread but left that when I pushed go 4 back by a month. Then Awaiting Tmt thread. Anyway, we met now which is awesome and so helpful. I am cool with the anonymous - I just worry how a child will feel that I have not given them the options to trace a genetic mother. I plan to explain the wait lists here and say that at my age that we could not wait any longer...........
Kim - HH is Hammersmith Hospital in London. Vicki cycled there 3 times and they helped her have her little girl. I cycled there for my 1st 3 tries and we were both under the same consultant - Mr Trew!!! Having to pick a donor seems like such a huge decision. Kinda glad that the clinic will do that for me but it must be good for you to have a number to select from. It is a good idea about the insurance thing but most/if not all UK insurance will not cover any form of infertility tmt at all. Bummer !!!!
Kelly - hope that you are going to let us know how you get on with your FET?
Rebecca - really close for you now. Glad that your sister is doing so well. May be you will have frosties too. As someone else said her EC may be very different to yours. I have a close friend who is going through IVF + DE and her youngest sister is her donor. She said that Ec was very emotional for them both. Glad that your councellor has been a big support to you. Sorry about the comments from your Mum. It is hard for them to know the right thing to say. Not sure abot delestrogen - not taken that one I'm afraid.
Anna - your posts are so very helpful. Thank you for finding time to help us. Sure that I will have a High Risk sign on my file. Helpful to be warned about these things so you can prepare. Good that you told us about the barrage of questions about the medical history. Will help us all prepare for the future. Can I may be ask something else. Did you have the same donor for cycle 1 and cycle 2 or did they use a different donor for you? Sorry about all the questions
Jen1d - loving the attitude!! Now you just need to keep it up! Hope that the headaches have cleared. Look now it is only 10 days and you will be at ET. How amazing is that! Your lovely lady must be on stimmies now. Will they tell you when EC is and how many you get or will you need to wait until you go over???
Vicki - You have been through so much with your dh too. I agree that it makes you so much stronger as a couple and determined to enjoy what you have got together every single day. Do you have any idea what the wait list at IVI will be like? Hope that it is not going to be too long. I was so hoping that we might be cycle buddies!
Thank you all for your responses on the questions. It really helps to hear what others are thinking. It sounds like we are all in quite a similar place. I am going to be a little bit more wary about who I tell it is a donor cycle and if people ask then just say IVF #5 and leave it at that. I don't know who my Dad is, my Mum got pregnant very young. So I have been brought up since 5 by her now husband. So there would not be a genetic link there anyway. Somehow this helps a little as I have had to deal with the situation of not knowing my genetic father. But does hurt to know that the baby will not have a link to my Mum. We have talked about this already and she is very cool. Says that she will love the baby just as much as her other grandchildren and it will be my baby as I will have carried it. Was telling her about the epigentics too.
I have been doing some research and came across a website - The Donor Conception Network
Have a series of books that you can download in PDF for free. They are for different age ranges. Books are called Telling and Talking. I read the first book last weekend for the very youngest children. It certainly helped give me some ideas of how I might be able to broach the subject.
I was not told that my Mum's husband was not my father. At age 10, I found a picture of their wedding and I was there. I knew that was not right so hunted out my birth certificate one day when my Mum and her dh were out. Different name. Wrote a letter to my Mum and put it on her pillow. Can remember the conversation the next morning like it was yesterday. It has not been discussed much over the last 40 years - may be 3 times tops and never with my 1/2 sisters. I want to do it very differently. We talked about all this when we went to see counsellor. She said that if the child knows that it is part of their 'story' but cannot recall the exact conversation where they found out that is 'better' for them. I want to try to do it gradually so no big event if I can. That is if this DE works!!
Anyway, have a good Saturday all. I need to clear out our study because it is a tip and need to find my driving licence as have 3 points (speeding
!) Have been up for hours and done nothing yet........
Lots of Love to you all.
Me 42, DH 52 IVF #1, #2, #3 ICSI #4 - 10.05.2006, 12.12.2006, 10.03.2007, 27.07.2007 ICSI/DE/TESA #5, #6 PGD/IVIG #7 - 24.11.2007, 27.02.2008, 23.05.2008 - 7 BFNs
Surrogacy/FET #8 - 15.10.2008 - BFP