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Postby brookeliam » Sun Dec 10, 2017 7:23 am

Hi guys! I was thinking for a long time to discuss my condition with others. I was not feeling comfortable in doing so with my friends and family. They seem to be busy in their lives. But I had to express my stressing situation somewhere. Now here I am. I am 28 years old. I am married to the love of my life. He is a really good man. But I think I am not the right person for him. I cannot even give him a baby. What is even left for me in this life? I ask such questions every time to myself. But do not get an answer. I am not able to get pregnant because of my heart disease. It is going to take too much time to get cured. I do not want to be an old mom. I want to have a baby ASAP. Suggest me a way out of this.
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Re: cannot even give him a baby

Postby JennyKL2017 » Sun Dec 10, 2017 1:06 pm

Hi, dear. There are a lot of infertile women in the world. I’m very glad that most of them are looking for the way to become parents. Heart disease is a huge reason for not getting pregnant. It can be too dangerous for your health. If you are still fertile, why don’t you find the surrogate to give birth for you? A lot of women do it after long years of ttc. My twin boys were also born by the surrogate. The process is pretty simple. You have nothing to worry about. Actually, you have two options at the moment: adoption and surrogacy. You told that you want to have a baby ASAP. That’s why adoption is not a good option. It takes a couple of years to get a baby. Surrogacy takes 9-12 months. So, after the embryo transfer you will have to wait an ordinary 9 months to get a child. After that you will go home with a baby. I think this is a great chance for you to give a baby to your DH. You should discuss this option with him. I’m sure he will agree. As usual, men are against of adoption. We all want to have our biological kids. It is absolutely normal desire.
Start from visiting the reproduction center. Consult a doctor and ask his opinion. After that you can sign an agreement and start the examinations. As usual, the price for the examinations is included into the package you have chosen. There’s no need to pay additionally. After that they will choose the surrogate for you. In a couple of weeks the embryo will be transferred. I’m sure your surrogate will get pregnant from the first attempt.
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Re: cannot even give him a baby

Postby Ghost » Sun Dec 10, 2017 4:47 pm

brookeliam wrote:Hi guys! I was thinking for a long time to discuss my condition with others. I was not feeling comfortable in doing so with my friends and family. They seem to be busy in their lives. But I had to express my stressing situation somewhere. Now here I am. I am 28 years old. I am married to the love of my life. He is a really good man. But I think I am not the right person for him. I cannot even give him a baby. What is even left for me in this life? I ask such questions every time to myself. But do not get an answer. I am not able to get pregnant because of my heart disease. It is going to take too much time to get cured. I do not want to be an old mom. I want to have a baby ASAP. Suggest me a way out of this.


Whatever you do, avoid surrogacy in the Ukraine. Too much deceptive advertising.
Avoid IVF and surrogacy in Ukraine. Ukrainian centers pay shills to post here under numerous sock accounts pretending to be patients in Ukraine. Centers using such deceptive advertising cannot be trusted and should be avoided.
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Re: cannot even give him a baby

Postby Ghost » Sun Dec 10, 2017 5:00 pm

JennyKL2017 wrote: After that they will choose the surrogate for you. In a couple of weeks the embryo will be transferred. I’m sure your surrogate will get pregnant from the first attempt.


She did not post anything indicating she would need a surrogate.

How do you know she will need that very expensive option?
Avoid IVF and surrogacy in Ukraine. Ukrainian centers pay shills to post here under numerous sock accounts pretending to be patients in Ukraine. Centers using such deceptive advertising cannot be trusted and should be avoided.
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Re: cannot even give him a baby

Postby Zarah » Wed Dec 13, 2017 11:30 am

brookeliam wrote:Hi guys! I was thinking for a long time to discuss my condition with others. I was not feeling comfortable in doing so with my friends and family. They seem to be busy in their lives. But I had to express my stressing situation somewhere. Now here I am. I am 28 years old. I am married to the love of my life. He is a really good man. But I think I am not the right person for him. I cannot even give him a baby. What is even left for me in this life? I ask such questions every time to myself. But do not get an answer. I am not able to get pregnant because of my heart disease. It is going to take too much time to get cured. I do not want to be an old mom. I want to have a baby ASAP. Suggest me a way out of this.




Don't be sad & don't blame yourself, there are many women suffering from infertility. I was also one of them. I had blocked fallopian tubes & was unable to conceive. I was stressed, heartbroken and quite for a long time. Luckily, my DH and in-laws are very supportive, they are there with me throughout. After a long struggle, I get to know about IVF treatment, my DH personally search alot and study a lot about this because he wants a child very badly. Now, we are enjoying parenthood with a cute, little baby girl. :D . So, I want to tell you don't be disheartened. Nowadays, there are various options to get pregnant. Just go to a authentic and trustworthy clinic. The chosen clinic will play a vital role in your treatment. Hope you will be able to give your husband a child. Stay strong and positive. Good Luck.
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Re: cannot even give him a baby

Postby Ghost » Wed Dec 13, 2017 3:16 pm

Zarah is another sock account advertising for a Ukrainian clinic by pretending to be a patient.

Avoid any clinics that advertise so deceptively.
Avoid IVF and surrogacy in Ukraine. Ukrainian centers pay shills to post here under numerous sock accounts pretending to be patients in Ukraine. Centers using such deceptive advertising cannot be trusted and should be avoided.
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