I need some hope...

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Post by Dolly » Tue Aug 05, 2003 10:59 am

Hi there, I was hoping you might be able to help me. My first IVF cycle has failed and I am feeling pretty miserable and finding it hard to believe it will ever work out for me... <br><br>I was just wondering how many cylces did you all do before you got pregnant? And did you feel like giving up after the first attempt had failed? <br><br>Love<br><br>Dolly
Me 38 / DH 40. TTC 8 yrs
3 natural pg - 2 ectopics and 1 miscarriage
2nd IVF +ve but miscarried
1st, 3rd, 4th, 5th, 6th IVF all -ve
Moved to the ARGC.
Just started for the 7th time (!) Feb/March 2006.


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Post by Tracey S » Tue Aug 05, 2003 11:14 am

Dolly<br><br>I was 4th attempt - in darker moments I used to think it would never happen and still have to pinch myself I am pg - it will happen for you - don't give up but take some time out to grieve your loss<br><br>Love<br>Tracey<br>xxx
ttc 9 years. 38 yrs old, dh 8 hrs younger!First IVF in Aug 2002 and had ectopic.2nd IVF neg.3rd FET and negative.4th FET and positive but sadly lost our little boy at 20 weeks.5th FET and Alice Isobel and Emily Charlotte born 5th Aug 2004!

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Post by fiona_lk » Tue Aug 05, 2003 11:51 am

Hi Dolly,<br><br>I have had 14 ART cycles (and so 14 2ww's) - 3 of which were IVF with ICSI. In the time we have ttc I have had an ectopic and a m/c from a naturally conceived pg.<br><br>We have never ever given up hope otherwise I would not be sat here 7 weeks pg now.<br><br>Hope this helps rather than depresses you.<br><br>Lots of luck<br><br><br>love Fiona xxx
Me:36 Dh:46, ttc 5+yrs, M/F (96% abnormal).
13 unsuccessful Txs From 2000 [4xClomid (NHS), 7xIUI(d)s & ICSI#1 (MFS), ICSI#2 (MFS) Oct 02 (ectopic)] Natural pg Jan 03 m/c 5.5wks
ICSI#3 (CARE) +ve boy (Xander) EDD 21/03/04 - so excited!!!!!!

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Post by Jo Locker » Tue Aug 05, 2003 12:04 pm

Hi Dolly. Please don't give up hope. We had our first cycle abandoned due to lack of response to the drugs (that was really disappointing) and the next ICSI failed for no apparent reason, the embryos just didnt want to stick around for some reason. <br><br>I never thought it would work in a million years, and I truly expected to have to give up at the end of this year. We could only really afford one more try.<br><br>BUT, second proper attempt, although third start, that little line appeared on the test and I couldnt believe it. Felt exactly the same all the way through the 2ww as when it failed.<br><br>Don't give up - it is just amazing when it works. The thing you need most I think is patience. Wait a while then do it again - there's no reason why it wont work out for you.<br><br>I hope you soon feel a bit better ( you will I promise ) and can get excited about attempt No 2 (you will!!!)<br><br>Lots of Love - Jo. XXXXX<br><br>

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Post by max » Tue Aug 05, 2003 1:19 pm

Dolly<br>We were successful on our third ivf attempt (i'm now 37 weeks pg). I hadn't been entirely happy with the way the embryos had been transferred in the first 2 attempts and moved to the ARGC for the third go. It was going to be the last attempt, because I couldn't deal with more. I really didn't expect it to work, no one does I'm sure. So do try again. Most people take more than one try, and though devastating, you'll come through and know if and when you're ready to try again. Only YOU can know that.Make sure you're really happy with the clinic.<br><br>I wish you lots of luck and keep strong.<br><br>MAX<br><br><br><br>

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Post by Helen G » Tue Aug 05, 2003 2:26 pm

Hi Dolly<br><br>I'm really sorry that IVF didn't work for you this time - as Tracey says, don't give up hope yet but do allow yourself time to grieve!!<br><br>I feel very lucky in that I became pregnant on the 2nd attempt - I'm now 25 weeks pregnant with twins!! Try and stay positive!<br><br>LOL Helen xx

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Post by Dawn Blake » Wed Aug 06, 2003 10:33 am

Dolly, like the others please don't throw in the towel yet, the whole IVF rollacoaster is an absolute nightmare, but it does work, this board is the proof of that.<br><br>It took us 5 attempts to get that beautiful blue line, it is still very early days (6 weeks Friday), but I can honestly say we are the happiest people ever, and the past failures blur into complete insignificance - hard to believe but true!<br><br>I wish you all the luck in the world!<br><br>Lots of Love<br><br>D x
Me 34, DH, 37. Married for 11 years, ttc for 6+, failed 4 x fresh IVF tmts. 5th attempt at Lister Hospital gave us Megan on 5 April 2004 with a very straightforward pregnancy and labour. Attempt number 6 to start hopefully September 2007!

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Post by Susi » Wed Aug 06, 2003 2:26 pm

Hi Dolly,<br>Posted on the JCB thread and jsut saw this one . My first IVF also failed and i thought that I would never manage to do this again, but you do... Like my DH says ' If you don't try you can't succeed' My second attempt worked ( am now just 5 weeks) and really thought it hadn't worked when i got spotting . Now that it has worked i am so glad did it... Please don't dispair, let yourselves heal and when your ready get back on the rollercoaster.<br>Sending you lots of best wishes<br>Susanne

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Post by tshepher » Thu Aug 07, 2003 2:56 pm

Dolly<br>Please don't give-up hope. <br>I'm curently 38 weeks pg after trying to conceive for 6 years, 2 miscarriages, 1 aborted IVF and 1 failed IVF. I fell pg natgurally the month after the failed IVF and really do feel as if it was some sort of miracle.<br>Belive me DH and I have been through some dark times when you wonder if it's worth going through all the pain but the thought of never having children was always stronger than any thoughts of giving up.<br>I wish you loads of luck for the future and rfemember that you always have loads of us waiting to send hugs and positive vibves your way when you need it.<br>LOL<br>Terri<br>xxxx

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Post by caz1 » Thu Aug 07, 2003 4:51 pm

Dolly - thankyou for asking this -have been feeling v low over the last couple of days after my first failed ICSI in July. All of you guys have really helped give me a kick up the bum , and to have a little faith!....and patience<br><br>Thankyou

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Post by Zed2003 » Fri Aug 08, 2003 9:58 am

Hi Dolly,<br>We've done 3 IVF cycles - the first didn't work, and on the second, after every possible problem happening, we got pregnant only to loose the baby after we'd seen the heartbeat on the first scan. That was in early November and at that point I told myself that I could not and would not, go through that again. However, we gave ourselves time to grieve and started treatment again this July. I am now 7 weeks pregnant and despite still having problems, am glad we tried again - just having hope keeps you going.<br>Let yourself have all the natural feelings you are having, and despite the cliche, time will help you decide whether you want to do it again. I wish you much luck in whatever you decide - just take care of yourself first.<br>Zoe x
1st IVF - Easter 2002 - neg
2nd IVF - Summer 2002 - pos, but M/C 8 wks
3rd IVF Summer 2003 - pos with beautiful baby boy
April 2006 - miracles happen - positive naturally day after receiving IVF letter to start again! Another beautiful boy

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