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Remembering "Scott Harris"

Postby garfieldtracy » Tue Nov 18, 2008 9:56 pm

I am still in the state of shock - but have to tell people and since I am a "stalker" on this board - mainly in the IVF Forum - but I thought it would be OK to post here.

I had an ultrasound at week 35 and everything was great. Scott measured and weighed EXACTLY what he should have for his delivery date of 12/11/08. But, for his 36 week check - yesterday (only 12 days later) they could not find a heartbeat. I was induced and delivered "Scott Harris" (4lbs. 14oz. and 20 in.). The guess is that when all was done my placenta was small - only 8.5 oz. (it should have been around 2 lbs.). The doctors guess (and I am grasping on to anything - guess or not) is that the since the placenta did not increase with Scott that there was a point - just after week 35 that there was not enough oxygen getting from me to Scott so he died. We have gone from getting ready for a Baby Shower Thursday to planning a funeral.

I find it ironic that I never "joined" the December 2008 Babies board - but I did follow everyone progress, read everyone posts, and checked it a couple times a day. I felt part of their group - even if I was not posting. In a way I am glad I never posted there - because they would not understand what I am going through - only you guys who have "Loved and Lost" will. I guess I am just sharing this with you guys, because in the past everyone has shared so much with me and I have learned a lot on this board.
Since there were no warning signs or anything unusual - I am still in state of shock - followed by the feeling of emptiness. I know on this forum it is a common feeling and figure you guys can relate to all of this. All I can say right now is LIFE SUCKS!!!
Thanks for letting me vent.
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Postby ogr1 » Wed Nov 19, 2008 3:02 am

even thou at at times you may feal alone please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you.
i wish no one wouold ever have to go threw this hell.

i have prayed so much over the years and that has helped me and my friends have helped me.
i often go back threw and read the poems and different ppost.
pm me if you would like my e-mail.
we werent blessed with our babies to raise here but we our blessed with our grandaughter
and all of our many adopted and foster children that touch our lives
and i am glad to add that our 6th grandchild will be born this spring!!!!
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Postby Melo_P » Thu Nov 20, 2008 9:08 am

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I can't even imagine the pain and shock you must be feeling right now. God bless your little boy. I hope that you can find peace as you work through your grief. My prayers are with you.
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Postby Tris » Sat Nov 22, 2008 7:39 pm

I am so sorry Tracy!!! It was soo sad to read your post...although it does happen, and to many women, I couldnt believe it...I had tears in my eyes....Im going through a lot myself...had a miscarriage-lost heartbeat....then an ectopic and again now looks like another ectopic....just recently I wanted to GIVE UP! and LIFE just doesnt seem fair.... but there is always HOPE! believe it!!!

My prayers are with you....hope youre OK now! :oops:
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