I'm new to this blog. Lucky one your message was the first one I read. I am 40 years old and have been TTC for 3 years. My 1st two attempts were FET and both were BFN
. Last Nov I had my first IUI with fresh donor sperm and was sure it would work. But after 2ww got another BFN. I felt so discouraged. I just had my 1st IVF, with my own retrieved eggs and donor sperm. After 2ww on 8/10/09 I got a BFP!!!! I was shocked. At 17dpo my hcg was 90 (pretty good) and at 19dpo jumped to 218
. Yesterday was my 1st sono and I have a very nice yolk sac, looks good and next week we expect a heartbeat. My hcg is now 6,421!!!
I think you should trust your doctor on this one and go with the fresh embryo transfer. Don't lose the faith, its so easy to get discouraged and doubtful. But trust that it will happen for you. The main thing I did differently before this last course was I changed my diet, lost about 25 lbs. and I also had my thyroid checked turns out I had underactive thyroid and was put on meds for it. The medications made it easier for me to lose the excess weight, which I believe may get in the way of an embryo trying to implant.
I can't tell you how happy my lesbian partner and I are to be where we are today. Not quite out of the woods yet, but every day is a blessing and I am thankful.
Please,please dont give up and if you haven't already see an endocrinologist and a fertility specialist. Get someone who is aggressive
find a doctor who wants this for you as much as you do. My doctor and his staff actually cried when I got my positive results. If thats what you need to find then get proactive and go find them today!!!!!
I hope my info helps you, willing to listen if you just need to vent.
Good luck, Jules