Hi there Sunshine:
Hope you don't mind my "interrupting" your journaling...I think that was totally rude of your doctor's assistant to shoot down your idea of IUI and to jump on you with her own "judgments". And to make you wait 2 more months for consultation?!?! uh--uh...I have had 3 IVFs--and as you can see from my signature, not an easy or positive time. We are moving on to IUI despite it feeling like a "backward" move. My last doctor told me, when I suggested it, that we had a 0% chance with IUI at my age. How dare he?! And, that was the day he told me there was no HB on my little embie that had been going up and down with the beta levels...absolutely no sensitivity. I left that day and never returned. I went back to my OBGYN who referred me to another clinic and I am so happy.
We are doing it for financial reasons, but I must say, DH and I both agree that we really wish we had tried IUI first.
Yes, IUI has less success rates than IVF, but at 10% the cost....hm...and it is so less taxing on my body physically. This feels like a breeze compared to the pain and discomfort I was in with IVF. I was treated with low stims for this IUI. At first I was discouraged because after the ruptured ectopic--from IVF--I only have one tube, but my RE was right and I ended up on trigger day with 3 follies over 18mm, 4 that were 15-16mm (so they could possibly be mature or become mature by ovulation), 4 more over 10, and 5 less than 10. All on my Left side!! Where my tube is! DH doesn't have issues, so his sperm tested great that day. I realize that at my age, most of my eggs aren't so good, so it isn't a sure thing by any means, but at this price, we can afford 2-3 cycles if necessary.
I know that IUI isn't appropriate for everyone. I don't know your particular situation, but I think everyone should consider all options.
Anyway, I applaud you for moving on to a new RE. I've had to do it twice, and am SO glad I did. My 1st clinic--I almost died, literally. The second was so insensitive and rude to me. This time, this RE is so nice and smart, and the nurses are all great and encouraging...and I feel a complete participant in the decisions that are made.
I am really hopefully. Good luck with your appt on November 11th. Keep me posted!
Oh, and your discussion about your relationship with your DH--it is so beautiful and so important. Love and strength and supporting one another is so crucial not only for IVF, but for your entire lives regardless of the outcome of this particular obstacle.
Praying for the best for you!! It will happen--one way or another.
Me: 44, endo. & 1 tube due to rupture
DH 36 fine
IVF#1 double ectopic/severe OHSS 12/08
IUI#1, #2, and #3, 2010 BFN
IVF#4-2/11 HPT=BFP 11dpo; 13dpo=240! 15dpo=653, 20dpo=5522,3/29=u/s-1sac1yolk 4/4=2 HBs!