Hi everyone
I had my 5 day transfer today. I transferred 2 blastocysts. The
RE wouldn't let me do 3. So we are waiting to see if there is anything else to freeze. While we were waiting for the transfer
DH and I decided that the next step is the USA if this doesnt work. Too many " can't do this, can't do that", in Australia and they have a "one size fits all" approach no matter what age you are.
Over the last 3 weeks I have never heard so many conflicting comments from doctors. I like this one:
Me: what day do you think I should do the transfer, on 3 or 5?
RE: I have been getting some luck with older women on day 3 but then transferring them on day 5 is good too. The fate of the embryo is the same whether you put it back on day 3 or 5.
Real ANSWER: we don't really know which is better - some studies show 5 some show no difference.
oh and by the way
RE, you just contradicted yourself.....
I liked this one too:
ME: Why can't we transfer 3?
RE: I would advise you to do 1 or 2 and freeze any others. In fact FET may be better as the lining is a bit disrupted from the stimulation.
Real ANSWER 1: we are worried you'll have a multiple pregnancy and have complications.
But more real ANSWER: our medical insurer doesn't indemnify us should anything go wrong,
OR the government doesn't want to foot the bill for a complicated delivery and they have set guidelines for our clinic accordingly.
OR we are a commercial enterprise (you fill in the blanks)
And
BTW there is no scientific evidence which any
RE can cite to tell me that a FET is better than a fresh. Unless someone can point me in the direction of that...and if it was better, why did I just do a fresh transfer today?
ANSWER? They really don't know.
Let's face it, these REs trundle out the age card every chance they get to manage your expectations, but when it comes down to it in Australia they treat everyone the same.
My take...it's not OUR age that's the problem, it's the science and medical knowledge to date. It wasn't that long ago that the world thought stomach ulcers were caused by stress. It took a scientist in Australia to ingest the helicobacter bacteria to prove otherwise and he won the Nobel prize.
I think that scientists are the unsung heroes of IVF and in the future they are bound to create better opportunities for all men and women, despite age.
Thinking of you all,
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