Yes, it's me, one in the same.
I know what you mean about feeling guilty and placing our baby hopes in God's hands... I knowingly married a man whom I knew had had a vasectomy and knew that he didn't want anymore children (he has 3). I sometimes feel like, well, I knew all this before - maybe I made my bed in which I now have to lie... I know it's not the same - but I think it's very normal for us to wonder "How much do we take into our own hands? And when we do, are we taking it out of God's hands?"
I think MP has an excellent point with poor vision. I think we must act as strong warriors of God. He has given us the ability to tackle our problems from two sides - take action and pray!
I read an article today on a study that was done in China, I think. Regarding prayer and IVF. There is tons of controversy surrounding it, as the lawyer involved was later convicted of a felony... but I think the important part is (regardless of any study results - which had higher fertility rates for the group who had received prayer, btw) is that prayer does make a difference in everything we do - including IVF/IUI, etc.
I heard a sermon once on Matthew 7:7 - but it was a different approach than I'd heard before. We've all read and heard many times...
Ask and it will be given to you, seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.
The pastor related the verbs to progressive steps of action. Asking
is important but doesn't require much energy on our parts. Seeking
is good as it implies that we search for the goal. But knocking
requires that we stand up and actively pursue the goal.
God bless you all...