i have been in your shoes and i am a female. I do have advice for you on a womens prospective. First off talk to your wife and ask her is she open to adoption i have recently been looking into international for myself. I think if i knew 6 years ago what i know now me and my hubby would have had ...

my cousin had similar problem as you do she had an ivf and on her first time gave birth to a beautiful healthy girl but according to the doc you should be prepared for more then 1 so you are not blind sided