Aussies and Kiwis!

BelB · Post by **BelB** » Sat May 06, 2006 6:06 am

Hey Tiger,
Happy Brithday to us!!
Thanks so much for starting us on this thread, we've been a great group of local women (well, local to Australia..you know what I mean!!), and I do think that our experiences are somewhat different to the UK gals..
Take care my good friend
Hi to all
B

Xrayem · Post by **Xrayem** » Sun May 07, 2006 7:20 am

Hi all,

DH just came in and told me Richard Carlton died! Oh migod! People like that don't die! In shock.

Thats all. Did naughty POTS test yesterday (7days post IUI) and was a BFN so not holding out high hopes for the 13th.

POO.

Em

BelB · Post by **BelB** » Mon May 08, 2006 6:24 am

Em,
What on earth is a POTS test??
And you know, it is FAR too early, I repeat FAR TOO EARLY to be doing HPT's at seven days post transfer....
B

Xrayem · Post by **Xrayem** » Mon May 08, 2006 7:37 am

sorry "Pee On The Stick" test. I may have made that one up myself!

I know it was early but the pack said it could be tested 7 days post conception and it was too much of a temptation. I have another one but I am restraining myself until the 13th.

see, I can be good.....

Em

BelB · Post by **BelB** » Tue May 09, 2006 12:49 am

Ahhh, that makes sense!!!
You know, I had one of those super early POTS tests a little while back (as you do!), when you read the fine fine print it actually has a HUGE inaccuracy for determining pregnancy anything earlier than about 14 days post ovulation..Can't remember the actual figures but I remember thinking that it was not at all reliable...
Be good Em
B

bella-s · Post by **bella-s** » Thu May 11, 2006 4:43 am

Em - you keep away from those evil things!!! Promise!!!

Hi all - just popping in to say hi, and to let you all know that my Nuchal scan went very well. The little munchkin was so cute - he (we are calling it he) was bringing his hand up to his face, and I said he looked like he was waving, but DH said he looked like he was drinking beer! Typical.... I am just so thrilled, and I still need to pinch myself to remind me that I am pregnant. It just seemed so impossible for so long....

Anyway. I hope you all are well.

Bella.

BelB · Post by **BelB** » Thu May 11, 2006 6:08 am

Hey Bella,
That's such good news that your nuchal scan went well..did you get good odds re. downs?? What is your due date according to scan??..Sorry, so many questions..
You know I'm SURE that you're having a girl, so lets' not be talking about munchkin being a boy too often OK??
B

bella-s · Post by **bella-s** » Fri May 12, 2006 4:25 am

Wow Bel - you thinks it's a girl??!! So does my mum. A little secret, we are going to find out at our next scan, but just keep it to ourselves. I can't wait! (I will probably tell this thred though!!!)
My odds for down syndrome started at 1:600 for my age, and then after a series of tests went out to 1:9000, so very low risk. I started exercising again today - I feel a bit confident now to be 'normal' and I have to do something active to help stop the weight!

Em - can't wait for tomorrow. Only 1 more sleep....

Bella.

BelB · Post by **BelB** » Fri May 12, 2006 6:30 am

Bella,
Yep, definately think it's a girl..I think once you had that initial heart beat scan and it was about 170 (or something like that!!) I thought it was a girl..bring on the pink stuff Miss Bella!!..Glad that you're finding out the gender, and yep, you MUST tell us the gender!!!

One in 9000 is fantastic Bella. I got about a in 6000 and was told that was an excellent result, so yours must be extra good. Well done!!

B

Xrayem · Post by **Xrayem** » Fri May 12, 2006 9:24 am

Hi girls,

I know, I know. I've learnt my lesson. No more HPT's (or POTS!!) EVER for me again. I have allowed myself to be negative when I should have been thinking great positive thoughts and giving my body every chance.

I hope you have a little girl, Bella. That's what I want. (see how it has sunk in yet that I'm infertile- I still have a preferrence!)

Must say though, what a terrible day to be testing - the 13th AND the day before mother's day! DH has to fly to Alice for work at lunchtime on sunday so will be all alone.

Will let you know tomorrow.

Em

ozstock · Post by **ozstock** » Fri May 12, 2006 10:31 am

Best of luck Em, I'll be keeping my fingers, toes and legs crossed for you!
Annette

Xrayem · Post by **Xrayem** » Sat May 13, 2006 8:39 am

Hi guys. This is just cut and pasted from my test thread, so if you've already read it then skip it. Thanks so much Bel and Bella (the 2 Bells, I call you!) for starting that thread for me. I'm just sorry I didn't have better news to post. EM

I'm afraid its a BFN this time round. Was hoping for beginners luck but its not to be. And to add inuslt to injury, AF arrived within 2 hours of getting the results. Tomorrow is Mother's Day in Oz and DH has to leave at lunchtime for a week in Alice Springs (middle of desert in middle of Oz). I guess that's what you get when your test date is the 13th!

I'm ok. I wasn't suprised. The 2ww was awful but for the last 4 years I've felt like this each month when AF arrives, so its nothing new.

The positive thing out of all tthis is that next time we'll be prepared. We started this cycle the day after getting all our test results back and had no real time to digest what we'd been told and what it all meant.

We will take a month off as its my 30th on the 28th may and we have a big cocktail party planned (I'm cooking for 60!!!) and DH is travelling with work pretty much for the next 3 weeks. We are taking my 30th as the final "Do". After that no take away, caffine, alcohol, hot baths and all other things naughty for BOTH of us. We are going to concentrate on IUI with 100% of our strength and if that gets us no joy after 6 tries....Its the IVF train for us.

Thank you all for your thoughts. Without this site, I would have been a mess. I am going to hang around in the meantime, if thats ok, cos I'm kinda addicted to you all!

Hugs, Em

ozstock · Post by **ozstock** » Sat May 13, 2006 12:22 pm

Hi Em,
So sorry to hear about your BNF. I feel for you as I've been in the same situation and it sucks! It's always the case that you want to be as positive and optimistic as possible, but in the back of your mind, you don't want to get your hopes up too high so the let down isn't so bad. I guess there's never an easy way to go through all of this. But everyone here is thinking of you and sending you lots of big hugs.

On the bright side you can definitely live it up for your big 3-0! You never know, the magic may happen as a birthday surprise!

Not sure about trying IUI for 6 rounds. I've usually heard that if it doesn't work after 3, usually best to proceed to IVF. Obviously it's a personal decision- we decided to go to IVF after 2 IUIs but I suppose it depends on the clinic/individual.

Anyway, will be thinking of you and hope you are doing okay.
Cheers
Annette

Xrayem · Post by **Xrayem** » Sun May 14, 2006 8:51 am

Hi Annette,

Thanks for your thoughts. Its interesting to hear your thoughts on how many go's at IUI before IVF. I have read that the maximum they let you do is 6 anyway and I guess we were thinking that as its reasonably non-invasive and cheaper we would try that until they stop us.

I keep thinking that time is on my side, but I guess if we have to go through this several times to get the family we want, I don't have as long as I think. DH used to tell me he wanted hundreds of kids with me......if only he knew then....

The only thing I have been thinking is that thank god this wasn't a failed IVF cycle. I mean to pay so much and go through so much pain and to have it fail must be incredible heartache. The 2ww was terrible but aside from that I've gotten off lightly. When I read about these girls who inject themselves daily, are bloated, in pain, get OHSS and then get the worst news - it breaks my heart. I'm scared of being one of those girls. I don't think I'm as strong as they are.

Perhaps I'm only prolonging the inevitable. But I do value your thoughts and advice. Thanks again,

Em

suzannes · Post by **suzannes** » Mon May 15, 2006 1:27 am

Hi everyone,

Hello again and apologies for a long silence after initially saying hi a few months back. Hasn't a lot happened since then?! Congrats to everyone with good news, and my thoughts and best wishes are with those who've had unhappy news.

We are officially starting IVF tomorrow with DH having a TESA, and then we'll be waiting for AF so we can start nasal spray. Seems strange to be wanting AF to come for once, after hoping every month for the last 4 years that by some stroke of luck we might be pregnant, and AF may be a no show!

Can I ask how everyone copes with pregnant friends? It seems at the moment that 'everyone' except me is pregnant.

My best friend wants me to go shopping with her to buy nursery furniture because her husbane is always working, my sister in law is pregnant, 4 girls that I work with, and 3 more with newborns - delightfully happy times for them, and I feel hideously selfish being sad about my situation at such a happy time for them.

I was cuddling a work friends 6 week old son last week when she brought him in for a visit, and was loving it, until an unsuspecting colleague came past and told me I looked like a natural mother and should get off my bum and have a baby of my own. Needless to say, I handed the baby to his mother, locked myself in the toilets and cried for ages.

I've never been one to expect people to tiptoe around me, and I hate what infertility is doing to me. Does it get better, or do I just have to learn to live with it, and hope that we can be an IVF success story? I'm terrified that the expense of IVF will beat us before we get a baby to bring home too. We have health cover, but I'm sure that we'll still be considerably out of pocket.

What a miserable self indulgent rant, sorry everyone! can someone please tell me that I'm not the only one who feels this way?

Aussies and Kiwis!

Good luck!

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