negative help line..

july ann · Post by **july ann** » Fri Sep 26, 2003 1:42 pm

hi girls just thought as negative girls need a new thread. I feel much better now but had a horrible time at the clinic. I went today as I had to have a blood test to finish the trial. My mum came with me as dh could not face it he has taken it hard. When we were in the waiting room a couple came in with a baby about 6 months, had to really hold back the tear's. I know i should be happy for them as the baby was proberly a result of ivf,just felt so jealous. Well I have to go back on 15 october and have more blood test, then we will see the doctor about our next step. I think we will have fet but on a natural cycle. well we are going to have some time out and book a nice holiday and i'm going to get really drunk to night.... karen it would be great to meet up for coffee sometime when you feel up to it. Sarah how are you feeling. i'm really pleased for the girls who have got positives this week, but it was not our turn again. we are strong and will fight another day. well hope i have not gone on to much. from july ann

Traci · Post by **Traci** » Fri Sep 26, 2003 2:09 pm

oh July ann Im so sorry that it wasnt this time , what is going on , I really had a good feeling about you, Im so gutted for your DH, Its hard I suppose for them too and we dont really see how they feel cause sometimes they keep it all in , Will you wait now and have a semi ok christmas and then start again? Now this week end I want you to drink loads , eat loads of sinly things and buy lots of nice cloths for the pair of you and spend quality time as I bet you need it right now . You can always email me and I will give you my phone number and we could chat ! Bye for now {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUG}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} Trace x

Grace · Post by **Grace** » Fri Sep 26, 2003 2:26 pm

Hi July Ann It is horrible having to go back to the clinic is n't it when things have n't worked out. I really hate that. Glad that you are planning ahead - that's the spirit!! It just seems so very unfair that we have go through this again and again. You take care of each other and have a good holiday. Keep in touch. Love Gracexx

vickib · Post by **vickib** » Fri Sep 26, 2003 3:22 pm

July Ann Sorry to hear your sad news. Have lashings to eat & drink tonight and just spend the night with DH. Take as long as you need and have a fantastic holiday. Its totally understandable how you felt at the clinic. Best wishes Vicki B XXXXX

JackieT · Post by **JackieT** » Fri Sep 26, 2003 4:52 pm

hi july-ann i had a feeling you were not going to go quietly, and you would pop up somewhere.. great to hear from you, please keep an eye in on us. we could do with some support for this 2WW, which i started today{3 gone back in ,4 in the freezer}. hope you enjoy the holiday,anywhere nice? talk soon love jackieT xxx

rachel r · Post by **rachel r** » Fri Sep 26, 2003 6:08 pm

Hi Was just catching up on postings - so sorry to hear of the no-go's this time. Its incredibly gutting, I know. When our ICSI failed, I remember the very wise and lovely Tracey Sharpe, bless her, who said that we should look on this as a course of treatment. We'll get there in the end but our "conditions" need sorting first. Each attempt should be looked on as a step closer. Keeping that in mind really helped me to believe that one day our turn would come. Have a relaxing weekend and lots of hugs for eachother. Love Rachel x

Nikola · Post by **Nikola** » Sat Sep 27, 2003 7:50 am

July Ann, how did I know you wouldn't be away for long! You were a fantastic CB, the support and kindness you offer everyone is amazing and you do truly deserve some happiness. I'm so pleased you are not giving up and are going to live to fight another day. You are a very strong lady and you'll get there, you know you will. I'll be watching! lots of love nikola.xx

july ann · Post by **july ann** » Sat Sep 27, 2003 11:24 am

oh no i thought i would be able to get away with early testing.not if you are watching.Rachel tracy gave me that advice last time my tmt failed and that is why i did this tmt. I still stick by what she said. jackie you have done really well, good luck over the next 2 wks.Traci would love to have a chat sometime will be keeping an eye on you over the next few week's.vicki thanks for your kind words well were are karen and sarah... i know this site might be the last place you want to be, but you are both needed here. from july ann

SBROWN · Post by **SBROWN** » Sat Sep 27, 2003 1:05 pm

Hi July Ann & thanks for starting thread. I have posted a longer message on my negative thread.... Have a busy weekend planned to take my mind off things, in laws are coming to visit with hubbies dog (who lives with them. Hes a 10 year old black lab cross & is a real dope!! Will pop in when I can, maybe when Im back to work, will see how I go. have follow up appt 9th Oct, would imagine we will do amnother FET end of year, beginning of next.... Was really looking foward to being a summertime new mum as well!! never mind. Take care Sarah xx p.s glad you are feeling more positive July Ann & I hope your hubby is feeling better, it is hard for them too as they have us to worry about asa well as their selves [Edited by SBROWN on 27-Sep-03 06:07]

Karen W · Post by **Karen W** » Sat Sep 27, 2003 4:44 pm

Hi All, July Ann, I know exactly how you feel with the jelousy. Having a pretty s**t day today. Yesterday found out that my friend who's wedding I went to 3 weeks ago is 12 weeks pregnant!!! Not her fault of course but this has sent me back on a downer, plus DH came home early from work yesterday as he could not concentrate also v depressed. This morning we had a long (tearful and sobbing on my part) discussion as to whether we should carry on. I think we will wait to see what the outcome of the further tests are, and if they can find something to treat maybe go ahead, but if not then probably stop. I know that DH really wants to stop now, but I can't quite bring myself to face a childless future. I also wonder whether there are many stats on frozen blastos. I get the feeling that it is not something they have done much before as it is not often that there are any left to freeze. I suppose I am hoping that a "fresh" cycle might give a bit more hope. I think DH & I need a bit of space from each other, we can't seem to stop being nasty to each other. Would like DH to have a holiday, he has had no real time off this year, but he is resisting at the moment. Sarah, glad you are feeling better as well. Hopefully now that AF has arrived I will get rid of some of those nasty hormones and will feel more like a normal person. Thanks for listening to my whingeing!! Love Karen xx

Di · Post by Di » Tue Sep 30, 2003 4:45 am

Hi July ann, How are you feeling? What sort of a weekend did you have? I'm sorry I've been absent for the last few days - had IV immunoglobulin on Friday and felt quite zapped with the sntihistamine I got! Then have had visitors at the weekend! I can totally understand your jealousy - I used to hate going up to the unit when I knew it had failed but had to have blood test to tell me what I already knew! In fact the last few tmts I refused to go!!! You certainly soung very strong and I think its good you are already planning ahead - good luck on the 15th - hope you get some answers and plans for next go! I've actaully got the welcome msg ' just call me tigger' on my mobile cos that is how I've felt after all the upset and disappointment of the last few years! Karen, its still very early days but don't give up - I was at my lowest when the 3rd tmt failed! Sarah - so sorry to hear your sad news - will post more on your thread! Take care, Di

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