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Claire C · Post by **Claire C** » Wed Oct 01, 2003 12:05 pm

Just to say that result of blood test was negative much as I had thought with all the af pain and bleeding yesterday. DH and I are still very upset about it all esp as we had already decided that this was to be our last attempt as our lives seem to have been on hold for the last 7 years. Its time to call it a day adn just accept that , for us, its not going to happen. I could go on about how unfair all of this is but you girls already know all that and understand exactly how we feel. I intend to try and get in the mood for my holiday on Friday and try to come to terms with it all. Thanks for all your good wishes and support. Good luck to everyone else testing soon, I will be keeping an eye on the boards, Love Claire -x-

Nikola · Post by **Nikola** » Wed Oct 01, 2003 12:46 pm

Oh Claire, I'm so sorry for you both, you must be really devastated. I've been thinking about you all morning and just rushed home to check how you are. I know you'll feel awful for a while, but try and relax and enjoy your holiday together. You deserve some time together away from IVF. Lots of love nikola.xxx

july ann · Post by **july ann** » Wed Oct 01, 2003 12:56 pm

claire so sorry your tmt did not work. your right it is so unfair. hope you have a great holiday and glad to see you will be keeping an eye on us. so sorry july ann

Di · Post by Di » Wed Oct 01, 2003 2:03 pm

Hi Claire, So sorry for you and DH - what else can I say - life is the sh**s at times! Hope you are able to enjoy your holiday - just think at least now you'll be able to get a few drinks down your neck. Little consolation, I know! Thimking of you, Di

Di · Post by Di » Wed Oct 01, 2003 2:03 pm

Hi Claire, So sorry for you and DH - what else can I say - life is the sh**s at times! Hope you are able to enjoy your holiday - just think at least now you'll be able to get a few drinks down your neck. Little consolation, I know! Thimking of you, Di

SQUEW · Post by **SQUEW** » Wed Oct 01, 2003 2:57 pm

Claire So sorry to hear your news you and your dh must be feeling awful at the moment. Yes you are right life is unfair,and I know this is a cliche, but you have each other and that is the most important thing. Have a relaxing holiday. Sue xx

SBROWN · Post by **SBROWN** » Wed Oct 01, 2003 3:02 pm

Claire I am so sorry to read your news...... I hope you and your husband can muster up the strength to enjoy your holiday & Id like to wish you both lots of luck for a very happy future together, noone knows what is round the corner but it is so much easier when you face it together... Sarah xx

Jo Locker · Post by **Jo Locker** » Wed Oct 01, 2003 3:09 pm

Claire I want just to add my voice and say I'm sorry your treatment failed. It's so hard to understand why some couples who would make good, loving parents are denied the chance. I just don't get it. I can only think that there's some path for you that just hasnt revealed itself yet. Wishing you a restful holiday which you both really deserve. Love from Jo. XXXX

Wibbs · Post by **Wibbs** » Wed Oct 01, 2003 5:05 pm

claire Sorry to hear your news you & dh must be devestated 7 years is a long time. I waited 3 and that seamed forever. Wishing you all the best in whatever you decide to do for the future, you still have each other go and enjoy your holiday. Take Care Love Wibbs XXX

JackieT · Post by **JackieT** » Wed Oct 01, 2003 8:55 pm

hi claire and DH soooo sorry to hear your news tonight, i was thinking of you all day, it kicks us all when one of us get a negative,but you both must be in bits. i can only add to what all the others have said, look after each other and help each other heal. and yes, i also believe that maybe there is a different plan for your lives now. take care with love jackieT xxx

kathryn · Post by **kathryn** » Thu Oct 02, 2003 8:15 am

just to let you know you are in my thoughts. Im so sorry to read your news claire, especially to read this may well be your last attempt. I wish you all the very best with what decisions you both choose to take in the future. this is just so hard and so unfair. take care lots of love kathryn x

Claire C · Post by **Claire C** » Thu Oct 02, 2003 8:55 am

Girls, Just wanted to say thank you for all your kind thoughts. I'm not feeling too great, af pains are a nightmare and this is something that I've had problems with before and nothing really seems to help. Well I've had a bath which was v relaxing after 2 weeks of showers! No more pessaries! And I can have a drink on my holidays - not much consolation I know but I have to try and be +ive. We have one frozen embryo but they did say that generally they would not go for a fet with one and would try and encourage us to go for a full cycle. DH and I had already decided that we couldn't go through with all of this again and really have to draw the line somewhere. As we have unexplained infertility and there is nothing wrong with either of us it makes it all the worse as they keep saying it could just happen naturally? The only other twist in the tale is that because I've been having such terrible af pains for about 2 years now the only medical solution offered was to go on the pill, so that really puts paid to any chance of things just happening. We'll just have to get on with our lives now. I'm feeling not too bad but I know from previoulsy that this doesn't mean anything, you can feel fine and be out shopping and see lovely new babies and feel yourself welling up or someone makes a chance remark and that just sets you off. So I know that although we'll never get over the disappointment of it all we will learn to live with it. I may cross over to the life after ivf message forum? I admire all of you for hanging on to your dreams as we know from these boards that the tmts do work. Good luck to everyone testing soon and to those of you in the middle of tmt and to you lucky ladies who are going to be mummies. I will be on holiday until the 12 Oct so I hope to see lots of ++++ives when I log back on, Thanks again for your words, they really mean something when you know what's involved, Love Claire

GB · Post by GB » Tue Oct 07, 2003 12:58 pm

Dear Claire Sorry to hear your news... Great that you had a holiday now...hope that it revived your spirits! Best of luck with your next go! Never give up hope! Lots of luv Gila x-x-x

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