Am I being paranoid?

[Fingers crossed]

Hello

Well I am 5 weeks pregnant today..(according to the HPT!) still hard to believe and until I have had a scan on the 23rd I probably won't fully believe it.

Anyhow we haven't told anyone yet apart from 2 best friends and my parents..(not even brothers) I am so worried that things will go wrong although I know that only 1 in 5 miscarry..I hope that I do not fall into that statistic after waiting so long for this BFP.

A family friend is telling everyone that she is 5 weeks (after IVF) pregnant and I am starting to feel paranoid to why I can't just let go and enjoy this feeling like her..am I being sensible ? I have just seen how many poor people have had a m/c on these boards at this early stage..what are your views and if you had a m/c did you have the normal signs of pregnancy? I posted another topic on 'no symptoms' a few days ago and I am yet to get any..although I now know from peoples kind responses that their did not really feel anything until around 7 weeks.

Hope to hear from you

Kind wishes and good luck to all

Fingers Crossed

[Charity]

I don't think you should compare yourself to anyone else. We all handle this situation differently. I am a huge blabber mouth and told everyone we were going through IVF, and when we failed to even get fertilization, I felt like a complete ass. This time around, my boss, my dh and you are the only ones that will know. I think you're being sensible, but you should also be able to enjoy it. You are also correct on the 7 weeks thing. Every woman, and every pregnancy for that same woman will be different. Some women don't feel anything for the majority of their pregnancy, others feel every twinge. But, yes, 6 to 7 weeks is when you HCG is typically high enough to start to give you the symptoms that are not so welcome once they happen. You take this pregnancy at your own pace, tell who you want to, when you want to, but enjoy this personal victory. Yes, the reality is that it might not lead to a full-term pregnancy, but those kinds of thoughts are not what's brought you to where you are today. So, stay positive, keep the hope alive, and know whatever happens, you made the decisions that were right for you and dh. Take care, and I hope you get some more feedback, fingers crossed...All my best...

[Zed2003]

Hi there,

Don't you be worrying about telling people - you'll know when the time is right, so don't feel forced into it.

I personally told very few people - and even then, each time I did it differently. On my second IVF, I think I only told my parents after the 7 weeks scan - we emailed the picture and said 'guess what?!' We told very few afterwards and although the risk of losing the baby was only 5%, I did m/c a few weeks later and was glad - everyone was as family was as upset as us - but for us if that makes sense.

With my son, we told the people who knew we were doing the treatment and even then we were very cautious. This time, my sister was here when I found out - and DH told her instantly because he didn't believe it!!! Again though, only close family we told...

However - that was us - lots of people tell in their excitement, but you have to do what's best for you.

As for symtoms - you may have lots, you may have none. There is no 'normal'!! I've never had any 'traditional' symtoms - this time or last, so don't worry. I do remember my doctor saying that in the old days, they didn't even expect symtoms until about 7 or 8 weeks!!!!

Good luck anyway and just take care and enjoy!
Zoe