Feeling a little left out!

[kholtan]

Perhaps this is just part of a mood swing but I am certainly feeling a little left out this weekend.

Part of the daily life for me and DH is aggressive sports. Well, it's winter obvoiusly, and we grab our sleds and ride some pretty difficult terrain 2-4 days a week. Not only do we love high impact motor sports like snowmobiling, riding stand-up jet skiis in the ocean surf or rapids, and pretty much anything that makes the adrenaline flow but we get to spend so much time together while doing it. Since the big BFP I have been to scared to ride and am just trying to play it safe but I have found myself missing all our quality time together.

I wouldn't trade the BFP for a moment, please don't get me wrong, but giving up my normal life has been more of a challenge this weekend. He even called 5 minutes after he left yesterday to say he missed me already and wished I could be there but I'm still kind of feeling alone here.

Is anyone else feeling any of this? I'm not really an emotional girl so these feelings leave me baffled! It kind of scares me to think of being excluded for so many months from our very active lifestyle. Am I just being too careful? Are other people skiing and doing things like that? I know I can go to the gym but is anyone doing anything more? Is anyone else feeling a little left behind?

[deepa100]

hi there,
I was into running races, biking, skiing (both down hill and x-country), trekking and climbing. But at 38, I feel that I am just lucky to be pregnant. I get tired of the winter sometimes but I realize that this is my once-in-a life tiime chance and I appreciate this chance that god gave me.

I also was preparing for this for the last 18 months so, I had to stop a lot of intnse activity since last August. That gave me enough time to be prepared.

[cmoscar]

Kholtan - I know exactly what you mean. Since we started trying to get PG, (July 2006), I have not been camping, hiking, swimming, etc. In fact I have not been allowed to be as active in my son's cub scout pack as I normally am. However, I have also had a scare when I over did it. I know it is hard to do when you see others doing everything, but it is the right thing. Soon enough you will be busy enjoying the feeling of your little one, planning your nursery, and getting ready for your miracle to be here. Just keep you eyes focused on the goal!

GOOD LUCK!

[cowgirlclass]

yep I totally understand! I am a serious horseback rider and have competed in running barrels most of my life and now my entire family freeks out if I am even around the horses because of the what ifs. It is very difficult. Not only because I LOVE to horses and to ride, but it is a lot of work that I was primarily responsible for and now my husband and my daughter have to take up the slack. But as someone else mentioned this is only the begining of things you will have to sacrafice for your child. Good luck and know we are here for you!

Take care,
Cowgirl

[kholtan]

Thank Goodness someone understands. In no way am I not SO grateful for this chance but I guess we can't help how we feel sometimes. The thing I miss the most though is all the time my DH and I got to spend together doing these sports. It was such quality time and I just find myself missing it.

I do feel so blessed that IVF has worked for us so far and thank my lucky stars. There isn't a thing I wouldn't give up but I guess this weekend when all our friends and my DH were all together having so much fun I just felt very lonely. That's all and I'm sure I'll get over it. Also, I didn't expect to feel that way and it made me fel pretty guilty.

Thanks for the responses. I was really feeling like an idiot when I thought I was the only one. I appreciate the cheering up!