The Over 40 Crowd

chriss · Post by **chriss** » Thu Jan 17, 2008 4:33 pm

I know the look that you are talking about and I've seen it on his face before. I think that we are over-analyzing everything. Beleive me I hang on to every word, facial tick, smile, wrinkle etc. of every doctor trying to uncover the hidden meaning. I'm thinking that there is no hidden meaning and they haven't a clue just like us if this is the cycle that works. So stay calm and don't over think it. It is out of our control. Keep breathing and know that at least we are able to try. I feel so sad when I think of people who can not even try. Chin up my friend. Keep in touch. -chriss

pricecake · Post by **pricecake** » Thu Jan 17, 2008 7:03 pm

Chriss.....Big thanks to you. I'm happy to see I'm not crazy. It is just that sort of blank look he has, and of course I am looking for something, anything to look for hope.
Went in to check progesterone levels yesterday. They said that number was excellent but they wanted me to up the estrogen. So I started taking med for that am and pm. Of course they say not to worry. Last nite I had terrible sweats. Must be from the hormones. Any thoughts? Just more to worry about. You are so calm....and it's not like I don't have plenty enough to keep me busy and my mind off this cycle, but it is all consuming.
2 days to go!!!! Good thoughts!!!!!

chriss · Post by **chriss** » Thu Jan 17, 2008 7:17 pm

I sound calm, but that's because I am not cycling now. Just wait a couple of weeks! Anyway, Don't freak out on the estrogen. They told me it's the most prescribed med they use. Not unusal for this during IVF cycle. Talk to you later. chriss

jt - ivf at 41 · Post by **jt - ivf at 41** » Fri Jan 18, 2008 11:46 am

Just wanted to thank you all for your stories - it makes such a difference, when going through this process.

I am midway through the 2ww. This is HELL!!! The longest two weeks of my entire life. I keep thinking, well I should just go out and buy the best preg test on the market, cause you never know,..it might not be too early??? Then I talk myself out of it. I know I sound impatient, and typically I am an extremely patient person, but this is making me crazy.

I obsess over whether this has worked or not,..one day I think - YES for sure!!! Then the next I have doubts.

Question?? Have any of you suffered from a sharp pain on your right side? I cannot sleep, or breathe in deeply the pain is so sharp. I have a DR apt late today after work to check it out,...but thought I would ask you girls first.

Wishing you all the best - thank you for sharing your journey(s)!!! You have all been so informative and inspiring.
xoxoxxo

chriss · Post by **chriss** » Fri Jan 18, 2008 1:13 pm

Welcome jt, good luck to you. When do you test? The 2ww is tough. Is this your first IVF? I have never had such a sharp pain. I know some people talk about implantation cramping. Could be??? Fill us in about yourself. -chriss

pricecake · Post by **pricecake** » Fri Jan 18, 2008 8:36 pm

Hi JT....I know exactly what you mean about this 2ww. This is my first IVF ad I am going crazy with impatience. Tomorrow is finally my test day! I also have been having all kinds of pains. Not sure what it is all about. I go back and forth all the time. It's good you are seeing your RE. That should help you to feel better piece of mind.
When is your test day?
Hang in there......
Chriss...I'm almost there. I am actually NYC for a school conference. I will take a train to Mineola for my appt tomorrow morn. It's gonna be a long day till I get that call back. How are you?

summerbaby · Post by **summerbaby** » Fri Jan 18, 2008 9:18 pm

pricecake - best of luck with your test tomorrow! hoping to hear about your BFP! would be a wonderful way to begin this new year!

chriss - when is AF due for you?

welcome jt! sounds like you've "only" got a week to go on your 2ww - wishing you all the best. try to relax and keep up the pma - you are almost there. our thread is a bit quiet at the moment, but there are so many wonderful women here who are sharing this journey and some mothers or soon-to-be-mothers who offer wonderful support and advice. nice to have you here!

xx Amy

chriss · Post by **chriss** » Sat Jan 19, 2008 12:21 am

Hi guys, look what i learned how to do...

Cool huh?

Pricecake, are you a teacher? Did I ask you that already??? I am a teacher. Tomorrow is your big day. Yes, it is a long time to wait for that call. My fingers are crossed for you! I am ok. HAd a long crazy day at work. Glad it's Friday!

Hi Amy, I had IUI last Tuesday so I guess I'll be looking for AF by Tuesday next week. If she comes, I'll begin stimming day 3. How are you?

JT, don't give up on this thread, as AMy said, it's quiet right now, but it will go through spurts. Any more sharp pains?

Hello everyone out there. Hope all is well. -chriss

jt - ivf at 41 · Post by **jt - ivf at 41** » Sat Jan 19, 2008 12:42 am

You Girlies are wonderful - thanks for all of your kind words! Strength in numbers ladies! I feel your power(s).

Sharp pain = Cysts on my ovary (nothing serious, but might be uncomfortable for some time)

Chris - I love the cupcake!
Amy good luck with your apt.

Pricecake - tomorrow is YOUR day!!! xoxo You are in my thoughts and prayers. Do something just for you tomorrow while you wait it out!

Hugs all around!!

pricecake · Post by **pricecake** » Sat Jan 19, 2008 12:55 am

Chriss.....Yummy Cupcakes....I could go for that now. Yes, I am phys ed teacher. Been finding it hard to lay low these two weeks while having to teach all these classes. What do you teach? I also find it hard to get to appts. becuase I have a long commute to RE and I always have to find coverage for my classes. I think I might have used up all my sick days already. How do you manage it?
JT......thank you for the thoughts....that is a great idea. I am going to find something fun to do....I am in NYC, so it shouldn't be too difficult!!!
Amy....I am so excited. I can't believe the big day is finally here.
Ok my dearest IVFers.....please keep me in your thoughts. Let's all think positively and have only good thoughts for us all........
xoxo

chriss · Post by **chriss** » Sat Jan 19, 2008 1:06 am

Pricecake, I teach first grade. And I have a ton of sick days in my bank. For years I never took any sick days just in case I'd need them some day. Look at that... the day is here. So I don't feel bad about missing school. This is too important! My principal has been great about it all. I drive 45 minutes west to stonybrook in am then about an hour and a half back east to get to school. Needless to say, I've been late very often. It's a killer. I have to get up very early on those days. (It's tough during stimming cause they want to see us so often). Fingers crossed for you tomorrow. Which ever way it goes, we are here! Let's hope it's BFP!!!!!

Hi amy & Joanna. Hope all is well.
-chriss

pricecake · Post by **pricecake** » Sat Jan 19, 2008 7:19 pm

Hi ladies.....well, BFN for me

It is hard to believe it was a negative after so much positive effort was given to this, my first cycle.
The good news is we will keep plugging along. I am pretty sure I am up for one more round after we finish checking out our finances.
Thank you all for your support and wishes. Continued success to all of you.
I will be here checking on you all.
Price
xo

chriss · Post by **chriss** » Sat Jan 19, 2008 8:27 pm

Pricecake, I'm sorry about your news. I do know how difficult it is. It's so hard after doing so much. And especially how the meds make you feel pregnancy symptoms. It's tough. If it's any consolation, the first time was the most challenging for me. After that I knew what to expect and it has gotten easier in some ways. Dealing with the rejection never gets easier, but the whole drug taking process and the procedures become old hat. Make sure to make a consult appointment so that you can talk things over with RE. That was an important step for us. We were able to talk about embryo quality and things like that. It is not unusual for women in their 40's to have to do a few cycles. One piece of advice I was given was to close the door to the BFN and open the new door when you are ready so that you can continue to move forward. A good chat with doctors should help you to know what the next plan will be. I'm thinking of you. And Once again, I'm sorry. -chriss

pricecake · Post by **pricecake** » Sat Jan 19, 2008 8:39 pm

Thanks Chriss.....that means a lot to me. I will def keep going and was thinking the same way. I now know what to expect. I know it will work for us one day soon. DH is taking it rough. On top of all that I have to make him feel better.....haaaaaaa!
Thank you ALL for thinking of me.

summerbaby · Post by **summerbaby** » Sun Jan 20, 2008 11:46 am

pricecake - so sorry to hear of your bfn. my thoughts are with you and DH. I can only second everything chriss wrote - she is absolutely right about what she says. hope you are able to learn a bit more after your consultation with your RE and will try again when the time is right. best of luck to you on your journey.

chriss - thinking of you and hoping AF doesn't arrive -- that would be just great. by the way, I am very impressed with your graphics skills! I have no idea how to even begin with that!

joanna - hang in there! when do you test? lots of baby dust being sent your way!

tomorrow is day 1 of my long protocol. I've been doing my best to follow the advice in Zita West's book in preparation for this cycle and I'm feeling pretty good at the moment.

Big hello to sonia, andrea, yasmina, tammy, gracielope, anna, kat, jenb, bigj, and everyone I might have missed! I hope you are all doing well and staying warm this winter.

LuAnne - thinking of you and hope all is well. looking forward to hearing from you again.

xx Amy

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