Inconsistency

[Kyli]

First off I want to say that being able to read about everyone's journey on the forum is a blessing and I'm so thankful for all the information I have been able to find on here.

Here comes the but.....

The inconsistency of everything is about to drive me crazy. I'm pretty much a black and white type of person, no in between, so when I see the different ways each RE does things it only creates more questions. I know each of us our different, our bodies all react differently and it's ok for things to be done differently. That doesn't bother me. What bother's me are the things that you would think should be consistent. Here are a couple I can think of at the moment.

The first one is one that is really got me confused. My ET was 12/09 and my first beta is 12/19. On this IVF calculator (http://www.ivf.ca/duedate.php) it also says beta should be on 12/19. I'm seeing other gals who had ET on 12/09 who could have their first beta as early as 12/15 or as late as 12/23. All the girls I've looked at have had a day 5 ET. Wouldn't you think something like this should be a little more consistent? I would be scared to have it to early because what if my numbers come back too low. I would go crazy having it too late because the 2ww is long enough. So why is this not more consistent?

Bed rest or No Bed rest after ET and for how long.

A full bladder or empty bladder during ET. I had an empty one but I've read that most of you had a full one.

The grading scale of our embryos, A,B,C/ 1,2,3.

To have sex after transfer or to not have sex. I think the majority have been told to have no sex till at least their beta tests but there are a few out there that were told to wait one day after transfer and then get busy.

Pineapple or No Pineapple. This one could really go to personal choice but I wish we had some scientific fact on if we should eat it or not.

I think if things were a little more consistent I wouldn't be as overwhelmed as I have been the last couple of weeks. I'm sure there are many more but I'm currently drawing a black so tell me about the inconsistencies that drive you crazy.

[not hopeless yet]

First of all Congrats Kyli on making it this far.

As for the beta dates I think it would matter if people were transferring a 3-day embryo vs. 5-day... so go with the flow and pray your RE knows what they're doing. I'm sure they do!

Personally my RE says to abstain from trigger shot til beta. And to ET on empty bladder. Hope that helps. Oh and I'm going to eat pineapple... if I'm in the mood. LOL. (but i do love pineapple so that's a bonus!)

I believe the grading of the embryos is A,B,C based on quality and 1, 2, 3 based on # of cells. What were yours? How many eggs did you get with ER? How many did you transfer? How are you feeling physically?

[Kyli]

Not Hopeless Yet - Thank you for the reply and the congrats.

My ER was 12/4. They retrieved 16, of the 16 they performed ICSI on 14 and of those 11 fertilized. Two days after retrieval they called to say 2 were excellent, 4 were good, 1 average and 4 poor. That is pretty much the extent of the embryo grading I received. I never was told A,B,C or 1,2,3.

They did transfer the two best on 12/9 and said that 7 had not developed past 8 cells so they weren't viable and 2 (Besides the 2 put in) did make it to blast and would be great for a fresh cycle but not to freeze. So we have the two little guys inside of me and that's it. I pray they stick and grow up to be healthy babies.

Physically I'm doing pretty good, my abdomen is still very tender which I don't understand. I was very sore after ER for about 3 days, then only tender if you pushed on my abdomen and after ET I'm back to being very tender. Now that it is 3 days past ET I thought it would be better but so far it's not. I have been watching for hyperstimulation but so far I have no symptoms. I'm not sure what is going on. I have pelvic adhesive disease and I'm wondering if maybe the progesterone could be aggrevating. That is my best guess. Might have to call the doctor and ask.

[not hopeless yet]

Well that's awesome you put back 2! I'll be praying for you. Is your beta next week sometime?

This is my first IVF but I was wicked sore on previous cycles and I think it was my body responding to the drugs not OHSS. I have interstitial cystitis so all the poking and prodding 'down there' aggrevates the situation so hopefully that's your issue too. I'm guessing in a week you should feel better but I never hesitate to call my doctor.

that is a little weird they didn't tell you ABC, 123 but you know the best 2 were transfered and that's all that matters now! Stay in touch. I've got everything crossed for you: fingers, toes, legs, EYES!!!