Hi all,
Thank you everyone for sharing your experiences with telling people/people finding out and for understanding exactly how I was feeling! We did tell family from the start. It was kind of hard to avoid since they had all been asking us what we were waiting for regarding having children and the old "we're working on it" excuse was getting rather lame after 3 years. At any rate, they've all tried really hard to be supportive but kind of border on annoying because I can't talk to a single one of them without being asked what the next procedure is or how the shots are going or some other well intentioned question which just serves to annoy me! I suppose that at least the people in our neighborhood will not say anything to me about it. I decided just to try to forget about it. If there is a next time, then I will make sure I agree with DH in advance that we are not telling anyone!
Well, anyway....
Jaye,
Sorry about the -tive but Allison is right. I was told that there is a period of a few days between the HCG hormone shot they give you leaving your system and your body actually producing it on its own so don't give up hope yet. When are you do to go in for your test?
How did you boss end up reacting to your e-mail? I hope she was understanding? I have to give you a lot of credit for being able to work through all this.
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Gem,
I've read in a number of places that one of the common symptoms of pregnancy is actually no symptoms so try to stay positive.
The situation with your husband's game is a tough one. How many days has it been since your transfer? A lot of clinics here are of the opinion that, if implantation is going to occur, it will have done so after a few days. They say that after a few days there is not much you can do to jeopardize that. It it has worked, it's worked and there's no harm in going back to your normal activities. My clinic is pretty strict but even they just require me to stay for 20 minutes after the transfer then remain on "light activity" for 5 days. That means no lifting anything over 10 lbs., no exercise, no strenuous house cleaning, etc. It is fine if I leave the house to do errands, etc. and they have no problem with people going back to work or traveling the day after the transfer. That having been said, if you are entirely uncomfortable with the idea of going then just follow your instincts. I'm sure your DH would love for you to be there but that he would fully understand if you don't go.
Perhaps if you asked your Dr. or a nurse at your clinic if they thought it would be safe for you to go and they were to tell you yes, then you would feel comfortable enough to go?
Just a thought.
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Jen,
I'm so happy things ended up working out! Good luck with the DI tomorrow (or Wed.).
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Tania,
I'm not feeling anything in my ovaries yet, but I just started the stims Sat. night so maybe it's too early. I go in for my first check tomorrow. I'm just hoping I'm where they want me to be so I don't have to raise any of the doses.
The one thing I am having a problem with is huge welts on my legs being caused by my Repronex shots. The nurse said that, if it continues, they'll have to switch me over to IM injections
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Zeena,
Glad to have you join us! It looks like you are at about the same place I am. I started stims Sat. This is my first (hopefully last) IVF. Did you use anything to downreg first (like Synarel or Lupron)? I'll also be on steroids but only for 4 days after the EC. Regarding exercise, that was one of my first questions on this board too! I have been working out everyday for years (occasionally take a day off) so not being able to will drive me crazy. Anyway, my clinic told me not to do anything that gets my heart rate up after the 4th day of stims...something about blood flow getting cut off and this problem called ovarian torsion. Other people's clinics seem to say it is ok up to EC but just to keep your heart rate below a certain level. I think I'm just going to base things on how I'm feeling. I'll continue exercising but just cut down the intensity to whatever feels comfortable.
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Caz,
I guess your DH is probably needing some attention right now and I can certainly understand how you just don't have it to give. Is there a recovery period after a TESE? Is he going to be able to bring you to the EC?
My DH hurt his eye badly yesterday and was complaining about it all day today (which he never does unless he is really in pain). Meanwhile, I was feeling horrid. My legs are completely swollen from the shots which doesn't help matters and it seems like I've had a headache for 2 weeks straight now. He said something like "you know how it is when you have pain somewhere that makes you unable to think about anything else?" I really felt like saying "Yes, HELLO? I've had it for days now!" But, I forced myself to keep my mouth shut and tried to be attentive to him. It's hard having both people in the relationship down at the same time during this. It's like you really need one of them to be completely strong and I guess it usually has to be the man since women are the ones that have to deal with most of these treatments.
Anyway, I hope things go ok with your DH tomorrow and for you on Wed. I'll be thinking of you!
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Well, it is getting late here and I have to get up early for my Dr. appt. (I forget what it's like to sleep late since starting this).
Hope everyone is doing well and that we are all in better, less stressed out moods tomorrow!
Staci
I have always been open with friends and family and my staff ONLY:
Also, does anyone know about excersise, ie how much is OK or helpful for the stims?? Also, I'm getting acupunture once a week to get an 'energy balance' - is anyone else finding this helpful? I would really appreaciate anyone's vews on this. Thank you!!
I know what you mean about not wanting to go out. I had to go to my DH's brothers 50th party the same day as my ET on my 2nd treatment and I felt crap and should have been lying down.
Be positive. PMA, PMA, PMA.