The Over 40 Crowd

[JackieT]

hi all
another golden oldie here getting ready to start again, we have 4 embies, and are having a medicated fet, we went to our clinic yesterday and are now waiting for af to arrive, and that should be any day this week. the good news is even though im 42{dh39} my embiees are there 2 years now, our last little miracle is 18 months old.
we are so excited, yet worried. you all know how that feels.
i am sending positive baby vibes to us all, especially my old scb kat, i am so glad to see your progress and please no mention of percy pigs--
take care all
love jackie xx

[JaneR]

Hi,

Debra I know I've been very quiet this time, I really took it easy last week and caught up on alot of sleep. The time is now starting to drag although i don't have long left to go. Not a lot is happening with me strange boobs, had sharp pains in my ovaries area and some dizziness last week. At the moment I am very tired but I think its because I am back at work and haven't slept very well. I feel very different to how I felt last time but I am not reading anything into it. My test date is 14th but i think I would prefer to stick to this thread.

Katie that is great news regardie the embies now look after them and yourself and take it easy for the next 11 days.

Hope everyone else is doing OK, Sharon are you ready for Thursday? Caroline glad you had a good holiday.

Well I better go and carry on with some work.

Love,

Jane

[amfy]

Glad to hear it went well Katie - look after yourself now.

Jane - not long to go now. It'll be me in your shoes in just a few weeks. It must be hard trying to interpret all those signs. I daren't say anything about what I read into it because I am scared of the "scriptwriters".

(The scriptwriters are the people who lie in wait to create twists and turns in the plot of our lives. At work, if someone says "It's quiet today", everyone will go "SSSHHHH!!! The scriptwriters are listening!"........but it's too late, within half an hour it will be chaos!)

[DebraP]

Amfy...interesting take on life!

Jane...ditto. I felt dizzy at the weekend, have had persistent pains on one side (same as EC but that was too long ago surely?) and very sore boobs, sore enough to need a sports bra at night. I suddenly feel less confident.

Jackie... welcome. Good luck and I'm sure Kat will be thrilled to see you back on here again.

Sharon..ready?

hugs
Debra.

[randa2006]

Hello All!

Randa - 4 embies frozen 28th Sept. Natural BDing until Jan.
Jane - ET 2 Oct, in 2ww, Oct 14 test date
Debra - Test result due 20th Oct
Katie - donor/FET 10th Oct.
Sharon - start stims (HRT) 23rd Sept, FET Thurs 13th Oct
Kat - started bcp 18th Sept. Fresh/donor cycle end Oct
Nuala - fresh cycle, late Oct.
BigJ - fresh/donor cycle in Kiev in November.
Caroline - back from hols, on a 6 week health trip before November FET
Amfy - started downregging Thurs 5th Oct

Just wanted to bring our list back up.
Please feel free to update and repaste.

Welcome back Caroline! We missed you, Sweetie! MY, what a list of healthy doings you have in front of you, and I have no doubt you will do all of it. Do you have a date yet?

Debra - sore boobs is a very good sign! You sound pregnant to me already. Didn't you feel this way last time?

Katie! Congratulations on plunging into the 2ww! Those little embies are soooooo lucky to have you for their Mommy!

Jane! So happy for you to be in the 2ww, also! The 14th is soooo close, Dear!

Kat - do you have a transfer date yet?

Sharon - best of luck to you on Thursday!!!! I'll be saying a little prayer that your embies have a perfect thaw leading to a perfect transfer that afternoon!

Welcome Amfy and JackieT!

AF came early and with a vengence yesterday - ugh!
And, you won't believe this. We may have to hold off trying naturally until we get new insurance!!! DH is telling me that he never intended for us to get pregnant while still on this private plan (no group plan). He thought he would have found a better plan for us by the time to get pregnant and he hasn't found one yet!!! Because of my age and the high-risk pregnancy, our out-of-pocket costs could be huge if we don't switch to a group plan (like employers have).

Anyway, we WERE supposed to start trying naturally with my next ovulation (end of Oct). We may have to "abstain" until the insurance mess is straightened out! Also, due to travel plans and family coming in for the holidays, we are bumping our Dec cycle to Jan. Soooo, more waiting!

Hope everyone is enjoying some beautiful fall days.
God Bless!

[CarolineP]

Wow, what a fantastic thread - its got everything going for it! Getting ready for frozen, donor and fresh cyles, frozen embryos in waiting with transfers planned and 2ww'ers waiting in the wings for their +ive results.

It SOOOOOOOOO exciting, good luck to you all.

CarolineP

[JaneR]

Hi Ladies,

I have this horrible feeling its all over for me. Still getting the pains but not as much feel very AF'y. I'm still very tired but also not sleeping fantastically. My boobs are just strange they are no longer sore not that they were really anyway all the drugs make my nipples really sore and that wore off at the weekend before AF comes I get sore boobs so the last teo goes I have had really sore boobs till about a day to two days before test date and nothing mine stopped at the weekend by no AF. I think I cried myself to sleep last night oh well only two sleeps to go.

Love,

Jane

[DebraP]

Jane, I can only try to help you stay positive until you test. You know your body, its responses and signs better than anyone of couse. I only hope the signs are part of positive changes in your body and that the next 2 days pass very, very quickly.

(((hugs))) Debra.

Jane - Oct 14 test date
Debra - Test 19th, result due 20th
Katie - FET 10th Oct,
Sharon - FET Thurs 13th Oct
Kat - started bcp 18th Sept. Fresh/donor cycle end Oct
Nuala - fresh cycle, late Oct.
BigJ - fresh/donor cycle in Kiev in November.
Caroline - back from hols, on a 6 week health trip before November FET
Amfy - started downregging Thurs 5th Oct
Randa - 4 embies frozen 28th Sept. Natural BDing until Jan.

[cmg]

Jane, Jane try not to torture yourself like this. I know how hard it is, I was in bits in the second week of my 2ww trying to interpret every symptom but it doesn't necessarily mean anything.

All the symptoms you mention could just as easily be signs of a BFP but you haven't had one of those (as far as I can make out from your posts) so it's all too easy to assume it must be a sign of AF because that's what's familiar. I remember someone on another thread who convinced herself that it must be a BFN because she had spots on her chin and she always got spots before her period - she's now a couple of months pregnant, the spots meant nothing.

The really hard thing to deal with is that you just don't know. I think the uncertainty is harder than anything, harder even than a knowing it's negative. I'm sure that the way we examine and pick over every little symptom (and let's be honest, we all do it, I was worse than most people) is just a way of trying to get some kind of control back and maybe prepare ourselves for the worst.

While there is no AF there is hope. Hang in there, it's only a few more days. Take good care of yourself, try and get some rest and give yourself some treats. And use this place to put out those fears and anxieties - that's what we're here for.

Be thinking of you

Caroline

ps Can you come back in late November and say all the same sort of stuff to me when I'm going through exactly the same thing.

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[Katie12563]

Hi Everyone...
Jane, I know its hard but AF feeelings are a part of the signs of pregnancy. Its cruel because it could go anyway..AF comes or doesn't but AF feelings are common to newly pregnant women.
See this website for proof:

http://www.babysnark.com/early-pregnanc ... mptoms.asp


Hello...Jackie. I think you're in wonderful shape with an 18 month old and 4 embies. You're not that old (I hope) because I'm 42 too

Amfy: Thanks for all your warm thoughts I am back at work, hoping my body will welcome these little ones.

Debra, Caroline...Hello There @!!

Randa, if you abstain, I'm sure your DH will be motivated to find an new insur. company right away

Love you guys!!!

[meandmine]

Hi Ladies,

I'm ready for tomorrow - pleased if we can transfer but accepting if we can't. I have decided to go into this last treatment with a completely open mind. It would be a wonderful miracle if we can achieve a pregnancy after many, many years without children but our life is how it is and it is good - we are both healthy, have wonderful friends and family and this would just be the icing on the cake. Can't even begin to imagine how it would change our lives but it's out of our hands and what will be will be. Sorry if I sound a little 'practical' but this is how I have always dealt with our situation and it's the only way I know how. But I love all you ladies to bits and I understand that we will all feel very different about the outcomes of our treatments in our own ways.

Jane, hang on in there - keep that PMA going a little longer - let's hope and pray those 'signs' are good ones. Hugs x

I will catch up with you all tomorrow once I have some news.

Hugs
Sharon x

[CarolineP]

Jane

I remember all my 2ww's vividly - I had all the same symptons, the only difference was my +ive HPT test on the 4th go. I still had AF cramping and sore boobs for the first 12 weeks of my pregnancy!

I know it's not easy, but try not to 2nd guess your body and wait for your testing day when you know for sure.

CarolineP

[debbieed]

Hello Girls,
I just popped in here to see how enveryone is doing and to say 'hang on in there all of you - things can go well'.
Some of you may remember how difficult it was for me to keep up the PMA during my last 2ww and now I'm almost 12 weeks pregnant!!!!
We've now had 3 scans and each time things have been fine. I can't believe how lucky I am to have got this far and I wouldn't have done it without all of your support.
I've also changed jobs this week so life has been VERY hectic for the past few weeks, but I finally got a few minutes to spare so I thought I'd try to catch up with things on here.
Wishing all of you the very best and sending BUCKET LOADS of babydust you way

Love
Debbie

[DebraP]

Debbie, lovely to hear things are going well. I'll keep my eye on the Pg side for your updates.

Sharon, practical works for me too. DF and I have 6m-5yr plan whatever result we get next week. The best best best of luck tomorrow with your ET. What time will it be? will you know about how well the thaw went before you leave? I'll be thinking of you.

Randa, you seem to take the delay stoically, are you feeling that calm? I guess for those of us who live in countries with very different medical systems, it seems tragic to delay ttc due to insurance concerns but understand that it's vital, non-negotiatable and essential in the US. Do you have a plan for the extra months?

CarolineP, it's so sweet that you're still roaring us on, thank you so much.

Jane, I hope that the end of your 2ww is a calm one. I so hope you get what you want.

Caroline/cmg, your tmt is getting closer and closer. Remember when November was faaaar away, what is it now? 3 weeks??

Katie, I hope the start of your microscopically short wait zooms by

Nula, OK? not heard from you for a bit.

Hi Jackie, do you want to add yourself to the mini-tmt list that's running on here. Cut, paste and add your details. It will help me keep tabs on what + when.

Amfy, feeling alright? prepared for your next tmt?

Kat...ready? you must be leaving for Barcelona next week yes??

Everything is fine here. I feel more positive today. Perhaps because I did some work + went to my evening class and thus was totally distracted for a good long while?

hugs
Debra.

[meandmine]

Debra,

Think of me at 11.30 am - I have to ring and see how the thaw went and, if all ok, will have transfer p.m. I am excited but I am sure I will be feeling extremely nervous when I ring.

Glad to hear you had a good day - keep up the PMA and keep that tummy warm.

Sharon x