IVF over 40 Buddy Group........Membership Drive

[bonnie]

Hi Kids! (i think i can get away with that as an "elder" in this group!)

I am off to the lake for a week of relaxing with my peeps. I wont touch a computer for a week (may not survive), so i wanted you all to know why i am being so quiet for a time...a feat for me!

Man, i have been DIZZY (my friend called me ditzy) lately--i guess the progesterone! i called my RE and asked if i should check my hormone levels sooner than the scheduled April 13th (next US too) and she said--no point--that is totally normal. ok. it feels like a bad drunk.

I will catch up soon, thanks to all for your help and support!
Bonnie

[lynniecat]

Hey guys I am still lurking, but life has been stressful. I will be back soon, I promise. Cate is still doing ok. Two amnios so far and both were clean!

[sabi]

Kelly,
How is your IVF treatment working out? Over 40 & getting started.
Sabi

[missygirl]

Bonnie....sounds wonderful! I hope you have a wonderful time at the Lake and get some relaxattion!!!

Missy

[lycase]

Hello all,

I am having a very hard time finding a place to talk because I am so much in limbo.

Since my failled IVF in October of 2008, I have tried to see if there is any hope in conceiving ourselves again... at 44 the chances are becoming harder and harder... But since my sister 45 just had a healthy baby boy we decided to see what's going on.

We went to two clinics. The first one did all the tests on us and everything is fine... But since they wanted us to wait for another cycle (60 days) before doing anything to help we went for the other clinic which were our monitoring clinic when we did our IVF and I really liked them.

Well it turned out the doctor tried clomid and drugs without success... so brough on my period so it would not last so long. Next time we did only meds no clomid... no luck again.. Then I started wondering why I was on so many meds instead of just watching for my cycle and ovulation etc... anyhow on the third cycle the doctor was on hollidays so I had to wait another cycle and I though forget it...

So we went with the first clinic and so we did only clomid this cycle mid March. Yesterday I think I was ovulating and we did our baby dance so again we are hoping but probably for nothing... Anyhow... I read how acupuncture can help with regularity in cycles and decided to give it a try even though it is NOT covered by our insurance cause it is NOT done by a real MD... anyhow I went for my first session yesterday and since it was my ovulation day (I think) he did the Implentation Acupuncture needles... Although I don't thing acupuncture only once can help I think it can help after a few months... So even if its expensive I want to go with it cause its amazing... Actually its my husband who said not to worry about the money just go if I want to... and since I might get a big contract again I decided to give it a try.

Furthermore we are also considering "Embryo Adoption"... So I though if ever we go that route the acupuncture sessions will definitly help me that time in IVF (FET) treatment and cycle... My plan was to adopt a multiple of embryos like 10+ so when you thaw them and try it I might have enough for 2 trials giving the chance to one child to maybe have a sibling so later in life they don't feel so out of place and have a true sibing...

Finally since we cannot do the Home Study (because of the time frame, money and probably failling it) we decided to try and find an agency that doesn't require a home study and we found one... So I chose a donor with 11 embryos (all Blasto) and fillout out the paperwork and sent everything off to the agency in the hope of hearing from them soon. If it is negative we will just stay with them until we get accepted by one generous couple... When you need to do your own home study boy its a lot of work but you feel so exited to know that you are doing something in case conceiving in my old age is not possible.

My husband would prefer a donor egg cycle again but its just my religion that really bugs me about it. Catholics are NOT to use donor eggs... actually they don't really like Embryo Adoption either but the way I see it I would be giving these little ones a chance at life without having to create more lives... He would also prefer that the child belongs to at least one of us but really me it makes no difference since it would not be mine either way... The great thing about this is that we saw the twin boys she had with those embryos so we know what the child might look like that is way cool. I know there are little chance we might get accepted because of the children we already have but hopefully they will consider us and also think about their embryos who are already 10 years old and soon will not have much change at surviving...

So all this to say that I am trying everything to have another baby and if all that doesn't work I think I will try another DE Cycle because I am not ready to give up and with this new contract coming up maybe we will be able to afford it...

Thank you for reading my letter and I hope to hear from you soon.

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12/30/00 - Wedding @ 36 (2000) had 4 children with DH
01/09/69 - DH - 40
11/21/64 - Me - 44
05/16/92 - DSS (PR)
06/14/93 - DD (PR)
12/14/01 - DS
04/06/03 - DS
05/19/04 - DD
03/29/06 - DS
05/11/08 - m/c (died @ 8.5w, lost @12w)

21/10/08 - 1st IVF - BETA - BNF
Nov-Dec 2008 - Testing at IFV Clinic in Town - All Good!!!
02/05/09 - 02/09/09 - Clomid day 3 - 7
02/10/09 - 02/16/09 - Puregon/Metformin/Failed Protocole...
02/28/09 - 03/09/09 - Puregon/Metformin/Failed Protocole...
03/18/09 - 03/22/09 - Clomid with another clinic
04/03/09 - First Accupuncture Session - Implentation Protocole (was just amazing)

03/15/09 - Started paperwork for Embryo Adoption in case I never get pregnant again

[Cocoa]

Secaly... just so you know... embryo adoption IS sanctioned by the Catholic Church as it is meant to give life to frozen little people who are already here. I did ALL my research on it... Good luck and many blessings - looks like you have a nice big family! I so wish I could have more children but now I am really too old (whereas before I was just a little too old)!


xxxCocoa

[lycase]

So you mean it is accepted with the Catholic Church? Strange then cause my priest said he could not help me cause the archbishop was against it??

anyhow the couple still didn't says yes so its probably a no anyways

thanks.

Helene

[Cocoa]

Yes, look up what the Pope has said about IVF and frozen embryos. Guess your priest needs to get up-to-date. I hope for the best for you.

xxxCocoa

[AKMom]

Hey there Ladies:

I had an U/S and blood draw today. I am day 2 of my period, they wanted to do a day 2 rather than day 5 (Monday). Here are the results:

U/S Rt. ovary 12 Follies Lft: 15, My FSH is 8, and E2 is 20. I am not really sure what the numbers mean yet, but my Doc is very optimistic. I am to start BCP's sunday for 29 days, and sceduled ER for last week of May. I am so excited, this doc is breath of fresh air.

How is everyone doing ---the board seems a little quiet, I guess due to Kelly taking a break.

Happy Easter to all

Kat

[sabi]

Hi ladies,
How was your Easter week-end? Mine was great! Kept busy therefore didn't have time to think about the you know what... My pre-screening appt is next Monday- so excited to get the ball rolling- so much for the bank account though.

Growing a garden & fruit bushes this year to keep myself occupied during my down time. Working around the house a little too- sort of making up projects if you know what I mean. Maybe I'll get into gourmet cooking - lookout!!!!

Prayed for all of us Saturday during Easter vigil mass He does answer prayers. I'm counting on it. Enjoy your evening.
Smiles!!
Sabi
xxoo

[bonnie]

HI EVERYONE!! well after a great time of hiking at the lake with a great gang of people--i started bleeding again--same as before--a tablespoon or so of red blood then brown spotting with specs for a day or so.

i went in for my US today 8w4d pregnant and it was perfect! 185 heartbeat--saw the little one wiggling and moving arms and legs--amazing. everything--size--was all right on target!

I hope this gives someone hope and encouragement that bleeding isnt always a bad sign!

Now i just have to continue on prog and estragen to 10 weeks and then they will taper me down. I had progesterone checked today--but dont have the results yet.

I'll go to my birthing center to have a first visit with the nurse midwives at 10 weeks. What a crazy journey!

thanks for all of your encouragement and kind words,
Bonnie

[natashamom]

Hello ladies,

I was wondering if any of you had or intend to go to CCRM,I heard they`re the best.(very pricy too!)

Thanks,

Natasha.

[sabi]

Bonnie,
That's great news!!
Natashasmom- what is ccrm?

Smiles!!
Sabi

[missygirl]

Well, I was 12 weeks pregnant today, went for my ultrasound and no heartbeat.....devastated.....good luck to the rest of you.

Missy

[bonnie]

Missy I am so deeply sorry! i know many of us have experienced this pain and we are with you during this difficult time.

my first miscarriage was a similar situation to this. i had a couple US that were relatively normal and then when i went for 12 weeks there was no heartbeat. i remember it like it was today. i knew immediately when she put the probe up that the heartbeat had stopped. Honestly, i was so heart broken that i didnt think i would ever be the same again. a friend of mine who has also suffered from miscarriage and even a stillborn daughter prayed over me that i would not lose hope. somehow in that prayer i climbed out of the deep pit of despair. i pray that over you now. God has a future and a hope for you Missy! Dont lose hope even in your deep sorrow.

We are with you. bonnie