2nd trimester bump buddies

[k]

Hi ladies

Hope you dont mind me butting in on your thread, but after your discussions re strep B i thought Id bump the above thread up for you, although I believe Cla has given you the website address.

Take care
Love kim

[Danie454]

Hello to everyone!

Yea Lisa glad to hear, I hope they can tell you for sure on your next visit!

I have been helping my DH with a construction project and I put lots and lots of cabinets together! I also painted a wall the whole time wishing I was painting nursery LOL.

But its worth it, he works so hard and its really nice to get some real exercise. Not that my Dvd's arn't good.. But I did Yoga and Pilates and Cardio almost everyday before Treatment and these Dvd's feel like beginners stuff!

I am glad to see that everyone is doing good.

Being someone who would have experianced gender disapointment if I would have gotten different results I feel like its okay to express our opions in this forum.

I wouldn't post it anywhere else though so I didn't hurt anyones feelings.

I can understand how someone would feel like I was being ungrateful when im pregnant and they are not and they would give anything for a baby of any sex. But this is the pregnant forum and I think its fine to say any pregnant stuff you want. Its almost the same situation as lets say a hooker who gets pregnant several times a year only to end up aborting.

That wouldn't be fair to me if I can't get pregnant naturally and she is doing what I might consider wasting so many babies. Sorry for the extreme example but thats all I could think of on the typing fly..

So I guess I am trying to say that life isn't always fair and some people get pregnant some people never get pregnant and its perfectly okay to express gender disapointment in the pregnant forum if thats how you feel.

If Non pregnant IVF people are reading in here, they are skipping ahead in a way. Because when I first was going through IVF i was saying .... I dont care what sex the baby is.. I just want a baby.. Then when I ended up pregnant after the OMG what if its twins scare.. I really started to dread having another girl, ( mine is 12 and very sassy these days!)

Whos to say how non pregnant people are going to feel when they do get pregnant.

okay really enough of that..

Have a great week everyone!

I have a Fetal EKG next week, my IVF clinic has started testing all IVF patients for Fetal heart problems because some study has said that IVF babies have a 3% chance instead of a 2.5% chance..

OH well another excuse to see the baby for me. I will also have them double check and make sure its still a boy!! LOL

Be back soon!

Danielle

[Mel_P]

Hi Everyone
Wow I feel like Ive missed so much!

Wish I had a nursery to paint like you guys Bella and Kirsti, to get the baby giddies out of the system. I had to make do with unpacking and folding and refolding the gazillion secret baby gears I have picked up instead whilst DH was at work. Hard keeping this little girl a secret from the boy!!

Bella I know what you mean about getting suckered in by the pink!! Am categorically a non pink frou frou type myself, but have found myself surrounded by socks with wee pink roses on them and pink elephant sleep suits and a million other pink things! How did it happen!

Is anybody else suddently HUGE? I am actually worrying whether I should worry, I mean I suddenly look 8 months pregnant and I still have 3 months to go! Its actually made me nervous, suddenly get that feeling like its all outta control!]

Fun checking you guys out on photo bucket, so much for suggesting it and then being too prudish to post my own pic! I only have ones where I kind distinctly UNGLOWING and non blooming, the only one that shows my belly happens to have me looking extremely frayed and stirring a pot on the stove!! Lovely to see the rest of you though!

Sue and all thanks for the Strep B info, will ask my m/w next week.



(Good to hear honest and direct opinions too on a bunch of stuff. Was kind of interesting for me to read, coz reminded me of a post I read a moon ago on another forum where all these ladies (non ivf peeps) were ranting about gender preferences, (along with how it had taken a whole 4 months to conceive child number 3 mind you) and I sent a totally violent ranting post out to everyone! (signed anon of course ) but then here I am going through the same kind of fears worrying that my DH will be disappointed about our girl.) Agree that the only thing we should all feel is that we can say exactly what we feel and express it how we want.

Take care all, too many posts to reply to, but hope your all well!

[kristiA]

Mel, you have my strict instructions to post your picture! Like you said, you started it! I've been talking to you for over 27 weeks through this whole process. Time to show your face & your belly!

[sue e]

Hi all,

Just a quick post to say 'hi' as i should be really in the back room stripping the walls, while DH is asleep!!! (less hassle that way). We bought our nursery furniture the other day and it is all flat packet in the back room, so we are trying to sort the room out so we can move our 'MAP kid' in there and then put the nursery stuff up in the little room. I cant wait to see what it all looks like, sorry to those who have to wait a little longer to see what their nurserys will look like, i am sure it will be worth the weight.

Mel, Kristi - Have you both seemed to expand quite a bit over the last week or 2? I have and i must say it feels weird, similar to how i would imagine swallowing a football would be like!!!!!! I am suddenly aware of the lump getting in the way and sleeping of a night is a joke, when it comes to getting comfortable. I believe we are not supposed to sleep on our back, is that right? as supposedly it cuts of the circulation to the baby.

Well enough from me, thanks CLA and everyone else for your pearls of wisdom over the Group B strep, it is amazing how common and yet not many people have heard.

Have fun, love to all the bumps

sue e xx

[kristiA]

Sue, yeah, my belly sure does seem bigger lately. My uterus/belly has now filled that gap between stomach & boobs and my boobs rest on my belly, which is a strange feeling to me. My stomach was 30 inches before getting pg and now it's 43 inches. Has anyone else been measuring? 13 inches & 38 pounds so far for me (twins though).

Yep, I heard that laying on your back is bad for the baby's circulation too. I read to lay on your left side. Ironically it's the only way I can lay now anyway.

We're days away from the 3rd T now!

[kristiA]

By the way, my diabetes test results were normal. But they said my hemoglobin levels were low, so I have to take an iron supplement and they are rechecking me again in a week.

[Tracii]

OK...question...is anyone having 'scary' thoughts? I keep second guessing myself and wondering will I be a good parent, will the baby/child be OK, are we really ready?? I know everything is ok - but people keep telling me 'oh my your world is going to change, oh the baby is going to cry every 2 hours, you will never sleep, get ready for barf down your back...blah, blah, blah..'....having a child can't be that bad can it? I am focusing on the positive..but nevertheless scared

Off for my diabetes test...geez I am starving!

[sue e]

Kristi - good news that the diabetes test came back ok, hopefully the iron tablets will soon sort you out. I cant believe how much weight you have put on, although i dont know how much i have!!!! Are you finding it quite difficult carrying all the extra weight? I tend to sleep on my right side as i know bubble is over to the left, and when i am on my left sometimes i will get a few kicks, which i think is bubbles way of telling me to stop squashing him/her!!!

Tracii- hoping your tests come back normal. Yes i do have mad thoughts when i think what have we done, what have we let ourselves in for, will we cope, but its only natural it is a new experience and i am sure we will all adapt just fine, its fear of the unknown. If my baby is a whinger it has got plenty of relatives to visit, and each one can spend some quality time with it I am sure having the baby will bring joys and happiness far more than we could ever imagine.

Mel - Do you think you will tell dh before the birth that your having a girl? It must be hard being a secret buyer, i think loads of the girls clothes are fab. I feel as though i have expanded very quickly over the last week or two, mad isnt it.

lots of love to everyone else, hope you are al doing swell

love

sue xx

[kristiA]

I have fears too, especially because of having twins. I get the "everything will be doubly hard" phrase all the time. I do worry that I'm going to be overwhelmed. But ladies, we've wanted this for so long...you know we're all going to be great mom's! I have no doubt about that.

I had a horrible dream last night that woke me up and felt so real. I dreamed that I miscarried one of the babies and sat there and held it and was completely heartbroken. I woke up thinking "please don't let anything happen to my babies!!!"

Tracii, did you get the orange soda pop sugar stuff to drink? Did you hit a fast food restaurant right after the test like I did??? I was starving too! That was way too many hours for a pregnant lady to go without eating!

[JustinesBaby]

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[Tracii]

Justine - Thank you for the lovely reassurance. I know everything will be fine..I just worry sometimes. Deep down inside I know our little girl will be lovely (so far she has given me no problems )...I can't wait until she wraps her hand around my finger and looks into my eyes. We have a friend with about a 7 month old and he says the baby is an absolute terror (this scares me!)...but when I hear what the problems are...it is really the parents fault (i.e. no schedule for baby, pick him up constantly if he cries...). Your little Sophie is adorable!

Kristi - I stocked up at our local bakery before heading to the doctors office. I was famished! Plus she said the day before I did not eat enough (somehow they can tell in the urine). I had a huge healthy dinner last night and am feeling better today.

Mel - I am not a pink person either (more blacks and dark blue)...but I find myself buying all this pink stuff and for myself! There are lots of other lovely colors out there...I am going for the light green and lavendar. One thing I hate is all the 'princess' stuff...I have told everyone no princess stuff! ...atleast we don't need to worry about the pink nursery

Sue - I have always slept on my side...but lately I want to sleep on my back and rub my tummy. How is your blood pressure doing?

Lisa - Congrats on the little girl!!

Hi to Danielle, Ahart, Jamato, Terri, Cla!

My diabetes check came back ok...one less worry. I have been eating a lot of sweets lately so I was a bit concerned. I have a small passion for cupcakes and while I was in the US ate lots of very sweet cupcakes. The baby is already in head down position and doc said she will most likely stay there. She moves from side to side..this is why I feel her kick to the left and right. She is getting a kicking schedule...mornings she kicks around 6am, lunchtime and nighttime from about 8pm-11pm. She is measuring 1 week ahead of schedule and now weighs 952grams (2.1 lbs).

[Mel_P]

Hi All

Hope everyone well. Good to hear those diabetes results are all good, I have my test due next week, there is this part of me that is convinced mine won't go right (it has something to do with the guilts on eating an entire block of chocolate and half a packet of biscuits per day now, coupled with fact am starting to worry I am carrying a giant baby!! Arent the diabetes babies supposed to be much bigger!). Have had all these people this week commenting on how suprised they are at how big I am. Feeling like yelling at them to stop freaking me out!

Tracii and all, you know its funny you mentionned the worries, I was having exactly all the same fears all of a sudden. I think part of it was suddenly having this large out of control belly and entering the third tri (love the boobs napping on your belly image kirsti! My belly feels like it likes hanging out on my knees, and thats not a huge exaggeration!). You know all early worries were just in beleiving the impossible had finally happenened and we have all wanted this so so bad, it probably never hit us early on about the change aspect and the no turning back, because most of us became pregnant after being willing to do practially anything to be pregnant. Now its actually upon is, its all wonderful but daunting at the same time!

Am just praying hard that have gotten this far, that everything is going to be okay with our little girl when she is born. I guess these fears are natrual.

How many of you girls are not working for a while after baby is here? Feel really gutted coz would give my right arm to take a year from work, but the shit has really fit the fan with my DH's job and don't know if I will even be able to make 6 months out of work. This time has been so precious and longed for, its going to break my heart having to go back to work early

[Mel_P]

Hey forgot to mention that I spoke to my m/w about sleeping on my back last month coz was worried about it. Her take was not to worry about it at all and it apparently only causes pressure on the circulation if you are laid totally flat without even your head supported on a pillow. This made me feel better as often wake up sleeping on my back!

She reckons at our stage too if baby is uncomfortable for any reason, they will let us know with a couple of karate kicks.

Be interested to hear what you guys and other doctors have said though, coz in the books Ive read it certainly does say NOT to sleep on your back! I dont think 2 experts ever agree on anything.

Have been waking up with backache even though dont feel that heavy. But pllows at your back and one pillow between your knees really does help.

Ciao
Mel

[EYCI]

hello all!

It is so good to read about how everything is going for everyone. I know, I should jump over to 3rd tri, but there is just so much more to read here

As for the sleeping on your back vs side, ok I'll admit it... I'm sleeping on my back and proud of it! Ok, not really proud but on my side I have so much round ligament pain that it is very uncomfortable. I'd wake up so stiff and sore that I could hardly get out of bed for the 3am wee. My chiropractor told me that the big concern of back sleeping is cutting off circulation to your legs, and not a concern for the baby. I do notice that I get more leg cramps, but I am sleeping sooo much better that it is a good trade.

I've been put on "restricted duty" so to speak due to pre-term labor. I was having 10-12 contractions per hour. I started with a week of strict bedrest, and now I'm back to work, but only if I am sitting. No trips to the store, no fussing with the nursery, no laundry, no cleaning. It is very hard to be a couch potato! But, with the rest and medication, I'm down to only 2-3 per hour.

I have days when I wonder if I am truly carrying a baby, and wondering if it is not some big fish that is flopping around out of water. I can't believe how much it moves... and I thought it would be slowing down a little by now. The baby is laying across, not up and down, so I have lots of body parts trying to stretch my ribs out of the way. Who knew that a little 3 pounder could inflict so much brute strength??

Hope all stays well... and hope to see you all over in the 3rd try shortly!

--Julie