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P.S. Stephanievt97--I know what you mean about trying to work out schedules. Good luck w/ your stim. Hopefully you won't have the same schedule conflicts that I am finding myself in. It's very stressful. I wish my dh would make this his priority, but I guess I can see where he's coming from--sometimes you can't cancel things at the last minute.
ME--42 DH 41
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alittlegrace
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Kbat,
I am so sorry you have this worry. Don't give up yet! Have you contacted anyone who might be able to help? I will continue to pray that this works out for you.
These kind of issues make me crazy; ivf is hard enough to go through let alone have all of life's regular challenges still coming your way.
You have made it this far, try to think positive. There has to be an answer.
alittlegrace
I am so sorry you have this worry. Don't give up yet! Have you contacted anyone who might be able to help? I will continue to pray that this works out for you.
These kind of issues make me crazy; ivf is hard enough to go through let alone have all of life's regular challenges still coming your way.
You have made it this far, try to think positive. There has to be an answer.
alittlegrace
THANKS FOR THE PRAYERS--
I've e-mailed my 2 sisters-in-law but so far no answer. The only family I have in RI is my husband and his family. I don't really have any good friends that I can rely on. I am trying not to lose it totatlly, but I am getting into panic mode. If I had to I would have called my sister who lives in the Boston area, but she's going out of town tomorrow morning. If I get desparate, I will try an aunt, but to drive from Boston to Lexington, MA to the Providence, RI area then back to Boston is a little much--don't know if I'll find anyone to help me out. These are the days that I wish I lived where I used to live b/c at least there I had friends who I could count on to help me out of this predicement. Don't know why this clinic seems so unaccomadating.... I didn't like the other doc at the other clinic, but if a situation like this arose at least they would allow for a car service. This place doesn't. Last time when there was a 50% chance that it would happen on a day that my husband couldn't make it, they wouldn't let him go in a few days before to give a frozen sperm sample.....
No matter what happens, I am thinking more and more that this will be it for me. I can't take the added stress of whether or not the clinic will accomadate us for our situations--namely the possible scheduling conflicts that my husband may have. If they scheduled for the 1st appointment of the day like I requested they would this morning, I probably wouldn't even be in this situation....
I've e-mailed my 2 sisters-in-law but so far no answer. The only family I have in RI is my husband and his family. I don't really have any good friends that I can rely on. I am trying not to lose it totatlly, but I am getting into panic mode. If I had to I would have called my sister who lives in the Boston area, but she's going out of town tomorrow morning. If I get desparate, I will try an aunt, but to drive from Boston to Lexington, MA to the Providence, RI area then back to Boston is a little much--don't know if I'll find anyone to help me out. These are the days that I wish I lived where I used to live b/c at least there I had friends who I could count on to help me out of this predicement. Don't know why this clinic seems so unaccomadating.... I didn't like the other doc at the other clinic, but if a situation like this arose at least they would allow for a car service. This place doesn't. Last time when there was a 50% chance that it would happen on a day that my husband couldn't make it, they wouldn't let him go in a few days before to give a frozen sperm sample.....
No matter what happens, I am thinking more and more that this will be it for me. I can't take the added stress of whether or not the clinic will accomadate us for our situations--namely the possible scheduling conflicts that my husband may have. If they scheduled for the 1st appointment of the day like I requested they would this morning, I probably wouldn't even be in this situation....
ME--42 DH 41
OK here's the update. I e-mailed the few people in RI I know, mainly 2 of my husband's sisters. One didn't get back to me and the other one did who said she could maybe come pick me up later but she had to put her child on the bus at 8:15. She's a nurse and has to work the night shift tonight, but would see if she could leave early to go home and get some sleep.
My husband did talk w/ the partner he's working w/ on the case and said he may be running a little late and the guy was very understanding.... So I think if we can get out of there by about 10 a.m. he should be able to get to his work not that late--maybe around 11:30--half hour later.
We think that this will be our last one. It's not really my husband's fault that things arise in his work and then we are told at just a day and a half before the actual e/r.... This clinic is totally inflexible in trying to help us out.... When we had an potential issue for the last cycle where my husband couldn't be there at all, we wanted to get the sperm frozen. The doctor's office in RI was willing to do it, but the clinic made a big deal about it since it required a lot of paperwork. It worked out that he could make it. Now we were willing to hire a car service to take me home and they totally squashed that idea. They wanted someone to be home w/ me all day. Now, I've had 4 of these done, and I've never had a problem before..... Although other clinic I was at had a lot of "faults" they seemed willing to work out these little things.... So, keeping my fingers crossed that this is it....
My husband did talk w/ the partner he's working w/ on the case and said he may be running a little late and the guy was very understanding.... So I think if we can get out of there by about 10 a.m. he should be able to get to his work not that late--maybe around 11:30--half hour later.
We think that this will be our last one. It's not really my husband's fault that things arise in his work and then we are told at just a day and a half before the actual e/r.... This clinic is totally inflexible in trying to help us out.... When we had an potential issue for the last cycle where my husband couldn't be there at all, we wanted to get the sperm frozen. The doctor's office in RI was willing to do it, but the clinic made a big deal about it since it required a lot of paperwork. It worked out that he could make it. Now we were willing to hire a car service to take me home and they totally squashed that idea. They wanted someone to be home w/ me all day. Now, I've had 4 of these done, and I've never had a problem before..... Although other clinic I was at had a lot of "faults" they seemed willing to work out these little things.... So, keeping my fingers crossed that this is it....
ME--42 DH 41
Wow kbat, I am extremely sorry that you are having such a tough time. This is hard enough without scheduling problems. Try not to let the clinic problems get you down. I think it is easy for clinics to forget that we are only human here and we're trying to do something that is very stressful for us, not to mention the pain, shots, and everything else that goes along with IVF.
I'm glad that your dh can be there!! My clinic requires us to freeze sperm 2 weeks before we even begin IVF just in case something happens (they said a lot of women had to stop their cycles on 9/11 because dh's couldn't fly home for the ER). At the time I just viewed it as a way to get us to pay $275 for something we didn't really need, but I do understand now.
Hang in there and I'll be thinking of you.
Grace
I'm glad that your dh can be there!! My clinic requires us to freeze sperm 2 weeks before we even begin IVF just in case something happens (they said a lot of women had to stop their cycles on 9/11 because dh's couldn't fly home for the ER). At the time I just viewed it as a way to get us to pay $275 for something we didn't really need, but I do understand now.
Hang in there and I'll be thinking of you.
Grace
Me:36 DH:37
1st IVF: BFN
2nd IVF: BFP, had a m/c
3rd IVF: FET, BFP. Baby Girl born 10/13/09!!!
1st IVF: BFN
2nd IVF: BFP, had a m/c
3rd IVF: FET, BFP. Baby Girl born 10/13/09!!!
Thanks Grace for that support.... My clinic does require if we want to freeze sperm to do it at the beginning of a cycle also at a cost of about $350-$400. The old clinic would allow the spouse to come in just a couple of days before the transfer if necessary. But this wasn't our issue---he could be there but needed to leave by about 9:30. to get to his court appearance by 11... . My husband doesn't need to travel--or least not do any travel far away via plane. Just w/ his job sometimes it's extremely difficult to rearrange things at the last minute. We would have been fine if they accomadated us by getting us the 1st appointment. We would have been in there an hour earlier, and out in plenty of time. I don't think it would have been a big deal when doing the scheduling just to say this person needs to be someplace by a certain time, so why don't we just make them the first appointment. However, they are not very accomadating I guess. But in the end, I guess it's going to work out.... But it's become very stressful. We even argued about it last night. But in the end, I think my husband just thinks that this clinic is extremely inflexible--we are probably not the first people this has happened to, and they don't seem to be interested in helping us find solutions to our "issues."--to make everyone happy at the end of the day. It's just a business/factory for them. I thought my old clinic was bad, which is why I left it.... Didn't think I would go to a clinic that was worse.... I almost switched clinics again after IVF #4 because of the bad experience I had w/ this clinic, but since I was winding down, they already got approval for me, etc, I decided to just stick it out. Oh well, I think that this will be our last IVF cycle. We just can't take it anymore--not so much the shots, etc. It's the people who work at these places. Some of the people seem compassionate and really willing to help, but for a lot of people it's just a job and for a lot of clinics it's just a business. If the re agreed to do any more, which is kind of ify she would, we would have done only one more cycle and stopped. I really wanted to take advantage as long as the insurance would pay, but mental health has to be worth something.... I guess mentally, I am ready to move on whatever the outcome--better than dealing w/ these people.
Sorry about my rant.... But I am lucky to have you all who are there to listen and give me wonderful support and words of wisdom...
I'll let you how the e/r. The good news is that if I do a day 3 transfer, which I hope to get to that point, it'll be Monday morning probably, which is a holiday so no work conflicts to worry about.....
At this clinic they give you something that prevents me from driving. The other clinic, they didn't give you anything, so I could drive myself.
Sorry about my rant.... But I am lucky to have you all who are there to listen and give me wonderful support and words of wisdom...
I'll let you how the e/r. The good news is that if I do a day 3 transfer, which I hope to get to that point, it'll be Monday morning probably, which is a holiday so no work conflicts to worry about.....
At this clinic they give you something that prevents me from driving. The other clinic, they didn't give you anything, so I could drive myself. ME--42 DH 41
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Hi Everyone,
Well, I will get right to it. Yesterday was a very bad day. For some reason, my estrogen continues to drop, and my RE is completly puzzled. She as no idea why this is happening. I am on more meds than last time. I have 12 tiny follicles, but with my body not procucing estrogen, they cannot grow. She decided to try one more thing, which is taking me off of the lupron completly. I go back in on Sunday for more b/w and another u/s to see if this helps get things going.
I got my Af on the 31st of Oct. and ever since I have been spotting. It won't go away. I think my ovaries are trying to work, because I am having a lot of low back pain, and pain on my sides.
I don't know what to think or do except pray. I am only 34 and this is not common in someone my age. My fsh level is at 9 which she says is good infact all of my levels were fine. There is something wrong, and they can't find it. If they cancel on Sunday, I won't know what the next step will be. How can they do anything with this kind of response? I hope everyone else is doing better than I am. I am really having a hard time.
Kbat,
How did er go? How did the ride situation work out?
alittlegrace
Well, I will get right to it. Yesterday was a very bad day. For some reason, my estrogen continues to drop, and my RE is completly puzzled. She as no idea why this is happening. I am on more meds than last time. I have 12 tiny follicles, but with my body not procucing estrogen, they cannot grow. She decided to try one more thing, which is taking me off of the lupron completly. I go back in on Sunday for more b/w and another u/s to see if this helps get things going.
I got my Af on the 31st of Oct. and ever since I have been spotting. It won't go away. I think my ovaries are trying to work, because I am having a lot of low back pain, and pain on my sides.
I don't know what to think or do except pray. I am only 34 and this is not common in someone my age. My fsh level is at 9 which she says is good infact all of my levels were fine. There is something wrong, and they can't find it. If they cancel on Sunday, I won't know what the next step will be. How can they do anything with this kind of response? I hope everyone else is doing better than I am. I am really having a hard time.
Kbat,
How did er go? How did the ride situation work out?
alittlegrace
alittlegrace--
I hope everything works out for you. I will pray for you that all goes o.k. Let me know if there's anything we can do for you.....
Everything went o.k. I was thinking that they would get 3 or 4 eggs out, but they got 2. My husband was able to drive me and still get to his thing only about 5 minutes late. So, in the end, it worked out like they always do. However, I am hoping that this e/r works out ok. I think we both decided this would be it. I would only go for one more after this, but we both have come to just not like the clinic's ways. (We got there way early today b/c we were afriad of traffic. We even got there before the 1st couple was supposed to be there--we got there at 7. The 1st couple going was supposed to be there at 7, but got there at 7:15. If the clinic wanted to, they could have accomadated us and made us the ones going at 7). we have both gotten a little cynical about the way the clinics are run and it's been way to stressfu. We are really tired of dealing w/ the clinics--and their lack of compassion, understanding and willingness to help us. This is my 5th one and if I don't have e/t on Monday, then that will not be a good sign anyway...(Out of at 4, only the 1st 2 we had e/t on day 2. this clinic would have waited until day 3, which may have shown they weren't good quality...) But trying to keep up good spirits.
GOOD LUCK TO ALL OF YOU!!! I'LL BE THINKING AND PRAYING FOR YOU ALL!
I hope everything works out for you. I will pray for you that all goes o.k. Let me know if there's anything we can do for you.....
Everything went o.k. I was thinking that they would get 3 or 4 eggs out, but they got 2. My husband was able to drive me and still get to his thing only about 5 minutes late. So, in the end, it worked out like they always do. However, I am hoping that this e/r works out ok. I think we both decided this would be it. I would only go for one more after this, but we both have come to just not like the clinic's ways. (We got there way early today b/c we were afriad of traffic. We even got there before the 1st couple was supposed to be there--we got there at 7. The 1st couple going was supposed to be there at 7, but got there at 7:15. If the clinic wanted to, they could have accomadated us and made us the ones going at 7). we have both gotten a little cynical about the way the clinics are run and it's been way to stressfu. We are really tired of dealing w/ the clinics--and their lack of compassion, understanding and willingness to help us. This is my 5th one and if I don't have e/t on Monday, then that will not be a good sign anyway...(Out of at 4, only the 1st 2 we had e/t on day 2. this clinic would have waited until day 3, which may have shown they weren't good quality...) But trying to keep up good spirits.
GOOD LUCK TO ALL OF YOU!!! I'LL BE THINKING AND PRAYING FOR YOU ALL!
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OK. I'm so annoyed.
Hormone levels aren't ready to start stims...I won't start stims until Tuesday, which means everything probably gets pushed back, which means I'll have to take off more work b/c it won't be over Thanksgiving break.
Everything was working out perfectly timing-wise...now it sucks!
I know it is what it is, but I'm annoyed.
updated: ok...not as annoyed any more. No point being annoyed. I've come up with the necessary lies if need be. I'm decreasing my Lupron starting tonight. I don't know if this means I'll still stim for 10-12 days or if it'll be less since I'm already decreasing the Lupron. I go back to RE next Friday so we'll know more then in terms of follicles and timing.
Hormone levels aren't ready to start stims...I won't start stims until Tuesday, which means everything probably gets pushed back, which means I'll have to take off more work b/c it won't be over Thanksgiving break.
Everything was working out perfectly timing-wise...now it sucks!
I know it is what it is, but I'm annoyed.
updated: ok...not as annoyed any more. No point being annoyed. I've come up with the necessary lies if need be. I'm decreasing my Lupron starting tonight. I don't know if this means I'll still stim for 10-12 days or if it'll be less since I'm already decreasing the Lupron. I go back to RE next Friday so we'll know more then in terms of follicles and timing.
stepanievt97....
I hear where you are coming from--you expect one thing and then it doesn't happen the way "it's supposed to" I think this whole IVF thing can be annoying at times. I don't work, so I don't have to worry about getting time off. The main reason I haven't worked during this whole process is to basically avoid issues w/ employers and trying to get time off, come in late, etc. Now that we are pretty much at the end of the line, I will probably go look for a job depending on the outcome of this cycle...
Good luck to you!!!
I hear where you are coming from--you expect one thing and then it doesn't happen the way "it's supposed to" I think this whole IVF thing can be annoying at times. I don't work, so I don't have to worry about getting time off. The main reason I haven't worked during this whole process is to basically avoid issues w/ employers and trying to get time off, come in late, etc. Now that we are pretty much at the end of the line, I will probably go look for a job depending on the outcome of this cycle...
Good luck to you!!!
ME--42 DH 41
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Well, that's it for me for this time. I went in this morning, and My E2 did go up a bit, but my lining is too diminished from all the spotting and low E2 numbers, so my Re canceled my cycle.
I am a little aggravated, because since she took me off of the Lupron, my e2 has gone up a little, and all my bleeding stopped. I was hoping that she would continue a little longer to see what would happen. I guess with the whole lining issue, she can't do that. I go in for a consultation on Tuesday for the next step.
I hope everything is going well for everyone else.
alittlegrace
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I am a little aggravated, because since she took me off of the Lupron, my e2 has gone up a little, and all my bleeding stopped. I was hoping that she would continue a little longer to see what would happen. I guess with the whole lining issue, she can't do that. I go in for a consultation on Tuesday for the next step.
I hope everything is going well for everyone else.
alittlegrace
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alittlegrace--
Sorry things didn't get to proceed
. Hope that your consultation goes o.k. and you get the answers you want/need in order to proceed.
As of right now, looks like I am on for e/t tomorrow. I need to be there for 12:30 for egg transfer at 1:30. However, they will make one final call in the morning at about 8:30 to make sure all looks o.k. and perhaps to tell me to come in a little earlier. As of right now, I am relieved that everything looks o.k. and that I am on, but I am still a little nervous that things could change. I've always had Day 2 transfer (when I had a transfer) and never a day 3 transfer, so I am not sure what to expect...
Sorry things didn't get to proceed
. Hope that your consultation goes o.k. and you get the answers you want/need in order to proceed.As of right now, looks like I am on for e/t tomorrow. I need to be there for 12:30 for egg transfer at 1:30. However, they will make one final call in the morning at about 8:30 to make sure all looks o.k. and perhaps to tell me to come in a little earlier. As of right now, I am relieved that everything looks o.k. and that I am on, but I am still a little nervous that things could change. I've always had Day 2 transfer (when I had a transfer) and never a day 3 transfer, so I am not sure what to expect...
ME--42 DH 41
Good luck tomorrow, kbat!!!!! I'll be thinking of you!
I had a 3 day transfer on my last cycle, and it was identical to the transfer for the 5 day blast they did this time. So at least with my RE, I guess they're all the same...
alittlegrace, hang in there. I'm so sorry you have to go through all this!!!
Grace
I had a 3 day transfer on my last cycle, and it was identical to the transfer for the 5 day blast they did this time. So at least with my RE, I guess they're all the same...
alittlegrace, hang in there. I'm so sorry you have to go through all this!!!
Grace
Me:36 DH:37
1st IVF: BFN
2nd IVF: BFP, had a m/c
3rd IVF: FET, BFP. Baby Girl born 10/13/09!!!
1st IVF: BFN
2nd IVF: BFP, had a m/c
3rd IVF: FET, BFP. Baby Girl born 10/13/09!!!
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