February/March Buddies

[daly]

Hello everyone!!

Tracii - I'm seeing an acupunturist also. I see her 1/week and right before and after transfer. Hey, even if it's the placebo effect - I'll take it. (That can be a medically significant effect.) Idid read 2 studies, Germanand Japanese that back up acupuncture has beneficial for successfull IVF.

Diane - Thank you for your thoughtful note. I'm in complete agreement with you about egg donation. I'll go there as soon as indicated. I'm sure I'll need to eventually if I want several kids. (Aiming for twins this go!) (Ofcourse will be happy with singleton) I read the book "A few good eggs" and they mention a woman who finally got pregnant at 11th try of IVF. So it happens with persistance! Where in the US do you get your treatment?

Donna and Kate - I had the exact same feelings last weekend. Went out to lunch with a bunch of girlfriends. All of us in early 30's and married, so naturally everyone is thinking about when they want to get pregnant. Lightly mentioning the need to try for 3 mn etc. None of the worry or heartache. And they get to do it for FREE!!! I told my husband I feel a bit cheated on one of life's great joys. That private situation where only you and your husband are involved in conception- ie not probes, needles, various doctors and nurses...I did have that with first 2 natural pregnancie. It was very nice. Sadly ended with mc and Donna, I also know exactly where I drove, ate etc on that day. It can kindof play back in slow motion in my head. Baby was due in Christmas 2 years ago and I'm still nostalgic to get my Christmas baby. I don't remember the 3 other mc's as clearly. They're a bit of a blur.
Remember that hormones are at an all time low just before AF and this usually causes low moods, so be very easy on yourself this time of month!!

Well I had a great 3 day week-end going wine tasting. I needed a good time off the infertitily obsession and a little port and sherry sure did the trick. I was so nice to feel regular. (I'm not trying until March, so this month I'm letting loose a bit!)

Good luck to everyone who's getting starting on their stims and a couple of FETs are fast in coming as well. We're going to have a fantastic spring with loads of BFPs!!!

[DianeC]

Hi everyone

Daly, we receive our treatment through SDFC in La Jolla? or very close to there. We stay in the area and manage to do some touristy things as well. They are very good with us at the clinic and we cannot complain about the service at all. One service we recieved here in Australia left a lot to be desired. I am aware that this does not mean that all Australian clinics give bad service, just one we know of in particular. We actually feel right at home when we go to America as we stay at the same place, found some really nice places to eat and visit. We go to Balboa Park and the Bazzar in Old Town each time we are there. Last visit we went to Solvang and had a great time.

I agree with you about the placebo effect, it is amazing to think that a treatment may work for you even if it is not the "real thing". Just thinking that a treatment can help you, may in fact help you - amazing how the mind and body reacts.

Persistance is the key for us. I truely believe that if we persist long enough, we will get there. That is, if we don't run out of money first.

Seems like you have had a trying time as well. It does eat at you after a while. You think, why us? why me? not fair? and then , we pay for this pain when others get pleasure in doing what comes naturally. I think that as I have progressed, I am more accepting of what will be, will be. I try not to spend negative time on things I cannot change. My husband is a different matter - he feels the same way every time (very down) it really beats him up. We actually spend a lot of time after the result to work it through - we help each other in a time that can be devestating and can also be isolating if you let it.

Keep trying with your own eggs - as long as you can produce your own eggs and they are of good quality there is no reason to use donor eggs as yet. Where are you in Sth California? Have you had some research experience? Just noticed some of the things you say are related to research and not necessarily something people would refer to.

Sorry to hog to forum - best of luck to everyone, keep positive and optimistic

Cheers Di

[Tracii]

Hi Feb/March Buddies!! Our time is coming up!!


Daly - Sounds like our acu schedules are similar. I agree with you regarding the placebo effect...in my mind the acu has done wonders for me I also read this German/Japenese study regarding IVF and acu...so I always keep this in the back of my mind. Plus it can't hurt, can it?

Diane - You are really lucky to have such a supportive DH...don't get me wrong my DH is also supportive but in his own way...he doesn't like to talk about his emotions...I wish you all the best and tons and tons of baby dust for your trip to the US...it will work out - persistane does pay off

Kate21 - It is completely normal to have these thoughts about not being able to get pregnant. I too try to think what it would be like to be just DH and the dogs...and then I try to think positive and push this out of my head. I try to focus on what is going on in my body at that time...for example if AF is there I visualize the clearing of the lining and re-growth happening with a healthy lining...I know this is crazy but I do feel it helps focus on the positive side. I am unexplained as well...and it is so frustrating! Everyone just says relax, you will get pregnant....and I am sure this is true...but how can you just relax?

Hi to Sue e, Jodic, Allison, Macca8, Donna99, Eminde!!!

I am off to India tomorrow for hols and want to send you all PMA and Baby Dust!!! DH keeps asking me if I am excited..and I truly am...but more excited about starting DRing!! I can't wait to get this cycle going....I will say 'prayers' for everyone at the temples.

I'll be back end of Jan!

Big hugs, Traci

[Eminde]

Just wanted to wish you a lovely holiday Tracii. Sounds like just what you need before your next tmt. Enjoy it!!

Eminde xx

[Macca8]

Traci,

Thanks for your kind thoughts and wishes. Have a lovely holiday.

Lisa x (Macca8)

[pauline69]

Hi Everyone

Tracii - have a great time in India.

Daly, what does the acupuncturist do just before/after transfer? I haven't booked that far ahead yet, as my ET won't be until mid March but am curious.

I had acupuncture today and he asked me now was I feeling generally and I said 'fear' & then started crying. I could cry at the drop of a hat and that is before I start. I'm trying to be positive but finding it very hard. My meds will be arriving on Friday and I start downregging on 31st Jan so will be in even worse mood I imagine.

My DH (not so much of the D at the moment though) is in one of his moods (generally silent treatment) - does anyone else get this & how do you handle it, as at the moment I could do without it. I feel like killing him! I do tell him though that I want to have a child so that I can have one that will actually grow up!

Also, my friend had twins (following Clomid treatment) before Christmas but the little boy just had open-heart surgery at the weekend, so I'm also worried about him.

Stress seems to be part of my life at the moment, but I'm going to Ireland on 8th Feb for a week to see my younger sister who had a baby boy on 9th Jan and I'm very excited at seeing them both and hope it will lift my spirits a bit but have already warned her that I may be a wreck but for her to bear with me.

I'm sorry girls, but I'm very low at the moment and can't seem to snap out of it.

Thanks for listening & I'll try to absorb some of the PMA you guys keep sending out.

Pauline xx

[Eminde]

Poor you Pauline - it's so horrible when you feel like that, isn't it? It doesn't help that your (D)H is being a bit off. Maybe you could organise a nice surprise for him this weekend (a nice meal out, or at home, a trip out, etc). I've found this always works with my DH. They are not exptecting this reaction to their little moods so hopefully he will snap out of it!! (And they say women are moody...!!)

Look forward to your holiday - I'm sure you will get some very positive vibes as well from being with your sister and her baby. And look forward to your next tmt: not long now!! Being away will help the time go quickly too.

Lots of PMA to you, and anyone else who's currently feeling a bit low.

Eminde xxx

[sue e]

Thanks for your kind thought Tracii, i hope you have a fab holiday.

keep up the PMA, you will get there

love

sue e xx

[Kate21]

Hi girls

Allison, Daly and Tracii - thanx for your kind words they really helped! I agree with what you all said. I just get so frustrated sometimes....however, I am now back in the land of the happy people so its all systems go!!!

Pauline - the silent tmt is always fun!! Perhaps its his way of dealing with things? I generally let my DH work it out of his system, I go and see friends or laugh at him and take the mickey. That generally works, he eventually can't help laughing and before he knows it the silent tmt is forgotten!!

Donna - hope you're feeling better?

Hugs to everyone
Kate

[pauline69]

Hi Eminde/Kate

Thanks for your words. It helps to know that the silent treatment seems to be a general man thing.

It seems the silent treatment has come to an end so am feeling more positive today, could still kill him though!

My meds arrive tomorrow and then one week later I start downregging so my turn to be moody - can't wait

Hope everyone is ok today.

Wishing for PMA for everyone and hope the follie fairy is working her magic on everyone. Baby dust to all.

Pauline xx

[fulloffaith]

Pauline,

Sorry to hear about your DH!! I hate when they act like that. I always ask mine if he is on his period! Cuz that's what he acts like sometimes!
But lately, thankfully, mine has been behaving.

My mother-in-law came up with the sweetest idea that made me cry! She said she got with her co-workers and they decided to donate items, have a garage sale and all the proceeds be given to us for our "Baby Fund"! I couldn't believe it!
We have saved up the money for our FET in March but if it doesn't work and we have to try again or decide to go another route like adoption, we'll have some money to work with. We are young and took us a year to save for the initial IVF. Our savings acct. is depleted! I thought that was so sweet and giving for people I don't even know to do that. I told my co-workers and now they have all been gathering up stuff to give too. It's kinda taken on a life of it's own. There are really alot of good people out in the world - you just never hear about them anymore. I am so blessed with great family and friends - just wanted to share what's been going on with our IVF roller coaster lately!

Hi to all my Feb/March buds!!
Allison

[Jen1d]

Hi girls

Just wanted to say hi and keep the PMA up.

AF has been and gone and next one is due at the start of Feb then 21 days later the medi will begin again.
Healthy eating is coming on well and have lost 6lbs so far. The green tea is ok but Starbucks is looking more inviting each day.

Will catch up with all my Feb, March buddies soon

Love Jen x

[MLG]

Hi Ladies
All went well at clinic – I’m giving it another go in March!!!!!
As soon as AF arrives (hopefully in a week or so) I’ll be on the pill. Stop on the 23rd February, and day after next AF arrives will be starting tmt with down-regging!
Now I have dates to look forward to.
Got to hurry up with the exercise and diet to be at fit as possible till then!


Love and PMA to all,
xxxxx

[jodic]

hi everyone, tomorrow im going in for hysterosalpingogram test and im nervous. please wish me luck thanks

jodi

[Stacy Marie]

Hi All,
I was wondering how long you need to wait between IVF attempts? My first attempt failed and I am ready to try again. I feel like time is running out!!! I am a kdg. teacher and it is hard to have students whose parents are my age. I am tired of being asked if I have any children because it makes me want to cry! I have a follow-up apt. with my doc at the end of the month. All of the waiting makes me crazy!!!

I love all of the cute grapics