shocked at how rude some ppl can be

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angelaezra
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Re: shocked at how rude some ppl can be

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purpleFish wrote:I thought I would add my story of how insane people can be.

I was at my husband's sister's wedding and was 5 months pregnant with my twins (from an IUI). I was open about our fertility struggles with our immediate family. Apparently my mother-in-law had told all her relatives that we had done fertility treatments , I think she was just so excited we were finally pregnant and wanted everyone to understand what a miracle it was. I had one of my husband's extended relatives (great aunt-in-law), tell me that I didn't deserve these children and that if God had meant for me to have children I would have and that they were going to be evil devil children (I kid you not). I don't understand why some people have to be so mean and judgmental, if they only knew the pain of not being able to conceive naturally.

Now I already had a set of twins and we wanted to add one more to our family, I only told 3 people all of them close friends and 2 of them thought I was insane for going through IVF for a third baby. What frustrates me is that if I were able to conceive naturally no one would think twice about how many children I wanted to have. I also had joined another ivf cycle group before I found this one, and I wasn't welcomed because I already had children, I thought of all people other ivf'ers would have understood.
That is crazy! I just can't believe people have the nerve to say such things!!! Well, we are happy for you ...

Congratulations!

Angela
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1 miscarriage 2002 (nat)
1 ectopic pregnancy 2006 (nat)
1st IVF 10/08-BFP twins/misc-6 1/2 wks & stillbirth 21 wks
2nd FET 6/09-BFN
3rd IVF 2010-April-BFP - DD born 12/7/10

Lost Ashley Nicole Thomas at 21 weeks
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