hally09 wrote:
Hi Vikky! My congratulations to you and your dh! I'm so glad you joined us! I really wanted to talk to someone who used donor eggs. I'm so relieved to hear that I'm not the only one who was uncertain about the procedure. Now my husband is fully on board. He thinks that it is perfect option for us. This's so true that it's much easier for men to accept the idea of having a baby from a donor. I'm reading your post and I recognize my thoughts! Even now when I feel more confident in the procedure I still build up scenarios in my head. I'm really happy for you! I'm so relieved to know that your thoughts and feelings changed now when you’re pregnant. May I ask you some questions about your journey? How did you find your clinic? What should we pay attention to? How much tries of ivf did you have? It would be nice if you share some information and advices!
Thank you for your kind words! I'm happy my experience can help. I know exactly what you are talking about! When I was at the beginning of my journey and I was looking for information, successful stories really helped me to find answers. Not only they were useful for my own journey but also they helped me mentally. When I was reading them I was feeling like there are women who understand me and I'm not alone. Of course I could talk with my husband but he will never understand what exactly is on my mind and in my heart. I think men look at this procedure in a completely different way. In no way they can feel what we feel and how we think about using eggs of a donor. That's why such communities are the perfect places to talk about your feelings and emotions. Only here we can be ourselves and tell everything what is on our mind. Yes now I feel differently toward my baby but I still remember how I felt before. It is very important to find someone who can relate to your situation and help you to find the best way out.
My journey started in European clinic. I'm really glad we chose to go abroad. Not only we saved some money for our child, but also the clinic made everything for us to enjoy the process. There are many clinics of reproductive medicine there, but ours is working with foreign patients. Be careful and pay attention to every single detail during your search. There are many fake agencies and scammers out there who make money on such people as we are. Pay attention to reviews of a clinic you have a preference for. There’s nothing like finding out what others say about a clinic. I can advise you to find how clinics choose donors for their programs. Which diseases are they screened for? These are all very important questions because you want to be sure that your donor is free from any infectious or genetic diseases. Don't forget to find out if there are any hidden costs. Sometimes the headline price for treatment seems good value. But once you read further you find that certain tests are excluded or essential procedures are extra. For example, some clinics may not include embryo freezing in their price for treatment. A good idea is to have a set of criteria which you can use to compare one clinic with another. I had 2 tries in general. I've got pregnant from the first one. Our clinic has high success rates. It was a major factor which convinced us to choose it.
hally09 wrote:
Hello Jess! I'm so sorry you faced such diagnosis in such a young age. You are right! The only thing, which stops women from using donor eggs, is understanding that their baby will be not related to them. I should say thinking about this was driving me crazy. When I read about women experience and how they are happy after using donor egg I feel more confident in this procedure. They say they don't feel their baby is from a donor or something like that. And this is the most important to feel that baby is yours and only yours.
Thank you so much for sharing this research with us! I've never heard about it. I think this research changes everything! It will help women like us to forget about all doubts for sure! Do you have a link for the research you’ve mentioned? I would like to read more about it. I'm really grateful for your reply because you made me to look at the whole procedure even more positively!
How is your search going? Do you know in which country you will have de ivf? I'm still in search though I decided to concentrate on European clinics. I should say I am nervous a bit. I will turn 45 a very soon. As you might know all countries have their own age limits for the procedure. For me it's much harder to find suitable clinic. Still there are some options so I will dig more to find the best one. I wish you best of luck! It would be really nice if you continue to share updates of your search.
Thank you for support! I'm currently looking for information on different countries and their clinic. I want to compare success rates, prices and services. So then it will be easier to choose. I'm not sure yet but we are also looking more into Europe. Clinics there have lower prices. The thing is that reviews are so controversial... I think we need more time to pick the right one. I will definitely keep posting! I wish you good luck with your search.
Vikky wrote:
I believe this information will definitely help many women here to mentally accept the idea of using eggs of a donor. I think that such communities really help to go through infertility struggles. No one can understand us batter then women who faced problems in trying to conceive. I'm glad that my experience can help someone in their journey. I will keep posting! And if you have any questions please feel free to ask. I'm always ready to talk and help. I will share more information and answer your questions in your thread. I wish you best of luck with your search and of course good luck with your upcoming procedure!
I also have hope that this research will be spreading more on forums. So other girls could see it, which make the whole de situation easier for them to accept. I'm so happy I came here! I receive so much support. Here I found information which is so helpful in my search. And of course people here are so kind and supportive! All of you give me strength and hope.
Thank you for support! I'm currently looking for information on different countries and their clinic. I want to compare success rates, prices and services.
I will have no hesitation in recommending https://www.eggdonationfriends.com They list IVF clinics around the world offering IVF DE along with prices, success rates, reviews and treatment options. Hope this helps
I did this procedure In Ukraine. There are such surrogacy and IVF agencies as Biotexcom, Isida, Babyboom. When I was choosing to go for Surrogacy, I decided to visit Kiev first and to see all clinics. So we came, talked to all of them. Finally, we agreed to work with babyboom.
I don't see anything bad in de ivf. On the contrary, it's a very helpful procedure for couples, who can't conceive naturally. My good friend had de ivf in European clinic. It was her only chance to have a baby. She had 4 miscarriages and a couple of failed ivf with her own eggs. It was hard for her to believe in success of next procedures. There was only de ivf left. It was her final and only one way out of this vicious circle of infertility. First cycle of de ivf was successful and now she has a wonderful boy. I've never seen her happier than now!
