here am I at the other side

[Juliana]

hi girls,
Oh, how I agonised over my working trip! finally I took my decison today, thank you so much for helping me with all the pros and cons! I talked to my consultant and he said I was ok to fly but he was concerned about an ectopic which is too early to rule out, also he thought i was planning a holiday. in fact i had a tough working trip planned, interesting but almost inevitably long hours, smoky rooms, demanding of my energy. (Would have been the perfect distraction if things had gone differently - now you know i have something of the workaholic in me). I was so scared how i would cope in the end i just decided i could not risk it, could not risk having a m/c somewhre there in the middle of meetings, i hope it never happens anyway but it would be a bit worse out there. told them this morning absolutely mortified as i felt it was unprofessional and was putting them in a messy situation but they have been quite good about it even if i dumped them with a problem. so now i am rambling out of sheer relief of simply having taken the decision. so many sleepless nights for such a small thing!
19 more days to go to the scan! God that's long. don't know how i will make it till then! but you all did so i guess i will just hang in there.
love and thanks to you all,
juliana

[helenlouise]

Well done for being strong and deciding not to go. I too would have made that decision, otherwise the whole trip would have been a worry about every twinge and feeling. Hope the time to scan passes quickly.

helen

[Dagny]

Well done girl

It just isn't worth the stress and the worry. I know if you have a demanding job your loyalties are divided but you have something so much more important in your tummy. You must look after yourself and your precious cargo. I am glad you have decided not to go. You would never forgive yourself if anything happened.

Love Dagny xx

[alisonn]

juliana, i think u have def made the right decision, the prob is
u are a caring person and u knew if u canceled the trip u would
be letting everyone down, well im afraid thats life, the most
important thing at the moment is u and that baby, at least u
sound a lot happy having made that decision , just dont go
and overdo it at work just to make up for canceling the trip and feeling
guilty, this is the most important time to take it easy.
just keep ticking those days off till the scan.
alison xx

[Nikola]

Juliana

I'm glad you have decided not to go too! I think it would have been too risky and at the end of the day work is just not worth it!!!! Remember we work to live not the other way round.....

You just take things easy, put your feet up, relax, keep drinking the fluids and counting the days......the scan will soon be here!!!!

love nikola.xx

[Tracey S]

I totally agree with Nik - don't tell her!
You must never have regrets in life and always feel you have made the right decision if possible at the time.
Well done you
Love
Tracey
xxx

[vickib]

Welcome Juliana


I ditto the girls you will always have worries. I think the wait for the first scan is like the 2ww, as hard as it maybe try to stay relaxed and don't analysis your symptons too much. I did not feel tired or sick until I was about 8 weeks.

Regarding flying talk to your consultant and follow your gut feelings.

Best wishes

Vicki
15wks 2days