i just wanted to let you know that youare in my thoughts and prayers
becky
Heavy painful bleeding
Hi Jools,
I know what you're going through as it's happened to me twice. Of course there's always hope, but at anything below 6 weeks a scan doesn't help because nothing shows up yet. The blood test is what will tell you if you're pg at this stage - if it's negative, it's probably game over. I'm sorry to be blunt - pls don't think I'm unfeeling, and of course I may be wrong and I hope I am. Bleeding alone probably doesn't tell you anything. But if the b/t is -ve, then that really is probably it. I am really sorry for what's happened to you - I do know how you feel, as I said I've been through it twice. I hope I'm wrong. I also hope you manage to find some better doctors and nurses coz it sounds like the ones you have should really be in a different job. I'm also really sorry you haven't had more support from them, coz that's really important in getting through all this.
Jaye.
I know what you're going through as it's happened to me twice. Of course there's always hope, but at anything below 6 weeks a scan doesn't help because nothing shows up yet. The blood test is what will tell you if you're pg at this stage - if it's negative, it's probably game over. I'm sorry to be blunt - pls don't think I'm unfeeling, and of course I may be wrong and I hope I am. Bleeding alone probably doesn't tell you anything. But if the b/t is -ve, then that really is probably it. I am really sorry for what's happened to you - I do know how you feel, as I said I've been through it twice. I hope I'm wrong. I also hope you manage to find some better doctors and nurses coz it sounds like the ones you have should really be in a different job. I'm also really sorry you haven't had more support from them, coz that's really important in getting through all this.
Jaye.
me 34, dh 36
TTC 3 yrs, lap oct 02, 'unexplained'
3 x IUIs 2003, all -ve
IVF 4/04 & 8/04, both early m/c. 11/04 -ve
So much in life to be grateful for.
TTC 3 yrs, lap oct 02, 'unexplained'
3 x IUIs 2003, all -ve
IVF 4/04 & 8/04, both early m/c. 11/04 -ve
So much in life to be grateful for.
Sorry Jools, I think I was too negative in that post - don't forget that any pg is a great sign for the future - this was your first try, wasn't it? I know it is a terrible thing you may have to face, but try and remember it is a REALLY good sign compared to nothing, especially on your first try - it's not much comfort, I know.
Jaye.
Jaye.
me 34, dh 36
TTC 3 yrs, lap oct 02, 'unexplained'
3 x IUIs 2003, all -ve
IVF 4/04 & 8/04, both early m/c. 11/04 -ve
So much in life to be grateful for.
TTC 3 yrs, lap oct 02, 'unexplained'
3 x IUIs 2003, all -ve
IVF 4/04 & 8/04, both early m/c. 11/04 -ve
So much in life to be grateful for.
Jools
I haven't been on for a couple of days and I am so sorry that you've gone through this. I miscarried at 6 weeks after really heavy clot bleeding but with no pain. I agree with Jaye that the blood count is the definitive answer. I was scanned on my day of bleeding, the friday, and a pregnancy sack was still there and my blood count was high but when I was scanned on the Monday there was nothing there and my blood count had dropped.
I am so sorry, I know how hard it is to go through this but as Jane said getting pregnant in the first place is such a good thing. It gave me back my hope and has kept me going through all of this.
My thoughts are with you and your dh.
Love Wendy
I haven't been on for a couple of days and I am so sorry that you've gone through this. I miscarried at 6 weeks after really heavy clot bleeding but with no pain. I agree with Jaye that the blood count is the definitive answer. I was scanned on my day of bleeding, the friday, and a pregnancy sack was still there and my blood count was high but when I was scanned on the Monday there was nothing there and my blood count had dropped.
I am so sorry, I know how hard it is to go through this but as Jane said getting pregnant in the first place is such a good thing. It gave me back my hope and has kept me going through all of this.
My thoughts are with you and your dh.
Love Wendy
TTC 7yrs, Me 35 (severe endo) DH 36
IVF nov06 8th time lucky BFP! - 1 baby boy
FET Aug o8 - BFN
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IVF nov06 8th time lucky BFP! - 1 baby boy
FET Aug o8 - BFN
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Jools
I haven't been on the boards for 2-3 weeks and I'm heartbroken to read this latest post. I can totally empathise with you re going into work. I've never got as far as you, but even after just a BFN I couldn't face anybody. Give yourself some time out. Sod work. It'll still be there when you feel up to it.
Thinking of you
Sandra x
I haven't been on the boards for 2-3 weeks and I'm heartbroken to read this latest post. I can totally empathise with you re going into work. I've never got as far as you, but even after just a BFN I couldn't face anybody. Give yourself some time out. Sod work. It'll still be there when you feel up to it.
Thinking of you
Sandra x
Me 41 yrs old - dh 49 yrs old. ttc 110 yrs.
1st cycle (ICSI)....Mar 04 -ve.
2nd cycle (ICSI)....Aug 04 -ve.
3rd cycle FET........May 05 -ve.
4th cycle (ICSI) ... Feb 06 -ve
5th cycle FET ..... Feb/Mar 11
1st cycle (ICSI)....Mar 04 -ve.
2nd cycle (ICSI)....Aug 04 -ve.
3rd cycle FET........May 05 -ve.
4th cycle (ICSI) ... Feb 06 -ve
5th cycle FET ..... Feb/Mar 11
Jools,
I've just read the thread after a few days without my computer. I was devastated to hear your news. This road can be so difficult. I know nothing anyone can say will help, but please do take some time out and take care of yourself - definately don't worry about work at all.
It is a great sign that you've gotten this far on the first attempt, though, and definately bodes well for any future attempts. You might want to take some serious time away from it all, or you may find that you want to try again right away. Everyone is different. For now, I'll be thinking of you and hoping you recover well emotionally and physically.
Alicia
I've just read the thread after a few days without my computer. I was devastated to hear your news. This road can be so difficult. I know nothing anyone can say will help, but please do take some time out and take care of yourself - definately don't worry about work at all.
It is a great sign that you've gotten this far on the first attempt, though, and definately bodes well for any future attempts. You might want to take some serious time away from it all, or you may find that you want to try again right away. Everyone is different. For now, I'll be thinking of you and hoping you recover well emotionally and physically.
Alicia